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3 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
Sex and STD's
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
2 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
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I don't want my mom to wear a bikini on holiday, its so embarassing!
Q. Having some trouble with my mom. What should I do? My mom, my younger brother and I will be going to Hawaii soon. I'm 15 years old. I'm all excited about going to Hawaii but I'm not happy with my mom buying a two piece bikini. She's in her early 40...
A. 9 May 2012: Your lucky your mum is even going to wear a bikini... I had to go through my mum walking around topless on holiday when I was around 13/14!!... (read in full...)
Is this moving along too fast? Should I be setting a different pace in this new relationship?
Q. So I don't really have a problem but just wanted to ask something. well basically i've been going out with a guy for about a month and a half and its all going well. but this is my first proper boyfriend and I'm worried if I'm taking it at the righ...
A. 6 September 2011: I think that the "is it too soon" question is always difficult to answer as it's completely different for every individual and depends on the 2 people involved. Some may think it's too soon, others will say it's fine.
What's most important is that... (read in full...)
What's your experience with the birth control patch?
Q. Hi all well the other day i heard my aunt taking about birth control patch can anyone tells me about it? did you try it yourself? ...
A. 19 August 2011: It could be yes. The very first pill I was ever on made me feel extremely sick. Not everyone gets along with hormonal contraception so until you try you won't know if your body gets along with it or not.
With the pill a lot of people often have... (read in full...)
What's your experience with the birth control patch?
Q. Hi all well the other day i heard my aunt taking about birth control patch can anyone tells me about it? did you try it yourself? ...
A. 16 August 2011: Hey there. I was on the patch for a few months before i got pregnant (I wasn't actually using it when i got pregnant) and I am planning on going back on it in the future.
The patch works the same way as the pill except that you stick a plaster ... (read in full...)
Every time I go on a diet I end up putting back on every single pound
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question or anything, but I could do with some help? I'm 20 years old and having some insecurities with myself. I'm 5ft 4 and 10st, a UK 12-14 and hate it. My breasts are a size 34G and and cause me constant pain...
A. 30 June 2011: Ouch, 34G, no wonder you get pains in your back... At 34F i'm not too far off so i can imagine how you must be feeling. First off (you probably know this anyway) it's important that you wear a proper fitting bra. I used to go to La Senza for my ... (read in full...)
The pill and gaining weight?
Q. Hi, I've been thinking carefully about going on the Pill for a while now and think it's the right thing to do. My only worry is that it'll make me gain weight (vanity I know!) What have your experiences with the Pill been like? I really don't want ...
A. 5 June 2011: Well, it's not the pill itself that makes you gain weight. It's the change of hormones in your body that may make you more hungry and therefore gain weight.
The only way to know whether it works for you or not is to try it. It may also take try... (read in full...)
Do irregular periods mean you won't be fertile?
Q. Question for the girls mainly: Hello. I am a 22 year old woman. I started my periods a lot later than everyone else, and they were very irregular - once every two months for a while, then once ever 6 months. I have had an internal test and there we...
A. 8 May 2011: No, having irregular periods doesn't necessarily mean that you won't be able to conceive, it can just mean that it might be harder as it'll be hard to tell when you're most fertile.
I suggest that in the future when you eventually do want to try ... (read in full...)
Why did the doctor ask me if I'm in a relationship? I can't see the relevance
Q. i'v just been to see my doctor i'v got a sore throat. So what relevance was there to his question to me, asking if i'm in a relationship? why did he ask me if i'm in a relationship? How was that appropriate?...
A. 3 May 2011: Hmm, maybe he wanted to make sure that it was nothing related oral sex or anything like that?
Beats me - I've never been asked that before and i've been to the doctors about a sore throat plenty of times.... (read in full...)
Does it really hurt that much to have sex the 1st time?
Q. My mom told me this "since you are now 14 and have a boyfriend I want you to be more careful with your actions. Don't do it it with him. It hurts to have sex for the first time and it hurts even worse to have a baby" is that true??? Does it rea...
A. 3 May 2011: For most women it's true, yes. The reason it hurts the first time is because your hymen is being broken.
No one can tell you for sure how much it will hurt as it is different for everyone and for some it may not hurt at all as the hymen can be brok... (read in full...)
Why do these people have a problem with how little I drink?
Q. I'd like some opinions on this. Do you think there is anything wrong with not wanting to drink a lot of alcohol? There are a few people i know who have made comments on me either not drinking a lot of alcohol when i have been out, or not drinking ...
A. 3 April 2011: .... And this is the reason why I don't have many friends anymore, because all they can think about is going to pubs and clubs and getting drunk...
Don't worry, there's plenty of people like you out there. At 19 I don't really go out much, and when... (read in full...)
How can I conceal these stretch marks before prom?
Q. Hi! :) Ok I feel really paranoid because my prom is in 2 weeks and I have stretch marks on my legs, the thing is, I'm wearing a knee length dress because I'm not actually overweight, (size 8/10) so I have no idea why I have these stretchmarks and...
A. 8 December 2010: Only thing i could think of is either trying to use a lil make up to cover it up or wear tights. ... (read in full...)
I may be infertile! What can I do??
Q. I think I may be infertile. My periods have never had a pattern. Sometimes they are on time, Others they don't come atall. 4 months I went without a period at one stage. And I definately was not pregnant. Others it comes 2 often like once a ...
A. 5 December 2010: I know you say you don't want to go the doctors, but that's the only way you'll know for sure if you can have kids or not.
To me it sounds like you may have a hormone imbalance, which, if i'm not mistaken, is the most common cause for irregular peri... (read in full...)
How long were you in a relationship as a teen before losing virginity?
Q. I'm 16, and i have a lovely boyfriend. he treats me right and im really happy, but it's only been a month. i want to know if you lost your virginity at my age, how long were you in a relationship for?...
A. 21 November 2010: I don't think it matters so much how long you've been together. What's important is that you feel ready and that at the time it feels right.
But to answer you question... I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend who I met over the inte... (read in full...)
I had to be with family on our 1 year anniversary and girlfriend is mad
Q. Hello everyone. Thanks for checking out my question. I really appreciate it. Well firstly, my girlfriend is mad and disappointed at me. And I know it's my fault. So here's the situation. Couple of days ago, it was our 1 year anniversary. I made...
A. 20 November 2010: Ok, I can understand she's disappointed but both of you knew that this would happen so she had time to prepare herself for it.
I think she's taking it too far. 200 pages of why you want to be with her? Come on, that's ridiculous. Talk to her abou... (read in full...)
Can't find a job. Advice anyone?
Q. This probably isn't the right place to ask as this isn't relationship related at all, but I thought maybe some of you could give me some advice. I finished college in July and moved in with my boyfriend over a month ago. The whole time while I ...
A. 19 November 2010: I got a call from the nursery yesterday, I can start on my apprenticeship on monday :)... (read in full...)
Would it be possible for us to keep the baby at our age?
Q. My best friend and I were in his room messing around and we ended up "doing it", this was both of our first times and I didn't really want to but we did. Really stupid of me!!He didn't think that I'd get pregnant cuz I was on birth control but I ...
A. 19 November 2010: First I'd say talk to your parents about and see what they think about this. There are teenagers out there who've had kids at your age and have kept the baby but it's their parents who do most of the work.
I'd also say give the baby up for adop... (read in full...)
This problem is making me too scared and embarrassed to have sex. Is it normal?
Q. HELP! I am so embarrassed... Sometimes when my boyfriend and I make love, (its usually whilst in doggy-style position) He kinda packs me full of air. I can feel it when it happens, and tell him to stop. Then after, It has to come out somehow,...
A. 18 November 2010: It's completely normal. There have been a lot of questions here on this before.
Chances are that when he pushes the air in he pulls out too far, this is the most common reason for this happening. Talk to him about it and tell him to try and not pull... (read in full...)
Can the depo shot stop your period right from the first time you take it?
Q. So, just got my depo shot on the firtst (first time ever). And I still made the mistake of having sex before my week was up (3 days before). My period was supposed to come around this week and hasn't shown. Needless to say, I miss Aunt Flo and am ...
A. 18 November 2010: I don't know the exact effects it has on your body and how long it takes to work as I've never had it, but I've not heard the best storied about it... I know 5 people who have been on it, all of them had a constant period while on it. I'd suggest ... (read in full...)
I don't really love him, but my kids want us together!
Q. I don't know if this marriage is worth saving. I've been married for ten years. We have three children (8, 4, and 1). My husband and I haven't had sex in two years because he is impotent. I still give him hand jobs and oral sex, but I have never ...
A. 16 November 2010: Don't stay with him for your kids. Yes it will be hard for your children if you split up but it wouldn't be fair towards you to be with someone you are not happy with. They'll be upset but when they're older they'll realise that it wouldn't have ... (read in full...)
Anyone else worried about schools' sex education??
Q. I am very worried about teens sex education. I am from the UK and our sex education is very good. Girls only get pregnant because they want to or because contraception fails or they are just too stupid to use contraception. Some of the questions ...
A. 15 November 2010: I don't know what school you went to but sex education here in the UK is anything but good. In the whole of secondary school we only had one lesson on it and it really wasn't a very good one.
But yeah, you're right, sex education does need to be t... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I'm cheating because during sex I queef alot!
Q. hi i am having problems between me and my husband he thinks i am cheating which i aint but my vagina farts like just about every time we have sex i have been with him for four and half years and one partner before him but he had problems getting it ...
A. 14 November 2010: It's completely normal, most people get it. It's just air that gets trapped inside. I get it all the time and me and my boyfriend just laugh about. ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with women and high heels??
Q. I really wanna know the answer to this question especially from females - Do you females really like wearing sexy high heeled shoes or do you do it only for attention. I have heard of shoe fetish but I dont know how far it is true. Does it also have ...
A. 14 November 2010: I think it's different for every girl. Some wear heels because they want to be taller, others only do it to look good.
Personally I'm not a huge fan of heels myself, good thing too, it actually hurts my ankles if I wear heels. So far I've only worn... (read in full...)
Can't find a job. Advice anyone?
Q. This probably isn't the right place to ask as this isn't relationship related at all, but I thought maybe some of you could give me some advice. I finished college in July and moved in with my boyfriend over a month ago. The whole time while I ...
A. 9 November 2010: Just to let you guys know, I'm pretty sure that I've got a job... well apprenticeship. I had my interview on friday, was asked to come in for a trial day today which went really well and they want me to come in as a trial for the rest of the week.... (read in full...)
I'm a tomboy but realized how much appearance can influence someone's impression of you!
Q. Hey guys, first of all I would like to thank each and everyone of you in advance for your help. Second, I apologize for my grammar as english is not my native language. Well, here it goes. I've always been the "tomboy" I wouldn't take it to the extr...
A. 7 November 2010: I know loads of girls just like you and they've never found a problem with the way they dress - and yes some do have boyfriends. I'm not 100% sure but I think that a couple of them even have kids now.
I'm not much into fashion and only wear thin... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me?? Am I weird?
Q. I've been going out with this guy.. hes soo sweet.. he thinks I am the girl for him, he says he loves me and i know he does:) we've had sex twice now and it was amazing.. i seem to be always horny and seem to be missing him all the time:( th...
A. 3 November 2010: Sounds like you may be in love or at least have very strong feelings for him and are very attracted to him.
There isn't anything wrong with you, but being in love or having strong feelings for someone can make us feel things we've never felt befo... (read in full...)
For the girls: Would you dump your boyfriend if you found out he was a 25 year old virgin?
Q. This question mainly applies to women but I was wondering if you would dump your boyfriend if he told you one day that he was a virgin and that he was over the age of 25 (I'm 23 but considering the worst case scenario for me). I could have lost it ...
A. 3 November 2010: I wouldn't, no. If anything i'd find it great that you've waited for the right person. ... (read in full...)
I've been cheated on so many times and now I've done it!
Q. Hi i'm 15 and i've been in a relationship with my bf for 3 months exactly. I love him very much. We were friends for almost a year before we started dating. About a week into our relationship he almost cheated on me and when I found out I almost ...
A. 27 October 2010: I think you should break it off with your boyfriend because he doesn't deserve to be treated this way.
If you do break it off with him, I'd say wait another 2 or 3 years before you start dating again, you'll be surprised how much you'll grow up i... (read in full...)
Am I masturbating correctly? Please help!
Q. Hi, I've never used this site before but I just wanted to know if I'm masturbating correctly. I am a virgin and when I masturbate I usually just play with my clit which gives me a really good feeling which I assume is an orgasm. The thing is when ...
A. 24 October 2010: It probably gets sore because you're either being too rough on yourself or because you get sensitive there after you've already orgasmed.
Your fingers won't go in unless your wet enough. Try getting some lube, it should help you to actually use ... (read in full...)
I cannot orgasm through sex alone... Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I cannot orgasm through sex, I have never done it. Is there something wrong with me or have I not met the right person yet?...
A. 24 October 2010: Welcome to the club... There is nothing wrong with you. Most women can't actually orgasm through sex alone. For some it takes years before they can orgasm, for some it will never happen. ... (read in full...)
I'd like some advice on clothes to wear to a bar.
Q. I'd like some advice on clothes to wear to a bar. Do you think it would be ok to wear a small black top, black or white jeggings , knee high boots ( i have a black pair and a grey pair ) , and either a bolero jacket or a dressy coat ?. Both of those ...
A. 22 October 2010: I would go with black leggings or jeggings, both are pretty much the same - black because they're less likely to be see through... The boots are fine, either colour will work if you're wearing black leggings. As for the top, personally I don't ... (read in full...)
Weird family!!! Help!
Q. Dear Dearcupid I have been a bit down lately, my dad slept with my auntie, and the worst thing is my mom is fine with it, and even encourages it however, it has become a living nightmare as now at supper they all sit down together and I am expect...
A. 20 October 2010: Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with.
If your mum is ok with your dad sleeping with her sister, then thats their thing, but expecting you to kiss your cousin - that's a whole different story!! Don't give in to the pressure, if you do, ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy hopes... Am I doing something wrong here?
Q. Hi, I want to know... I have been trying to conceive for 4 months... I have followed the ovulation and fertility rules and still no positive, am i doing something wrong... my partner's sperm flows out sometimes... is that the reason? what am i doing ...
A. 19 October 2010: I know it can be frustrating if you're trying to get pregnant and it doesn't work.
Dont worry about it too much after 4 months, it can take up to a year before being successful, which is completely normal and nothing to worry about, if it take... (read in full...)
Can't find a job. Advice anyone?
Q. This probably isn't the right place to ask as this isn't relationship related at all, but I thought maybe some of you could give me some advice. I finished college in July and moved in with my boyfriend over a month ago. The whole time while I ...
A. 12 October 2010: I don't actually want to work in a clothes shop, the reason why I've been to all of them is because I know a lot of girls from college who work in clothes shops and none of them seemed to have a problem getting a job there. What I'm really ... (read in full...)
Can't find a job. Advice anyone?
Q. This probably isn't the right place to ask as this isn't relationship related at all, but I thought maybe some of you could give me some advice. I finished college in July and moved in with my boyfriend over a month ago. The whole time while I ...
A. 12 October 2010: Thanks for the replies so far :)
I've been to all the clothes stores in the area, but they've all either said they've already hired for christmas or don't have any jobs available.
I have signed up to several websites and also to some stores.... (read in full...)
He wants to take my virginity... and I'm scared I'll lose him if I say no.
Q. Am a 14 year old girl with a 17 year old boyfriend who wants 2 have 6 kids with me in the future. the thing is now he wants 2 break my virginity. I am still a virgin and am not ready. I dont wanna loose it. He's the best boyfriend ive ever had ...
A. 10 October 2010: If you're not ready for sex, then don't do it. If he loves you and really wants to be with you, he'll respect your decision. Don't let him pressure you into it because you'll most likely regret it afterwards.... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my mum about my period!
Q. Help. This is really weird and I don't know why I'm doing this but anyway. I'm 13 and I just started my period this afternoon. I have already had a "slight leakage" or watever so technically this is my second period. And my mum got me a box of pads ...
A. 4 October 2010: Well seeing as she's already got you a pack of pads she kind of already knows anyway. Whether you want to tell her that you've started your period "properly" now or not is up to you.
As for the tampons, don't worry, they always come with inst... (read in full...)
Is online flirting considered cheating?
Q. Is ONLINE flirting considered cheating? My boyfriend gave me his Facebook password, and I check his messages (he doesnt know) and he's always flirting with this girl, he even asked her to be his sideline girlfriend, she said no but they still ...
A. 4 October 2010: Completely agree with followtheblackrabbit!... (read in full...)
Guys, would you be reluctant to marry a virgin?
Q. I'm 16, and never had a boyfriend before... I went to an all-girls school and have just started at a mixed college. A lot of the other girls I know are sleeping around and stuff. But I don't feel like I want anything like that. Hearing about ...
A. 4 October 2010: No it's stupid, a lot of people today still want to wait till they are married before having sex.
I don't think a guy would be reluctant to marrying a virgin unless all he wants from you is sex. If someone really loves you they'll wait and resp... (read in full...)
Long distance, online relationship - will this work?
Q. ONLINE dating question Situation: met a guy on a online dating site. Super hot and educated...real busy though...seemed really into me but he lives in chicago n me cali. When we talk, he mostly talks about his work and some worthless conver...
A. 4 October 2010: Well one thing I like about this guy is that he was having a normal convo, like nothing about sex I mean. I've talked to quite a lot of guys online and although some of them were quite good to just talk to, most of them only wanted to talk about sex ... (read in full...)
I want a baby with my boyfriend, but he doesn't. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. At the beginning of the relationship I was pregnant with another mans baby, I decided to have a termination due to the circumstances in which it was conceived. Now I'm desperate to be pregnant ...
A. 3 October 2010: Oops, sorry, in the second paragraph it's supposed to say "If his answer is anything other than the last reason I stated".
Oh and it's meant to be "If his answer is the last option then things get a lot more complicated."... (read in full...)
I want a baby with my boyfriend, but he doesn't. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. At the beginning of the relationship I was pregnant with another mans baby, I decided to have a termination due to the circumstances in which it was conceived. Now I'm desperate to be pregnant ...
A. 3 October 2010: Ask him why he doesn't want a baby. It could be that he just doesn't want one yet because it's quite early on in the relationship. Depending what kind of jobs you 2 have he might also be thinking of financial issues. Or maybe he's worried that ... (read in full...)
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