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writes:HELP!I am so embarrassed... Sometimes when my boyfriend and I make love, (its usually whilst in doggy-style position) He kinda packs me full of air. I can feel it when it happens, and tell him to stop. Then after, It has to come out somehow, so it escapes out of the vagina and makes a horrible, embarrassing, long farting noise. Sometimes it escapes during sex, and this is even worse. My boyfriend and I get frustrated, because it takes him a long time to come anyway, and this problem usually occurs just as we are both really starting to enjoy the sex.When it happens, we both just go kinda quiet, its really awkward and embarrassing, and he says that he's sorry, but it just really turns him off, and he can't continue. It really ruins the moment and now i find myself scared of having sex incase it happens again. I'm mortified. I love my boyfriend and he loves me, but this (as small as it sounds) is really getting to be a big problem, I'v lost all self confidence in the bedroom. Please Help :(Is this normal?Is there anyway to prevent it?Has anybody else heard of this happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): Its called queefing or fanny farts and it happens to most women at some time or another. It can be hilarious and you really shouldnt worry about it. Its just one of those things. If your boyfriend pulls out too far, air will enter as he does if hes a bit too enthusiastic. And as you so rightly say, it has to come out again. He shouldnt be put off as its actually his actions that are making it happen in the first place. Dont let it put you off either or be embarrassed. Its ok and normal. Dont worry about it.
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 It happens to me too now and again, and usually in doggy-style as well. It's completely normal. Like you said, the air has to go somewhere and the only place is out.
Try not to lose your sexual confidence. And, try to tell him not make such a big deal out of it. You could try to explain that it happens to all women and if he doesn't want it to happen he should be more careful when he is thrusting in that position. There is no way to fully prevent it though. It just happens.
Like LilPixie, my fiance and I laugh about it or just keep going. But, I do understand how it can be embarrassing. Before my fiance said it didn't bother him, I was a little embarrassed myself.
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reader, splevi +, writes (18 November 2010):
 i know what you mean, it happens with my girlfriend sometimes. the way it happens with us is when we have sex i take my penis fully out and then put it back in, this builds up the air and then comes back out the way you described. so maybe tell him to stay in if this is the case for you.. i know it is embarrasing but it is not your fault, i normally laugh about it with my girlfriend and this helps her to feel better about herself as it relieves the embarrasment, also ive never had this problem with anal sex.. hope this helps? :)
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (18 November 2010):
 It's completely normal. There have been a lot of questions here on this before.
Chances are that when he pushes the air in he pulls out too far, this is the most common reason for this happening. Talk to him about it and tell him to try and not pull out so far and see if this makes a difference to you. You could also try putting on some music if you like to block the noise out a little.
This happens to me all the time but me and my boyfriend just laugh it off.
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