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writes:I'd like some opinions on this. Do you think there is anything wrong with not wanting to drink a lot of alcohol? There are a few people i know who have made comments on me either not drinking a lot of alcohol when i have been out, or not drinking alcohol at all (i sometimes have just soft drinks, or have some alcohol and then some soft drinks). They've also made comments on how i take my time with my drinks, even making sarcastic comments saying " your drink has been there for about two hours " , or " it'll take you two hours to drink that ". It really upsets me, and i see nothing wrong with wanting to be sensible. My uncle also made comments saying how " all " young people get drunk, so it's like they're implying that i am weird because i don't drink a lot. The people who say those things do drink a lot. My uncle even told me that he and his friend didn't want me to go out with them anymore because of me not drinking a lot and taking my time with my drinks !. What hurts even more is my uncle is also my godfather (some example he is setting, huh ?). The other guys who said those things are guys i have dated. What do you think ?.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (3 April 2011):
 .... And this is the reason why I don't have many friends anymore, because all they can think about is going to pubs and clubs and getting drunk...
Don't worry, there's plenty of people like you out there. At 19 I don't really go out much, and when I do, I never have more than 2 or 3 drinks max or sometimes, like you, stick with soft drinks.
I can think of a lot of things that are way more fun than getting drunk. And if for some people their only idea of fun and being social is getting drunk, well thats kind of sad isn't it?
Like maverick already said, be happy with who you are. At the end of the day, we're saving ourselves money, emberassment and probably a lot of health problems in the future.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (3 April 2011):
Thank god for people like you. I'm 22 and I rarely drink alcohol. I also get weird comments and glances and in the past my insecurity made me lie to fit in (grew up in Europe, where the legal drinking age is 16). Right now I don't give a damn anymore.
Whenever people ask me why I drink so little alcohol, I tell them the perks of my lifestyle:
- I don't have to arrange for taxi's to bring me home
- I don't embarras potential dates by barfing allover the floor in front of them - I don't wake up feeling like I've been hit by a truck the next morning.
- I don't spend my hard earned wages in one night
Seriously, so many young people have this drinking ritual down to an artform and even though they say they hate it afterwards they keep doing it over and over again. Who's the weird and crazy one now?
If your uncle wants to act popular, well that's his problem. I think he's a little too old to tell you to fit in. Midlife crisis around the corner.
As for the guys you've dated, I suggest to look elsewhere. Bars are usually not the place to meet potential date material, well, not for me anyway. I meet them at sports and other things I pursue. Atleast then I'm sure we share atleast 1 interest.
So be happy with who you are. They say you can't have sheep without supervision (or safety in the form of a fence) because they will follow eachother off the cliff. Don't feel bad for not being a herd follower.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): hey doll!That happened to me in the states where people made fun of me cause I didnt drink. Now look at me, alcohol didnt kill my muscle mass :)... f*** those people, they are immature and even your uncle with all due respect. Oh my God, Im so sorry for that disrespect in your own family. If they are mature, theyd let u do ur own thing and youd let them do theirs, which you do. This is a huge flag that these ppl arent good friends as they are indirectly pressuring you also hurting your self esteem. I will tell you right now I admire your decision making and think its extremely wise. Let them go get hammered and wake up with bad decisions and hangovers to deal with. Youre smarter and know what is best for yourself and that is what counts. Cheers to good decision making! :)
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