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writes:Hi, I've never used this site before but I just wanted to know if I'm masturbating correctly. I am a virgin and when I masturbate I usually just play with my clit which gives me a really good feeling which I assume is an orgasm. The thing is when I've finished I carry on rubbing my clit and it feels sore to the touch and kinda hurts but I don't understand as I thought women could have multiple orgasms?Also I have tried using my fingers to finger myself but they won't go up. It sounds silly but it's like I don't have a hole there?? I'm really scared there's something wrong with me!Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): yes sounds normal to me
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reader, StraightTalker  +, writes (28 October 2010):
It's normal for the clitoris to get sesitive and painful after orgasm. Mine does too.
As for multiple orgasms? I have been sexually active/masturbating for years and am very experianced and have NEVER experienced a multiple orgasm. Dont listen when people say "women have multiple orgasms". Some women DO claim to have them and so do some men. Women are made to feel like there is something wrong with them if they cant have multiple orgasms.
There is no "correct" way to masturbate. Everyone likes different things so if it feels good then carry on :-)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 First of all you need to get yourself a mirror and take a look at yourself down there. You do have a hole. Every woman does. My guess is that your lips are so tight together you can't find it. With the help of a mirror you will be able to understand perfectly whats going on down there.
Second: it is quite common that the clitoris is sore after stimulation. It is also very sensitive right after an orgasm. Women can have multiple orgasms, but they don't happen all the time, and you shouldn't feel there is anything wrong with you if you can't have them. They're not that common, and demand that you know yourself a lot better than you do. When the clitoris is sore/extra sensitive, it can still feel good, but also a bit painful. I think it is best then to stop masturbating because it just isn't pleasurable and will be hard to come again because of the slight pain.
The best advice I can give for having multiple orgasms is to not use so much clitoral stimulation that you get sore from the rubbing (climaxing faster), and maybe add other ways of stimulating yourself at the same time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): If it feels good your doing it right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): it might sound strange but your fingers probably wont go up, because it sort of goes up on an angle, so if i was you i would just try to move in different angles and you should get there eventually
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Yeah, you're perfectly fine.
If you wait a bit, the soreness will go away, and you can continue.
Chances are you're having trouble with your fingers because of the angle. If you think about it, it's a really awkward angle to finger yourself.
You sound fine. :)
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (24 October 2010):
 It probably gets sore because you're either being too rough on yourself or because you get sensitive there after you've already orgasmed.
Your fingers won't go in unless your wet enough. Try getting some lube, it should help you to actually use your fingers, and it might also help your clit from getting sore to quick.
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