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*oftballplaya
writes:hey everyone. Recently I got back with my ex and it was a huge mistake cuz he only end up hurting me again. You see, he changes girls like he does underwear and at the time I didnt realize this until he told other girls that we never dated. Everyone of course knew he was lying because his myspace had me as his gf. Well after the breakup (Iended it with him because I was sick of waiting for him to take things seriously) a girl whom he was talking to contacted me asking me stuff about him...She said he juss wanted her for sex but he actually did love me. I dont understand why if you love someone then why would he get so distant. I ended it with him with a text message because he is in summer school and I cannot call. He never responded so I had a friend text his phone and he flipped out (prolly thinking it was me) I dunno. So basically he lied, cheated and juss fucked up completely. I'm very crushed and even tho I ended it with him I still have major feelings for him for some reason. Whats the best way to get over someone? I dont feel I messed up at all. I know this is his fault but yet I miss him and I shouldnt. What should I do about this?
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (11 July 2008):
softballplaya is verified as being by the original poster of the question new update! hes called all my best friends restricted and was saying really wierd stuff to them on their voicemail. once again im the only one who didnt get anything said to them. he called but didn leave a message. My friend sent me the message on her voicemail so i sent it to my frien asking if it was the same guy and so far they have all said yes. I dont understand why he would do this! like I let him go so whats wrong with him to do this to people who he dont even kno.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Please let us know how things go for you.Good luck.
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (11 July 2008):
softballplaya is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you everyone you advice really has helped
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Hi there,
I agree with the post sent before. I think u should spend as much time with family, friends, etc, to keep your mind off of him. At least, u are keeping yourself busy.
Also, do not look at his facebook or myspace as well.
Do not answer his phone calls as well.
And as mentioned, time is a great healer. these things take time. I know what you are going thru, and I have been through that before. It is tough hun, but you have to be strong. You will get through it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Hi.Here are some suggestions :
Keep your mobile phone in a separate room when you're at home,so you arent looking to see if he contacted you.That's if you have a mobile phone.
Get out of the house as much as you can with family,friends,e.t.c,and do things you enjoy.
If you keep intouch with him online aswell,such as myspace or facebook,avoid looking at his page.
If you feel you can do it,dont answer his calls if you know its him,or his messages.And if you pick up the phone without knowing it's him and it is,put it down straight away.
I might be able to come up with some more suggestions,but these should help you towards getting over him for now.You know what they say,time is a great healer.The less contact you have with him,the sooner you will get over him.Remember,the most important thing is to keep busy,as when you're busy with something else,you wont think about him.When you are on your own,which is when you may think about him,distract yourself by watching your favourite films,comedies help make you feel better.Listen to your favourite music,or any relaxing music.Pamper yourself.
I'm actually going through a difficult time now aswell,although my situation is different.I like someone who hasnt got over their ex,but he likes me too,so i am trying my best to do the things i suggested to you.I'm not sure yet whether i should stay in contact with him or not.
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