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writes:I am 17 and 24 weeks pregnant i am keeping my baby and was with my boyfriend for 2 years but recently he decided that he couldn't cope anymore and we are no longer together. Do you have any tips for how i can make my life easier and make sure i am fully prepared for when the baby comes????!!!!P.S I am having a girl!!!!! :) Reply to this Question
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Congratulations on your baby. Definitely stay healthy and keep active, but don't overwork yourself. Take it easy for yourself. Also, accept any help or support from others like your family. I'm sure the government may give your some money for support. Your boyfriend may not be able to do so much until the baby is born. I wish you well, good luck and take it easy.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (22 April 2008):
 Make sure you stay active as much as possible without going over the top. Don't do any stretching if it can be helped.
Get plenty of rest when you can as you will need all the rest you can get before your little girl is born so take advantage of that now as time will certainly fly once she is here believe me.
Get as much support from friends and family wherever you can and don't refuse any help as it is always helpful after the baby is born so don't be too proud OK.
Don't refuse anything that may be offered to you i.e. clothes or toys or the basics such as a cot or pram/pushchair or buggy. I always washed everything and still do today for my little girl but she is now a big 7 but children grow so fast that you can't keep them clean so having plenty of clothes around is always useful. If you can afford to stock up on nappies etc and babygrows and the all in ones without the legs that fasten under the nappy.
Your bf could well just be freaking right now so he could well be back as some guys just need to actually grow up and even if it happens after your little girl is born don't totally dismiss him, I know he has obviously hurt you right now but remember that he is your little girl's dad and as such if he decides to do the right thing by you and her and support you financially then he should have some sort of relationship with her at some point, only you can decide on that one but believe me once she is born I reckon the sheer not knowing what she looks like will most definitely kick in for him and right now he thinks that running away is the best thing all round but don't totally rule him out as men are fickle.
I know at the end of the day it is your decision whether you decide to have him back in your life in whatever capacity, i.e. your little girl's daddy or as someone that means more than that to both of you.
Just get support from everyone you can right now and don't forget to get financial support and help from whatever organisations you can in the US i.e. if you are not working then make sure they are aware your circumstances have now changed and that you have a baby to look after and support on your own. If you are working then make sure your employer is aware of your change in circumstances to so that they don't push you too hard. HOWEVER if your bf does come to his senses then also let people know to as you don't want to claim money you are entitled to as a single mum and then have it taken off you if you get back with your bf, just cover all your bases OK.
I wish you all the very best of luck and don't forget we are all here to help.
BFN
Country Woman
P.S. Your world changes when your little girl comes into this world, but it also changes for the better too, even through the sleepless nights or not as the case may be, there is nothing better in this world and always remember that one.
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