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writes:I'm a 13yr old girl and I'm still a virgin.Is this bad?I'm worried about me because my friends are already having sex with boys at 13 and 14.
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reader, Sporty_girl2391  +, writes (10 June 2013):
Well I'm 26 still a virgin. There nothing wrong that have not gotten tease for being a virgin had people say you got respect for yourself and had many great dates, but have not find what I'm looking for. My advice do not be in hurry grow up, you have whole live to have sex... I'm about graduate college then find a guy. Education is important then worrying about when good time to lose it... What im worring is about is getting a degree... People say you should wait until your ready... Good answer but what if your never ready, so I say finish your education then you meet a guy or you get married if do get pregrant that ok because you have the degree to back you up.
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reader, mimi:D +, writes (28 February 2009):
ARE YOU KIDDING ME YES :D
im sorry but the ones who have problems are your friends not you!
try 16 or 17 :D
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reader, AussieSheila +, writes (8 October 2008):
Being a virgin at 13 is a good thing. I feel singled out too because 2/20 of my friends are virgins. I am proud to be a virgin. You could contract serious STD's! Don't think that it won't happen to you. That is what one of my friends thought and she got one and is very ill from it. Do you want to end up with a possibility that you could get pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): Bloody Hell, no! It's not bad at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): im 13 and still a virgin, but i tell my friendz im not. I say this because they aren't virgins. And i feel left out???
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reader, sam234  +, writes (19 April 2008):
no its not bad being a virgin im 19 almost 20yrs and if u look at me im well sexy not to mention smart..and i've dated many guys but i dont fall for their tricks..and ting..a good guy will appreciate it...and dnt feel pressured bcaz at 20yrs all my frends have done it already...most ave babies...but im well sexy n well educated n still a virgin i've heard it all baby i love..baby everyone is doing it but nope i stand my grounds..and nope im not religious...i jus respect myself and i think my man should too...so dnt feel pressured it good ur a virgin at 14yrs and dats too young to be having sex any ways...wait for a guy who will appreciate it..jus wait for a nice guy..
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reader, meggiej +, writes (31 March 2008):
 Your the same as me, all my friends have done it (i havent even has a bf). i havnt and i am 16, i wanna though.
You shouldnt be thinkin of sex yet, you should whhen you are older.
If all of your friends are talking about it now, write it down, then when you do have sex than you can do everything they said or even better things then you can say "ha-ha" to them.
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reader, Eric999 +, writes (29 March 2008):
This really is not a bad thing. At 13 sex shouldn't be there first thing going on between you and your boyfriend. You should just be enjoying yourself with him, and if you are enjoying yourself with him without the sex then do you really want to change that. If you are single just ask yourself this, are you happy being a virgin, if so then there reallys isn't another answer. Only you can decide if you are ready or not no one else. What would happen if you were forced into having sex with some one and you ended up being pregnant. What would your parents think? At the end of the day it is your desicion and yours only, not any one elses!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): I got my first kiss at 15. I first 'hooked up' with a boy during my freshman year of college (I was 19). I had oral sex for the first time when I was 20, with my first love, who I dated for two years and am still friends with today. I had actual sex for the first time at 26, with a boy I'd dated for almost two years, who was my greatest love at that time.
I am a good looking girl from a normal part of the country; I was a cheerleader in high school, plenty popular and well-liked. I probably waited longer than most people wait to 'go all the way', but I don't regret it in the slightest, and I don't think anyone has ever judged me or thought less of me for it.
I knew people who were sexually active at ages much younger than me but no one who was sexually active before at least late high school. In retrospect, I don't know many people who don't think it's a good idea to wait until you're older.
So, no - it is definitely, unquestionably, not bad to still be a virgin at 13. Or at 15 or 17 or 19, for that matter. You just wait until you are older - until you've found someone really special and everything just fits. And then wait a couple more years if you're still in high school. You really will be glad you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): hiya...
21...still a virgin....hooorah...loool...im waiting till i get married..and i reckon ive found the guy i want to marry as well, hes sooo respectful, and treats me like a queeen, so my advice is waittttt for the right guy and when your ova 16.
i also reckon that later on in life, guys respect girls who have waited or didnt sleep around when they were younger.
love n god bless xx
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reader, rootsreggaerocknroll +, writes (28 March 2008):
its definately not bad!
there is no normal when it comes to the age you lose your virginity: the average age was 13 at my school but 19 at my BF's college! I know there can be a lot of pressure but finding the right person is worth the extra wait, seriously. stay strong, be true to yourself and remember to be safe!
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reader, rootsreggaerocknroll +, writes (28 March 2008):
its definately not bad!there is no normal when it comes to the age you lose your virginity: the average age was 13 at my school but 19 at my BF's college! I know there can be a lot of pressure but finding the right person is worth the extra wait, seriously. stay strong, be true to yourself and remember to be safe!
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reader, rootsreggaerocknroll +, writes (28 March 2008):
it's definately not bad!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): If anything it's good to still be a virgin! It's legal too! Don't ever feel you have to have sex because of peer pressure, you do it when you're ready and only when you're ready. If you wait to have sex it'll be more special and memorable for you- and that's the whole point really, it's supposed to be with someone you love!
And you're still 3 years too young for it, so hold on to your virginity for a while!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Hunny NO! I can only agree with everyone hunny, Never feel pressured ever, There is most def no race sweetheart please dont feel you have to do something just because your friends may be, I had alot of pressure put on me by so called friends and they were just trying to be big and think they were cool well its not so hunny as you dont have to have sex to be cool. Trust me wait untill you are alot older sweetheart TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND SQUISHY HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Okay, fourth time, and I hope I get it right this time.
"Just relax and don't let anyone tell you it's a good idea to have sex just because other kids are doing it."
Sorry for my really bad computer skills. ;)
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (28 March 2008):
 No it certainly is not bad to be a virgin at 13. Don't feel pressure from your peers to start a sexual relationship with anyone, at your age it is very common for teens to start boasting that they are having sex, chances are they are not. If they are it can lead to all sorts of problems as well as pregnancy. Health problems later too, please wait until at least the legal age of consent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): of course this isnt bad!first n foremost you should wait till your ready.i know your not a kid but you arent ready for all that comes with having sex i completely agree with annalisa so much seems to be being left out in the morals category.but listen im a 18 year old guy n guess what im a virgin!but i hoped i helped a little bit.good luck
-michael
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (28 March 2008):
I would think it was bad if you were sexually experienced at 13. There is also a good chance that some of your friends who claim they are having sex might not be. Kids often think that it is cool to be doing grown up things like that and do not like to feel left out or behind in some way. After all that is partly what made you ask this question in the first place.
Wait. Wait till you are old enough (at least in the eyes of the law) nd wait until you are with a guy who you really want to spend many years together and wait until you feel that it is right for you. It does not matter what anyone else says, if you are not ready inside yourself then the time is not right whether you are 18 or 28.
Just enjoy being young and do not grow up too quick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): no dont do it if you dont want 2 wait 4 the write time if you have had sex from the age of 13 bloke dont want 2 no
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): No it would be worse at your age if you were having sex!!!
Listen to the advice of the other posters, they are all giving you very good advice.
Plus if your friends are telling you that they are having sex they are more than 95% telling lies to try and impress! If you give in to easily to guys they will have no respect for you.
Respect yourself and others will respect you also :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 March 2008):
Sorry for double post, and I need to add to the last sentence, "it's a good idea to have sex just because other kids are doing it."
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reader, Nekbed  +, writes (28 March 2008):
Absolutely Normal! You're still young :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 March 2008):
Nope, it's not bad at all! Being sexually active too early can cause lots and lots of problems later. People can get sexually transmitted diseases, girls can get pregnant, and reputations can be completely ruined...
Just relax and don't let anyone tell you it's a good idea!
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (28 March 2008):
 I would say, no, it's not. If you get sexually active too early, it may be problematic. You may get stds or cause a girl to get pregnant at a very young age. Wait til you are older and in love or until you are married, but mostly, since a lot of people have sex while in a loving relationship, wait around then. I hope this helps you out. You are young, and you have plenty to time to date and meet girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): 1) Having sex at your age is not only bad, it's ILLEGAL.
2) Your friends are probably lying about having sex.
3) If your friends aren't lying about having sex, they are cheap girls. Do you want to be cheap, too?
4) If you have sex this young, you will regret it - I can promise you that.
5) The longer you hold on to your virginity, the more special it will be for you and your partner when you finally decide to have sex.
6) Are you mature enough to deal with the consequences if you get pregnant? If not, keep your legs closed.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 March 2008):
Nope, it's not bad at all! Being sexually active too early can cause lots and lots of problems later. People can get sexually transmitted diseases, girls can get pregnant, and reputations can be completely ruined...
Just relax and don't let anyone tell you it's a good idea!
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 March 2008):
 HEY!!
Babe it is realy bad for you to have to ask this!! Of course it isnt bad, it is healthy, legal, and means you respect your body!! Mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Wait 'til you're the legal age is all I can say.
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