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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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How do I let go of resentments toward boyfriend and feel closer?
Q. How do I let go of resentments toward boyfriend and feel closer? I have been dating a great guy for several months who treats me very well. Everything had been going well until I started focusing more on our incompatibilities instead of the good thi...
A. 16 February 2009: firstly- que sara sara whatever will be will be! if you dont like this guy for who he is then let go. start talking to him about how you feel and let him help! this will bring you closer, you have an emotional wall inbetween you that he is trying to ... (read in full...)
I've given up on finding love.
Q. I've given up on finding love. I feel like love is a really special thing that everyone is entitled to, however it seems that it's just not meant for me. I've become really cynical and find myself avoiding all my friends who have significant ...
A. 16 February 2009: dont give up on love! it will come to you when you least expect it, i know its a cliche but it really does happen like this! x... (read in full...)
How many of you have had to deal with homesickness during college?
Q. I think this is like two questions on one... well. I guess I just need lots of advice. I'll try to make it short. Basically, in a nutshell, I am a momma's girl and I've always felt like I needed to be near her. I'm a junior in high school and ...
A. 16 February 2009: once you get there you will meet so many people, and be so busy that home sickness wont be a problem. after a few days you will settle in, and you'll have alot of new people in you're life!! x... (read in full...)
What a guy wants...?
Q. This is a question to be answered by the fellas. It seems it is so confusing what you guys want. You all want sex and you want to sleep with a girl early on in a relationship. But, if a girl does sleep with you early on, then she is too easy and ...
A. 16 February 2009: dont have sex till it feels right, a relationship should just flow, it shouldnt be pre planned! xx... (read in full...)
I snooped - will he take me back?
Q. Just recently I snooped on my boyfriend's computer and I got caught. He never accused me or discussed it. He just came out of the computer room with this smirk on his face and started acting pissed. I asked him what's wrong and he said "I think ...
A. 16 February 2009: how would you feel if he snooped on you? reverse the situation and act how you think he wants you to act.would you want time alone? or reassurance?? we're all human, we all snoop and if he has nothing to hide then he will be open about his computer ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but have a crush on someone else...
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl who has had a crush on a guy 2 years older than me for a few months now. At the same time I still feel strongly about my boyfriend. Unfortunately I'm not sure if he feels the same anymore. If things are to die with my curr...
A. 16 February 2009: you are too young to be settling down so go with you're insticts or else you will never know! whatever happens, you are young enough to start over again and again.x... (read in full...)
I think I am loose!
Q. When I first started dating my now husband, I cheated on him. Now he has mention that I am loose. What do I do. What do I do to not be loose. Is it possible that he was just trying to be mean? I wouldn't put it past him. I have heard that girls are ...
A. 16 February 2009: you're husband is trying to be spite ful and still holds a grudge. ignore him, dont let it get to you. x... (read in full...)
Please help! How do I get her out of my head?
Q. I was seeing a girl a few months ago, and it didn't work out. It's been over four months now since we broke up, and over three months since the last time I spoke to her. We're never going to get back together or anything, in fact it's unlikely I ...
A. 15 February 2009: maybe go and see a professional for some help? otherwise i would just keep busy, or take up a ne hobby, then you will meet lots of new people! xx... (read in full...)
Is this Nyphomania? Do I need help?
Q. I am 22 yr old female and have been having sex since I was 14. I don't have enough fingers or toes to count my sex partners. I think about sex the majority of my day and have had sex with plenty of men that I did not care about or had any feelings ...
A. 15 February 2009: i would have a session with a counsellor! then you will discover why ou are this sexual. let me know how it goes! once yu know why u are like this then u will know how to stop this! x... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to approach, converse and get numbers...please help
Q. Hey guys. Im not sure where to start so ill give some background and the problems. When I was younger (8-10) I missed a couple of years of school as I had to take care of my little sister. This was due to my mum having a drink problem. This me...
A. 15 February 2009: you will know if a woman is interested from the way she speaks to you and the type of body language she uses. go into google and type in something like 'flirty body language' this will tell you everything!
approaching someone is hard maybe ap... (read in full...)
I worry I might have herpes, warts, or rash?
Q. My boyfriend and I had lots of sex this one week, and I started to get a little sore during this week. After, I went to the gyno for a checkup on my cervical dysplasia. The gyno said it was mild and took a sample of my cervix. It gave me a strange ...
A. 10 February 2009: go and get another check up!!xx... (read in full...)
Girlfriend always has to masturbate before sex!
Q. My girlfriend that I have been with for about 2 years has recently started masturbating before we have sex. I find it completely odd. This is how it usually plays out... I start doing stuff with her and getting "fresh" haha but after we start ...
A. 10 February 2009: i would talk to her about this and tell her how you feel. no offence, butshe may do it quicker or better than you. just ask her the reason why she likes doing it herself, alot of womens magazines tell women to masturbate infront of there partner as ... (read in full...)
My birthday surprise didn't exactly work out, help?!
Q. it's my birthday tomorrow, and i don't really see my boyfriend a right much anymore after a few complications, we're still the same just not always with each other like we used to be. Anyways, he told me yesterday that i could see him today but then ...
A. 10 February 2009: dont say you are sorry, you have a right to have been angry as he cancelled plans when you dont see him that much anyway! you're young, play the field abit, dont commit to this lad who obviously isnt that interested anymore (sorry for being blunt) i ... (read in full...)
My bf only wants sex when he wants it... help!
Q. My bf is 24 and I'm 20. We pretty much have sex once everyday.but lately I've been getting aggravated he says I dnt ask for it enough and I'm not aggressive enough, but everytime I ask he's either too tired or its just exucses. Also he won't let me ...
A. 10 February 2009: this is weird, you need to talk to him about it. nobody should have to be 'agressive' and he should be able to wait for you, if my boyfriend watched porn then i wouldnt be happy at all, i would take it as a personal insult, like i wasnt enough for ... (read in full...)
I feel so alone as all my friends have partners whereas I don't!
Q. I am starting to feel really alone as all of my friends (every last one of them) has a boyfriend..I have a LOT of friends too..the thing is they spend all their time with their boyfriends.I dont mind this but most of them rarely would put me first ...
A. 10 February 2009: i'm sure you'll find someone soon, if you are happy being single then meet up with other single people, join social groups so that you can escape all of the coupled up friends once in a while. if you arent happy being single then you can try speed ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him stay?
Q. Me and my boyfriend was together for 10 months now and we`re not in love anymore.He wants to leave me.What can I do to make him want to stay?...
A. 10 February 2009: you cant, if he doesnt have feelings then you will have to try and settle for being friends. there are other people out there for you, he's just not the one. xx... (read in full...)
Delayed period, what could it be?
Q. i am a 19 year old lesbian ....i have been with my girlfriend for a very long time i usually get my period two days after her is been about a month passed is till havent gotten it i dont sleep with boys so what could it be im very scared...
A. 10 February 2009: go and see a doctor, sometimes its normal but when you are regular every month then it could be a problem. xx... (read in full...)
Are we related? Could we marry?
Q. Dear Cupid I have A cousin (thats what i call him) but i dont know if we are really related. My partenal grandma had a brother the brother had a daughter. the daughter got married and had a son. this son is the cousin of mine. My question is are...
A. 9 February 2009: complicated, not diresctly related though. check with the laws specifically for your area, this can tell you more. good luck.x... (read in full...)
Best kind of venues for a first date?
Q. What are some good places to go on you first date with a guy you really like?...
A. 9 February 2009: a cafe, the cinema? depends on your interests though. hope it goes well.x... (read in full...)
Boyfriend chatting with ex on internet also with other girls
Q. my boyfriend and i have had a lot of trust problems in the past just because im extremely insecure about how hes still friends with his ex. his online site was up and i looked at it and he was privately messaging her and as i went to look he quickly ...
A. 5 February 2009: dont stand up for this at all! i would ditch him if he did this to me. he obviously has no respect for your relationship!!!!! he's the reason you are insecure, dont live like this...life is too short to be in a relationship with no trust! x keep me ... (read in full...)
I really want to go to prom, but can't go with my b/f and he doesn't want me to go!
Q. My end of year prom is coming up school and as part of the school rules we are not allowed to bring anyone who is not a student from the school to the prom. Also everyone has been paired up with someone in the class who is basically our prom date. I ...
A. 5 February 2009: no, not at all. go and have a great time. as long as you and the boy in your class are just friends then you're boyfriend is the unreasonable and selfish one. and my boyfriend is here now as i'm answering this question, he said the same thing as me. ... (read in full...)
My ex says his new girl understand him more--it hurts so much that he says that!
Q. i was in a relationship with this boy who doesnt live near me, for around half a year. i had a very busy schedule last semester and i didnt get to spend time with him. i really love him a lot. we talked about everything and we were serious about us. ...
A. 5 February 2009: i know its really hard but you cant make someone want to be in a relationship with you. show him that you can be a good friend and if this is too difficult then distance from the situation until you can be comfortable with him talking about the new ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to her without coming across that I'm hitting on her?
Q. There is a girl who I work with who I can't tell if she is interested in me. We were introduced briefly at a work function but just talked a little because it was on the way out the door. Previously to that she would smile at me when we passed each ...
A. 5 February 2009: she seems interested however if you work wth her i wouldnt advise a relationship. if your both single then theres no harm in flirting until you know for sure if she likes you. i wouldnt ask her out just yet, juat talk to her about general things, ... (read in full...)
My ex says his new girl understand him more--it hurts so much that he says that!
Q. i was in a relationship with this boy who doesnt live near me, for around half a year. i had a very busy schedule last semester and i didnt get to spend time with him. i really love him a lot. we talked about everything and we were serious about us. ...
A. 5 February 2009: could you simplify the story a tiny bit because i would love to help but i lost track, sorry. xx... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him because I won't find anyone who will treat me better?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy who I work with for nearly a year now. He tells me he loves me and would do anything for me - probably the sweetest guy I have ever met. BUT - I don't find him attractive enough. I don't really fancy him like ...
A. 5 February 2009: the stability in this relationship sounds very appealing however if you dont crave stability then you should leave!whats the point of spending time with someone who you cant see in your future? life is too short. follow your heatr and i wish you ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband understand that I need a normal family life?
Q. my husband makes me stay with his parents and family and he works at my home town i used to stay with him but now for a year i am here with my child.he visits us every weekend.i wonder why he doent understand i need a normal family life.he doesnt ...
A. 5 February 2009: talk to him and if you still arent happy then tell him that if things do not change you will be forced to leave! if he is given an ultimatum then it will shock him and hopefully he will realise that your lives need to change. good luck , keep me ... (read in full...)
Should my crush be bothered that I have a best friend who is also male?
Q. Me and a boy at school have liked eachother for months. But I have a best friend whos also male and who I hang about with in school. I have told the boy I like I dont fancy this other boy and hes my best friend. He says hes not botherd if I hang ...
A. 5 February 2009: i have a male bestfriend too, i explain to boyfriends the situation but only if they ask! at the end of the day you know that nothing is going on with you and your friend and this will shine through in the attitude you have and the differences in ... (read in full...)
My hubby cheated on me 20 years ago, how do I cope with the revelation?
Q. My husband received a christmas card from a woman he used to work with many years ago.She said she wanted to meet up with him for old times sake.When I questioned this, he admiitted that he had a fling with her 2 years into our marriage when I was ...
A. 5 February 2009: well i would be devastated but at the end of the day the past is in the past...if he hasnt done it since and he wont do it again then i think in your situation its easy to forgive. at the time i would have said leave him but after 20years i think ... (read in full...)
My daughter got pregnant with a man who is disrespectful and unkind and moved away with him. How can I feel better?
Q. Hi. I was just wondering how long it will take for my 19 year old daughter to wake up and see reality? She got pregnant with a guy who is 20, and he is very disrespectful, unkind, selfish and arrogant. He disrespected me right from the very ...
A. 5 February 2009: you have not done anything wrong, being a headstrong daughter myself i know that your daughter would know that you have done everything for her that you could do and she will soon realise that he is wrong for her. right now she probably thinks that ... (read in full...)
My g/f & I are now tiptoeing around each other so we don't argue!
Q. My girlfriend and I are having problems. It just seems like all the things we don’t like about each other have just arisen into the spotlight in the last 2 weeks. We don’t argue like cats and dogs but are instead ridden with insecurities and ...
A. 5 February 2009: everyone has problems, if talking doesnt help and you cant resolve your differences then why dont you agree to spend sometime apart? if you are apart from each other then you will concentrate on the things you miss, rather than the things you dont ... (read in full...)
My birthday and V-Day in a week and I have a cold sore!
Q. Its only a week 'til my birthday and almost valentines and i'm coming out in a coldsore, i know for some people (especially me) they are just a part of they're life and its one of them annoying pains you just have to learn to deal with, but there's ...
A. 4 February 2009: go to the chemst, anything with aciclovir in it! x... (read in full...)
How can I get my roommate out of my mind so much?
Q. I recently had a girl move into my house, she is 17 years old and still in high school. I share the house with my step brother and another roommate as well. About a week ago me and a friend got pretty drunk and came home late Friday night. My ...
A. 4 February 2009: tell her how you feel! this way you can resolve any issues before moving on. she's not going to get out of your mind if you live with her so instead you need to get used to the idea of the situation that you are in. its going to be really hard, ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant... what happens if I have sex right now?
Q. Hi, i am 16 and well....prenant. I am a couple monthes in. I havent been to a doctor so i ahvent been able to ask but... Well, okay so the first time i lost my virginity was when i actually got pregnant. ironic, right? anyway, me and my boyfriend ...
A. 4 February 2009: take it slow and spooning is good, that way ur bump wont be under any pressure at all. or you could go on top, just dont take it too fast untill your comfortable. talk to a doctor soon. good luck with the pregnancy, hope everything goes as planned, ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I'm in a relationship without hurting them?
Q. Hi,i'm just after some advice. Several months ago (about 4months now) I started seeing a guy quite a lot older than me (25years). We have spent a lot of time together, got to know eachother and have fallen in love. We get on so well and have ...
A. 4 February 2009: well your 21 now and officially an adult, he's not even that much older than you, its only 4years. tell them and then it will be a weight off your shoulders, i really hope t goes well for you, introduce them to your boyfriend and then they can see ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my ex-BF will share my personal info, why is he doing this?
Q. I have a problem it seems. I don't know how to deal with this. My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. I am over it, the thing is that he is always talking about me with my best friend who happens to be his friend too. Apparently he is checking his ...
A. 4 February 2009: people who he tells things too will see that he is immature so dont worry about it too much, they wont believe everything they hear! change any passwords that he may know and delete anything you can! at the end of the day people who hear things wont ... (read in full...)
How can I make V-Day special for my long distance man?
Q. I have this amazing, loving, perfect boyfriend. We have been together for almost a year and this will be our first Valentines. Unfortunately due to the fact that we live almost 3-4 hours away from each, we will not be able to see each other. I ...
A. 4 February 2009: well if you visit www.inthepaper.co.uk you could get a personalised paper article about your first valentines together, or send him a personalised valentines card from moonpig.com... rude pics will go down a treat! over the net or in the envelope ... (read in full...)
Protect Myself, or Trust my Friend?
Q. This question is regarding a friend not a lover. My friend moved around the corner from me and her car broke down. The bus station is too far to walk and she has no way to get around. She asked me to borrow my car, and I let her use it everyday for ...
A. 4 February 2009: well you need to establish ground rules, tell her (in the friendliest way possible) that you dont mind her using your car if it is essential however you need to sort out times and dates if she needs it any other time. if she uses the car tell her ... (read in full...)
Should I call to say I miss him or wait a month and then call?
Q. My dad past away 4 month ago. He was always there for me through all my relationships. When he passed away, they said I have to come live with my mother, who i havent seen since she left me at age 8 years old. Well i started living with her, she's ...
A. 4 February 2009: hmm well. . . you and your mum need to sort out your issues, have a heart to heart i feel alot on unresolved things here and this will help you work towards a stronger relationship. if this guy doesnt bother with you then just remain as friends. ... (read in full...)
Am I kidding myself or can my ex and I work it out?
Q. my estranged husband has been telling me we can work things out, but then wont talk to me about our marriage. we've been married for 23 years. he started seeing another woman 4 months ago, and is sharing a flat with her. am i kidding myself that ...
A. 4 February 2009: depends...why did you drift apart? what happened? i'm sure if you still love each other then there is a possiblility but the issue with the other woman has to be resolved as a priority if you want anything to happen between you. x... (read in full...)
How do I casually ask for a guys address?
Q. Alright here's the problem, I bought these 2 necklace's and I really want to send the guy I'm madly in love with one of the two, but I'd have to do it by mail. But I don't know his address! I want to ask him but I'm scared it will get weird, how do ...
A. 4 February 2009: ask where he lives, then ask wheres that? and then say you have a relative that lives there! get him to descibe in as much detail as possible and say that you have heard of it, then all you need are the numbers! or if you get his house number and ... (read in full...)
Is my penis normal? And are my friends really as big as they say?
Q. I'm 16 and have around a 3" penis when erect, is this normal? Also my "friends" say their like 6+ can this be true or are they just trying to show off?...
A. 4 February 2009: every penis is different! if you are really worried talk to a doctor! be glad because its better that women being horrified by a large penis! x... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I'm in a relationship without hurting them?
Q. Hi,i'm just after some advice. Several months ago (about 4months now) I started seeing a guy quite a lot older than me (25years). We have spent a lot of time together, got to know eachother and have fallen in love. We get on so well and have ...
A. 4 February 2009: well you are both of a legal age and you are both adults!
tell them that you would really appreciate their approval and you would love them to meet your new boyfriend. maybe go out for drinks or a meal? could you answer a question, why would they... (read in full...)
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