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*ilsis86
writes:I am 22 yr old female and have been having sex since I was 14. I don't have enough fingers or toes to count my sex partners. I think about sex the majority of my day and have had sex with plenty of men that I did not care about or had any feelings for. I am a very sexual person and sometimes take pride in that though my actions can sometimes leave me ashamed. I've had sex with men twice my age and make many other decisions that are very unsafe. When I try to not have sex, I end up doing it any way. I've had sex with men that I really didn't want to with. I know men that I only speak to when I want to have sex with them. I fanticize about past sexual experiences. Sometimes I think about sex to help me go to sleep. I think now, that my sexual desires and past will keep me from having a boyfriend/husband. I have many things to offer to any man but believe I keep them from seeing any of that. My question is...am I dangerously obsessed with sex? How can I know? What should I do to help? Reply to this Question
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reader, natasia  +, writes (15 February 2009):
 It sounds to me like there are two things happening here - you are a highly-sexed person (which is perfectly normal for some people - i am, too - i also think about sex many times during the day, and think about it at night to help me go to sleep) - BUT, you also are finding it difficult to deal with this sex-drive, and don't really have the emotional maturity and apparatus to make sure you channel this energy in the right way, and in a safe way.
I think you have two options:
either
go to a counsellor for help and advice
OR (and, i think, possibly better)
find a guy you adore and have a lot of sex with him (not a bit of sex with lots of different men, but a lot of sex with one man ; ) - and buy one or two self-help books about sex addiction, etc, and read them at night when you're not having sex !!!
(yes, the second option sounds nicer to me!)
focus on one person, one relationship. has to be the right guy, though ...
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (15 February 2009):
 i would have a session with a counsellor! then you will discover why ou are this sexual. let me know how it goes! once yu know why u are like this then u will know how to stop this! x
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