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writes:i was in a relationship with this boy who doesnt live near me, for around half a year. i had a very busy schedule last semester and i didnt get to spend time with him. i really love him a lot. we talked about everything and we were serious about us. at the end of the year, i sensed that he was changing and started ignoring me bit by bit. perhaps he doesn't feel the same way anymore. i felt heartbroken when he suddenly told me, we were just sort of dating. we didnt get to talk very often then. once in a while, he'd be telling me it's maybe best that we both date others nearer each of us. by early january this year, i found out that he actually went on a date with a girl, two months after we started dating. i still loved him very much that time. i told him it's over. when he started ignoring me, i thought he was over me. just in a few days after i broke up with him, i met my boyfriend. he asked me about him and told me that he never cheated on me, all he ever did was that he went on a date. i still had not give up at that time. but i told him i m happy with my new boyfriend. and he told me he liked this girl right now. yesterday, we talked and he told me he actually didnt gave up on me when i broke up with him. he was over me when he saw me happily with my new boyfriend. and he told me he really likes this girl and he thinks they make a better couple. and he's over me. what hurts is that he says she understands him more. she just broke up with his ex a week ago. probably that girl and my ex felt that they were heartbroken for the same reason and felt that theyre in the same situation, so is that why he's telling me she understands him more? i still love him very much and he tells me he needs me in his life, but just as a friend. he feels very attached to me since i m his first love. i really can't handle it when i love him a lot, so very much. but he's over me and he really likes the girl. he even drew pictures of the girl. i feel like a walking dead body, really. i can barely smile now. it's just too much.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 i know its really hard but you cant make someone want to be in a relationship with you. show him that you can be a good friend and if this is too difficult then distance from the situation until you can be comfortable with him talking about the new girl. if you are finding it hard to cope then you should seek professional help. i understand how you feel at the minute, its so hard to try and hide your feelings infront of the person you love. keep me updated.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsimplified version...:
i love my ex very much and i havent give up on him. i didnt want to break up with him but i had to. it has just beenn a month and he's telling me he realllyyy likes this girl. and he says he's very happy with her and she understands him more. he says she understands him more cz they're very much alike. but he begs me not to walk away from his life because i m important to him. but he says, i m just a friend to him. nothing hurts more when he tells me she understands him more. i cant deal with this. i love him but it just hurts me whenever i talk to him. but he wants me in his life.. what should i do???
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 February 2009):
could you simplify the story a tiny bit because i would love to help but i lost track, sorry. xx
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