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writes:I think this is like two questions on one... well. I guess I just need lots of advice. I'll try to make it short. Basically, in a nutshell, I am a momma's girl and I've always felt like I needed to be near her. I'm a junior in high school and I've been thinking a lot about college. Ironically enough, I've been thinking a lot about how I want to go to college in San Fransisco..(which for me is across the country). I feel like San Fran is calling out to me or something. But if I ever did end up there how would I be able to relax and know I can do good without my mom. (My dad just moved back out there, but our relationship is different than my mom and me.) I know the feeling of anxiety and feeling like homesick doesn't last forever. So, I guess I'm just wondering how the many of you in or finished with college coped with home sickness and stress and stuff like that. And my other situation longing for advice is this: I have a friend who lives in North Carolina, we "met" about 3 or 4 years ago, and although we've never met in person we remain to be very close. We usually talk all day everyday and we tell each other everything. But lately i've been thinking... I feel like I like him... I hate saying that and I just keep denying it which makes me think I actually do. Not that it's never happened to anyone before, but I just don't want to like him.. it's weird, and it sort of gets weirder...I keep thinking about going to college and about how I want to go in California, but then I think about how I shouldn't and how I would be so far away from him. I don't know what to do about that, or about my feelings. I sort of feel stupid. I'm most definitely not going to tell him. But I just need help! I don't know what to do! I feel stuck. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): I can say everything you are going through is perfectly normal. I did experience homesickness when I went to college - I think everyone does. The fact that you are aware of it and expecting it will make it easier to deal with. Because you do have to move on with your life. Your mom will always be there for you, but you do have to move up into your own adult life. As for the boy - why not meet him in person to see if you really do have feelings for him? Sometimes we can have feelings that have more to do with an ideal than a reality. If you haven't met him in person yet, I would do so before you tell him how you feel, etc. That way you can be sure of your feelings. Best wishes!
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 once you get there you will meet so many people, and be so busy that home sickness wont be a problem. after a few days you will settle in, and you'll have alot of new people in you're life!! x
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