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How do I keep her interested until I can be with her again?
Q. me and my girlfriend had been going out for 4 months, but ever since the start of our relationship it was kind of hard because i wasn't able to drive to see her as often as i wanted to because my license was suspended. and lately it has been really ...
A. 17 May 2007: well, by january, you can bet she will probably have found someone else. if you want to be with her, you need to find a way to make it happen now before it is too late. otherwise, i guess you can stay friends with her and hope for the best...... (read in full...)
I went to a party and can't remember much about it. I need help!
Q. im 16, and last weekend i went to a house party, and didnt think id drink a lot. the only problem is i can only remember arriving there, some guy taking me upstairs, and then my friends shaking me trying to keep me awake.when i got home i went to ...
A. 30 March 2006: It sounds like you were drugged. I strongly urge you to go to the doctor and have them check you out to make sure you were not damaged internally and have a pregnancy test and an STD test. In the future, when you attend a party, get your own drink ... (read in full...)
I want to believe badly that her new man is only a rebound!
Q. Hey guys, I've asked a few questions before, so a lot of you probably know what my situation is. My ex means so much to me and I'd like to maintain hope. Here's the thing, I think that she might think that she is in love with her rebound guy ...
A. 30 March 2006: It isn't your business. I'm sorry that it hurts you, but I think you need to let this go. You have no right to interfere and, by doing so, you are making yourself look obsessive and pathetic. The best thing you can do is distance yourself from ... (read in full...)
Online dating hooked me up with a cute chick, aged 18... who then turned out to be 16!
Q. Hello. I'm 28. I've met this great girl through an online dating service which of course you are required to be 18 for and it even asks for credit card info. She said she was 18. Three weeks into the relationship, she confesses to me that she is ...
A. 30 March 2006: You should exit before you get arrested. I know you already have feelings, but she should have been honest with you from the beginning. She had no right to put you in that situation in the first place - it was selfish on her part, not surprising ... (read in full...)
I have a BIG problem that I would like to get fixed SOON!!!
Q. i have sadly just found out i have Phimosis, where my foreskin does'nt retract easily i am so pissed off i feel like killing ymself i mean why me? As the holidays are coming up soon i will be goin to my mates caravan he has down by the coast and ...
A. 24 March 2006: Look -- this may sound harsh... but you are 14 years old. I don't think waiting a little longer to have sex will hurt you, in fact, it will give you some time to mature beforehand which is never a bad thing. Also, you need to start realizing that ... (read in full...)
I never get out to meet people because I have a wheelchair. Will I be single forever?
Q. I am single 27 female. Friends and people have met me have said I am very pretty (goodlooking or words to that effect). However I am a wheelchair user due to an illness I have had for over 8 yrs. Because of this "disability" I don't get out to meet ...
A. 24 March 2006: Maybe you could try meeting more people through a singles service or something like that? The right person will love your mind and spirit and won't care one bit about your wheelchair. Do the best you can to go out and try to mingle. I know it may ... (read in full...)
He's still reading playboy and penthouse despite us dating for two years!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Since the beginning I have told him that I find porn degrading to women. He told me that he didn't feel comfortable reading them since the month we started dating but i found issues until 4 ...
A. 24 March 2006: This is a hard question for me. Mainly because I can't help but wonder why you are making such a big deal of it. I understand your feelings about the exploitation of women, but men are "exploited" as well (there is nearly as much gay porn as ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a home wrecker, but...
Q. I have been in love with this guy for about 9-10 years. When all this started i was young. We tried to go different ways. He hooked up with this girl and had kids and I got engaged. I left my relationship after three years because I still love ...
A. 24 March 2006: I agree - this isn't your place to be involved. He needs to make his own decision. You don't want to be the reason he chose to leave his kids or whatever. If you have told him how you feel, that is all you can do. If it is meant to be, it will ... (read in full...)
Not sure I can let my best friend's older brother get married without telling him I love him!
Q. I love my best friends older brother. He is like a brother to me, only I feel more for him. He's getting married in the next year or so, and I wondered if it would be bad to tell him? Im pretty sure it wouldn't affect him profoundly (meaning, it ...
A. 24 March 2006: Hmmm... I don't really think this is a good idea. If you don't think it will change anything, then what is the point anyway? It may make him uncomfortable around you and your best friend may be upset with you for telling her brother how you feel ... (read in full...)
Me and my bf have not had sex in 5 months and now we are fighting about it. What can i do??
Q. I have a problem in my relationship and it's regarding our sex life. My boyfriend has not been interested in being intimate with me for 5 months now. We fight about it and he can't tell me why. All he ever says is he is under too much stress. ...
A. 24 March 2006: The more pressure you put on him, the more he is likely to pull away further. His ego may be bruised by the way you have brought it to his attention. I think you should leave it alone for a while (as far as talking goes) and give him a little ... (read in full...)
A hidden text broke my heart. Are kisses cheating and can i ever feel secure with my partner again??
Q. 9 months ago i found a hidden text on my partner of 5 years mobile from a work colleague saying thanx for not taking advantage of me last night but i really enjoyed our kisses ... im still racked with worry that he may want other relationships ... ...
A. 24 March 2006: I agree with the idea that you should talk with him about what you read and how it made you feel and try to get the whole scope of things. I would have just overreacted and gone nuts, so if you can handle it better than that, I applaud you! By ... (read in full...)
I would love to get married, but I'm not sure he's willing. Any advice?
Q. I'd like to get married. We are deeply in love. He is 60, I am 50, we have both been married before. His 1st wife cheated, his 2nd, took him to the cleansers, he is not anxious to wed again. We talk of being together into old age, we live together...
A. 24 March 2006: I love what you said - "I would love to have my final chapter married to this man" - that is so sweet. Maybe if you just tell him that, he will understand why you would like to tie the knot. Don't pressure him, just tell him why you think it is a ... (read in full...)
I would like to beable to find a partner that doesn't only want sex...
Q. I am a gay English male living in Mallorca. I find it almost impossible to meet likewise guys as everyone seems to only want sex. I enjoy sex but find it difficult and often painful with a new partner until i feel i trust them 100%. Any advise?...
A. 24 March 2006: well, you should get to know the guy first. if they try to lay you, tell them you want to wait until you know them better. if all they want is sex, then they will move on. if they like you, they will wait for it. plain and simple.... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm like other women!!!
Q. I have a problem - i dont think i can orgasm or ejuculate like other women can do what is wrong with me!!! Me and my boyfriend have tried various methods to try and get me to orgasm, vibrators forplay and rubbing of the clitrios. i can get a tu...
A. 24 March 2006: A friend of mine gets those infections all the time. It happens to more people than just you, so don't feel alone. Also, I wasn't really able to have an orgasm until I was a little older than you are now, so there is still hope. It may be that ... (read in full...)
He asked me, but then someone else! What is his deal?
Q. Okay well this guy asked me to the prom and turned around and asked some one else but now he wants to go with me.... should i give him a chance or leave it as that?...
A. 24 March 2006: Did she say no, so he decided to take you or what?? Personally, I have never wanted to be anyone's "silver medal" so I think I would tell him he missed his chance and go with someone else, if possible, or go with girlfriends or something. Good ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex that much anymore with my partner, is this a problem?
Q. I have this problem, me and my mate of five years have always had sex regularly and just this year I just don't want to could it be because I am falling out of love or do we need to spice it up more?...
A. 24 March 2006: It could be that there are problems with your relationship that are making you feel distant. It could be that you have lost desire for some other reason - like a medication you are taking, or your age, or something else. Only you can really ... (read in full...)
How can I leave him without him making me guilty for it?
Q. Hi, I am 40 years old and I have been married for 09 years. I don´t have no children. I have been living a very unhappy life because I came to live since 2002 with my husband to his home town and he is suffering because his both parents are old and ...
A. 21 March 2006: You have to have a life, too. You only get one and you shouldn't spend it living for someone else because they make you feel guilty. If he can't accept the fact that you need something else in your life to make you happy, then leave him and live ... (read in full...)
What can I get my man that's special when he comes back?
Q. My partner will be returning from working overseas to visit, I haven't seen him for almost a year, and we have always remained faithful to eachother and we aren't out as a couple. When he comes to visit, I want to get him something specia...
A. 21 March 2006: A picture of yourself or the two of your together is always nice. Other than that, I have always felt that the gifts that don't cost anything are the most special. Make him a cd (I even design my own covers, if you have a program you can use) with ... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with a guy I thought at first I might marry. Am I searching for perfection where none exists?
Q. So confused about break-up… I’ve just ended a relationship with a guy I’ve been going out with for four months, since November 2005. I’m 28, and I know four months doesn’t sound like anything serious, but we’ve had an extremely intense time and...
A. 20 March 2006: Oh sweetie. I hear you about being concerned that you are too hard on people and looking for perfection in everyone where you won't find it. I, too, judge people harshly and they have a hard time meeting my expectiations. I expect my partners to ... (read in full...)
Living with a very good friend, fantasising about being married... but is he another bad choice in my life?
Q. I've had this friend for 9yrs now. I met him when I was a junior in a high school. Word then was that he had on crush on me. I never saw him like that, he was just one of my friends. Well time went on and I had been with some real big losers. ...
A. 20 March 2006: Well, having a great friend who becomes more can be a very good thing. By now, you know all about each other and can accept each others faults. Or can you? It is a little different when you have kids involved. By now, the kids are attached to ... (read in full...)
She's going out with other men besides me, but says they're just old friend.
Q. If anyone can help I would welcome it. I am 60 something and my wife passed away 2 years ago. Last year I met a very attractive lady of the same age and we have been dating since then. Sex with her is amazing. The problem is that when we are not ...
A. 20 March 2006: I think you have a genuine reason to be concerned here. I'm sure the sex is amazing, because from the sounds of it, she has had a lot of practice! I would be very cautious with this relationship as you don't want to jeapordize your health by ... (read in full...)
I don't know if what I am doing is ok for this guy and his relationship. HELP!
Q. So I've met this really great guy. We have a lot in common, the chemistry is undeniably there, and we have a ton of fun. Recently, we've been getting closer - hanging out one-on-one, etc. Earlier this week he got my phone number, and we made a ...
A. 17 March 2006: OK, I don't necessarily think that it is bad to hang out with this guy behind his girlfriend's back. Maybe that makes me a bad guy, but he is a big boy and can choose his own actions and you are not doing anything wrong. Of course, if anything ... (read in full...)
I can't decide what I should really do with my bf, can you help?
Q. Hello - I really need some advice. Ok. I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost 7 years. I thought things were going okay - we were saving up to move out together and I really thought we were meant to be. Anyway, he then went and bought an ...
A. 17 March 2006: Hi Kate. I'm not going to beat around the bush here: it sounds, to me, like your boyfriend is a jerk. Obviously I don't know him, but it sounds like he is treating you like crap. Don't let him pull that BS on you about trust. He should be ... (read in full...)
He annoys the hell out me....so why do I think about him?
Q. i have a crush on this one guy, but it cant go anywhere. thats just part of this because what im really asking about is his best friend. he's annoying, constantly tries to get a rise out of me and when i tell him to stop because he doesnt know me he ...
A. 17 March 2006: this is confusing. is it the guy you have the crush on or the friend that is annoying? whoever it is, if he annoys you, then don't hang around him. simple.... (read in full...)
I told her I wasn't a virgin!
Q. hi im 18 years old and still a virgin because i wanted to wait for someone i liked, now i have been seein this girl who is 1 year younger things are going well an i think this will be the 1!!!the thing is she is quite experienced and i tld her im ...
A. 15 March 2006: Well, it is hard to say. I was with a guy who was a virgin and he didn't tell me until two years after the fact. I had no idea that he was still a virgin (he was 25!) when we had sex. I think he felt insecure about sex with me because I was more ... (read in full...)
I want to be with her, but she has problems with relationships!
Q. I'm writing cause I'm very confused. I have been seeing a beautiful woman for over 2 years. I have fell in love with her very much and she does love me. We had a relationship but we had trouble with it and we have taken some time away from each ...
A. 15 March 2006: You can't crowd her when she says she needs space and she isn't ready. You have to respect her feelings and give her some time to sort them out. If she is getting help for her issues, then she has taken a step in the right direction. All you can ... (read in full...)
He said he liked me, but then said he was joking. What's his deal?
Q. I wrote a question on here yesterday and bsically this lad I like said he would text me when I went away and his mate told me he fancied me and loads of other stuff which I know was true because I am also mates with this person. But I text him for a ...
A. 15 March 2006: Nothing is wrong with you! You deserve better than to have someone play games with you. Just leave this one alone, as he sounds immature and probably needs some time to grow up and figure out how to act around girls. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I haven't seen him in a few months after our break up, but he seems to be still interested!
Q. Please, please help me i'm totally confused! i broke up with my boyfriend in January and we hadn't spoken until today. i was in town with my friend sitting outside a cafe (the cafe where everyone hangs out, and where we hung out when we were ...
A. 15 March 2006: Well, if he has another girlfriend already, then I think you should just sit back and see what happens from here. Let that relationship play out on its own. If he does still like you, he will definitely get in touch with you. I am sure he still ... (read in full...)
I had an affair and I can't forget about her!
Q. Eight years ago I had an affair with the girl of my dreams - I was married then and I am still married now. I decided not to leave my wife at the time because I had a baby daughter. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, and I felt that I lost ...
A. 15 March 2006: I think you need to think about your marriage right now. Are you unhappy with your wife? I would imagine so if you have cheated on her and now you sit around pining for a woman you slept with 8 years ago. It isn't fair to your wife and you are ... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed my first time!
Q. Does it always bleed? Hello, im 14 years old and i recently had sex with my bf on our 1 year anniversiry. ive never had sex before and i heard that when you have sex for the first time a women bleeds from her "downtown area" Anyway ive ne...
A. 15 March 2006: It isn't necessarily true that you bleed on your first time. When you bleed, it is because you have broken your hymen - it is a small piece of tissue inside of you. You may have broken it when you were younger and didn't realize it. Lots of ... (read in full...)
He says he likes me, but he also likes every other girl too!
Q. I like this one boy a lot, and he claims he likes me, but then he tells other girls that he likes them too. I know that things will never work out, but I can't stop thinking about him. I don't want to like him AT ALL, and I seriously can't control ...
A. 15 March 2006: He sounds like a player. I always try to avoid those types of guys who like to play the field. I think the best way to get your mind off of this guy is to try to avoid him as much as possible and focus on doing some things for yourself or with ... (read in full...)
I really want to get to know this guy, but I'm not sure how!
Q. HEY! here's the thing...i fancy a guy at school, who's a year below me. we do not have any classes together but I know he likes me, he stares at me every time I walk past.But, he is really really shy and has never talked to me. it is hard to ge...
A. 15 March 2006: Well, ideally you should try to get him alone just long enough to ask him if he would like to hang out sometime. If he is shy, he will probably be relieved that you did the asking. Just don't ask him in front of his friends because you would be ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but seems to be interested in me!
Q. help! ive recently met a guy. he has girlfriend, but told me he was attracted to me. one night we we stood outside the pub when out of the blue he kissed me, at xmas time it happened again, we got a little bit further but didnt have sex, i stopped ...
A. 15 March 2006: I think you should just let this one go, especially if he was rude to you last time. It sounds like you two have what I like to call "a drunken connection". If he has a girlfriend, then just let it be. If he really likes you, he will break up ... (read in full...)
He said my fat bum doesn't bother him, but I know it does. That's why he's not interested in sex
Q. I have been with my fella for 11yrs and we love each other very much, but im begining to feel he's only with me out of pity and habit. He has a low libido and I'm highly sexed and pester him at least twice a week, which annoys him sometimes. All of...
A. 15 March 2006: It sounds like you need a self-esteem booster. Rather than always focusing on what is outside of you, maybe you should look inward and try to do some community service or something that makes you feel good about yourself -- rather than feeling bad ... (read in full...)
I really don't want to be friends with my boyfriend's ex and her bf!
Q. Hello everyone! After having to come to terms with my boyfriend's first love being a very good friend of his, he's asked me to befriend her and her boyfriend. The issue is this.... I work with her boyfriend and can't stand him. He's even phoned me ...
A. 15 March 2006: From the sounds of it, you will have to make some kind of effort to get along with them if you want to keep you guy around. I doubt you have any reason whatsoever to be insecure around his ex and if she has no personality, then I guess she will be ... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual, interested in a young man, and the object of a woman's affection too!
Q. I’m a bisexual male. Not totally ‘out’, only ‘out’ to my closest friends. I have had sexual ‘relations’ with both males and females, but I find myself attracted more to males rather than females. Two things are bothering at the moment: 1. There ...
A. 15 March 2006: Well, it is clear that you don't like the girl as more than a friend, so keep it as such so that you don't lead her on and hurt her feelings. We ladies often get attached to gay or bisexual men because they are more open-minded and senstive than ... (read in full...)
About to break up with him, but I'm terrified to be alone.
Q. Hi. I am 29 and on the verge of breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years. He moved 400 miles to live with me over a year ago so doesnt have any family in the area. Last night we had another argument about my jealousy (he has a new female friend ...
A. 15 March 2006: If you keep acting jealous over this other girl, you will most likely push them together or just drive him away. You have to learn to give people some space. You said he moved 400 miles to be with you - that is a huge deal! He obviously loves you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her....but we're friends!
Q. I am in love with a girl I am good friends with her so I don't want to say anything just in case it spoils our friendship! What should I do?...
A. 15 March 2006: I agree with smeedle, this is one you have to decide for yourself. But beware, when a guy has been friends with a girl for a long time, he sometimes falls into the "friend zone" which means that she does not and never will think of him as more than ... (read in full...)
My b/f got with somebody else while we were apart and she is still texting him!
Q. Me and my boyfriend had been going out a year and a half. Things were great, then he told me that he wanted to join the army. I knew he wanted to do this before we met but nothing was ever said until this far in the relationship. It broke my heart. ...
A. 15 March 2006: No, I don't think you have a right to be hurt that he was seeing someone else when you were doing the same thing. As far as the text goes, I don't really know what to make of that. I still talk to lots of people I used to date and it doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
Is he scared, or does he just not like me?
Q. so theres this guy i like, its been like 6 months and i know he kinda likes me. his friends have told me this. we hang out like once a month, and we talk on the computer. he has been hurt before and he admitted once he backs off when someone gets ...
A. 15 March 2006: It sounds, to me, like he is just playing games with you. It is a sad fact of life, but at your age, a lot of guys are just immature and they don't know what they want and so they kind of jerk you around. I think you should just leave him alone ... (read in full...)
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