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writes: I am in love with a girl I am good friends with her so I don't want to say anything just in case it spoils our friendship! What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2006): It's a risk versus reward, eh? If the reward outweighs the risk, then tell her. For some inspiration, read Robert Frost's poem, "The Road Not Taken".
In my case, I listen to my gut and accept the consequences of my decisions. I've never been steered wrong when I listen to my instinct.
Good luck to you, and whatever you decide, don't look back!
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reader, emma_jade +, writes (15 March 2006):
act yourself dont change for a girl sometimes we can turn out different than what we appear i say drop hints that you like her dont go in for a kiss or asking her out until you are fully sure she likes you then even if you do end up going out talk about what is going to happen if you brake up and if you decide you wont be friends dont take that chance... sometimes friendship is better than being boyfriend and girlfriend
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (15 March 2006):
 I agree with smeedle, this is one you have to decide for yourself. But beware, when a guy has been friends with a girl for a long time, he sometimes falls into the "friend zone" which means that she does not and never will think of him as more than a friend. Before you risk the friendship, I think you need to think about whether or not she has given any clues that she is attracted to you in a romantic way. Does she flirt with you at all? Touch you a lot? Make little comments? Act jealous when you talk about other girls you like? If not, then she may not want more than what you already have and you might drive her away if you confess your love. If she talks about another guy that she is really into or whatever, then definitely don't say anything to her. If she is interested in more than friendship with you, then she would probably keep that sort of conversation to a minimum. Ultimately, it is up to you to decide. If it is killing you to be just friends and you want to move on to more or just stay away from her for a while, then go ahead and let her know and see what she says. But if you think you are ok with being just friends and that you may someday get over those other feelings, then just ride it out and try to focus your interest on another girl. I guess it ultimately depends upon how much you value the friendship the way it is.... Good luck!
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reader, smeedle +, writes (15 March 2006):
 You have two choices, tell her and risk the friendship but maybe replace it with a better more intimate one, or not tell her and watch her date other guys which will really hurt and consume you with jealousy.
The choice is yours!!
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