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writes: im 16, and last weekend i went to a house party, and didnt think id drink a lot. the only problem is i can only remember arriving there, some guy taking me upstairs, and then my friends shaking me trying to keep me awake.when i got home i went to the toilet and was bleeding and sore, which really worried me. everyone who went thinks i just got really drunk, but i feel i might have had my drink spiked and there might me more underlying than i think. i havent been able to sleep for the past week and am gettin really paranoid can you please give me some advice on what to do??
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reader, xXxCazanismxXx +, writes (30 March 2006):
 Im really sorry to hear what happened to you, i had my drink spiked myself a few weeks ago and ended up in hospital. I'ts not a nice thing at all, so in some aspects i can understand where your'e coming from. You're admittedly going to have to answer alot of questions sweets, but you've already posted your problem and come this far, thats the first step out the way hun. O.k while you were at this party did anyone see you go upstairs with this guy? if so do u kno who he is or do you know of anyone who would kno? Also have you been to your gp/docs yet? if not sweets please go A.S.A.P!! I can promise you they will not look down there noses at you. I was paranoid my doctors would think i was another silly girl who drank to much and regretted the outcome but he sat down and talked me through what was happening and what i should expect and gave me a clear piece of mind and made me feel at ease. Have you spoken to you're parents or gaurdians about this? if not because youre finding it to hard, try and write them a letter to explain what happened. They honestly should not think anyless of you sweet, It is not you're fault! It may seem like you're alone at the moment but your not hun. I cannot stress how important it is to go and see youre doctor tho, he'll be able to test you out for pregnancy/STD's everything, It all seems a bit overwhelming and scary but you will come out off this stronger than ever before. Keep youre head high and proud sweet! hope this helps a little, take care and good luck xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2006): To be it seem that your drink was spiked and you slept with this person who did this to you.I strongly agree with julianga as you do need to see the doc and quick.Don't leave it to long.
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (30 March 2006):
 It sounds like you were drugged. I strongly urge you to go to the doctor and have them check you out to make sure you were not damaged internally and have a pregnancy test and an STD test. In the future, when you attend a party, get your own drink and never let it out of your sight. I am so sorry this has happened to you. But you have a legitimate reason to be "paranoid" because it sounds like you may have been raped. You may consult your doctor about finding counseling for victims or possibly obtaining a short term medication to help you sleep and fight any problems you may be having with anxiety and depression. You may also want to talk to some people who were at the party to see if they know who did this to you. I would suggest you report this to the authorities, but after a week has passed, it is likely that any physical evidence would be inadmissable in court. You may want to confide in your family or a trusted friend who will believe your story, rather than dismiss it as you "just being drunk". Please be careful and good luck to you, sweetie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2006): You're ging to worry about this until you know that there have been no circumstances to this evening. You need to go to your doctors asap to be checked over.I guess that you ahve asked your friends what happened, or what they think happened? Has anyone confronted the guy who took you upstairs? Someone needs to ask him what happened, to see if he has any more information. But what is most important is your health.You should probably report this to the police also, and they will investigate and obviously be very supportive. Take care of yourself, and ask around. It definitely sounds as if you had your drink spiked, and that's what makes this illegal.. anything that happened afterwards is an add-on to the crime, and should be investigated too.Take care.
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reader, Holly1 +, writes (30 March 2006):
You need to talk to an adult you trust about this and ask them if they will accompany you to the doctors to get checked out. If your drink was spiked anything could have happened to you that you haven't given consent for!! a doctor will be able to talk to you and give you advise on what to do next. Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2006): okay sweetheart-heres the deal i have been in the same situation first off were you a virgin before this occured? secondly right now you need just to relax and maybe ask whoever you can, who might have seen you. there had bound to be some one who walked in or saw you with the guy. but if you fear of pregnancy just buy a test and get checked for diseases. ok but i promise if you relax and breathe you'll be able to remember a little more than while your in panic mode. i hope i helped!-signed blondiegirl
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reader, BluntBabe +, writes (30 March 2006):
Sweetie, I am so sorry this happened to you. You need to do the following things immediately:-call your local branch of planned parenthood. You'll be able to find the number here:http://plannedparenthood.orgtell them what happened, and tell the truth, they will not judge, they'll only help you. You need to make an appointment to be tested for communicable disease, as well as to take a pregnancy test (they'll also tell you when and which pregnancy test you should buy if you want to go to a drug store).Its not absolutely certain you were raped, but judging by the bleeding and soreness from your vagina I would say you could probably count on it.calling planned parenthood will ease your mind as well as take care of any problems you may have in the future.Hopefully you will feel comfortable telling your parents. They may be able to talk to a lawyer, who would have more advice on how to proceed legally. (If I were you, I'd want that f**ker hanged.) It's your choice whether you want to do that or not, of course.You probably won't be going to any parties anytime soon (and you shouldnt be) but if you do, tell your friend to watch your back and you'll watch hers. Don't let each other out of sight for a second. It sounds like you go to school or socialize with very dangerous people.Good luck, and much love.Blunt
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