I overcame my abuse. How do I make sure now that sex is perfect for him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, we really truely love each other, and both feel it's time to take our relationship to the next level, he is a virgin and I am not. I was abused as a child so I never got to give my virginity away, it...
A. 31 August 2008: Hi, I think its great that you want to make it special for your boyfriend! My boyfriend and I are currently in a similar situation, but when we tried to have sex, he got all nervous and we couldn't do it. I think making it a bit romantic might b... (read in full...)
We ended things because he had to move. Why won't he initiate contact with me?
Q. I am currently in the process of trying to get over a guy i dated for a short period he said he loved me as i did him and he got on very well with my daughter.unfortunately he had to move on due to his job.I feel i was probably instrumental to the ...
A. 25 August 2008: Hey, If you said that you'd understand if he didn't want to contact you anymore, and he said thanks, then I think he's intending to not contact you anymore. You should just try to get over him and not be so clingy. Maybe he's avoiding you on ... (read in full...)
We only met online, he tells me he loves sex to death and can't wait to have it with me. Should I be worried?
Q. I met this guy on a dating site and after exchanging photos and mails constantly,we are both in love and we will be meeting very soon.My only worry is that he talks about sex everyday and even tells me that he loves it to death. He also tells me...
A. 2 November 2007: I agree with the others - you should be worried, because he's probably just going to use you for sex.
Never completely trust internet dating sites either. Believe me on this one, I've done that myself once before, and never again. You'll just get ... (read in full...)
How can we make it less painful for me?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend a while now and we've started having sex. everytime we do, it's really painful and i can't wait for it to be over. i have talked to my boyfriend about this and he does whatever he can to make it less painful, it is worse ...
A. 2 November 2007: Don't worry about the pain, as Mistify said, that's normal when you first start having sex. Eventually things will get better.
But even if you've been having sex for awhile, it can still really hurt if you're not "in the mood." That's the whole po... (read in full...)
Did he marry me as last resort?
Q. I don't know if my husband married me because he loved me or because I was all that was left. We've been married for two years. We started dating when I was 16 he was 19, I fell in love with him right away but didn't say anything. We had both just ...
A. 2 November 2007: I think you should just be happy that you're together. Don't dwell on the past, everyone makes mistakes and no-one can redo anything they regret. Always live for the present. Everything turned out for the best, and as long as you both love each ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my husband's best friend - it was his idea - will I find a need for more men?
Q. A family friend, who was widowed about ten months ago, visits us about once a month when he comes to the city on business. After dinner last month, he expressed to my husband how difficult it was to meet a woman and how frustrating it was to have ...
A. 1 November 2007: I agree with everyone else, what you're doing is wrong. Church or no church, it's still wrong. Don't jump at any chance to have sex, it's indecent. And a bit promiscuous.... (read in full...)
At what age are you too old to have a 'Brazilian'?
Q. Hi Summer is fast aproaching here in Australia and the weather is warning up. Which means going on holiday and going to the beach. My wife always gets a new bikini at the start of summer and for the past few years a brazilian wax. This year...
A. 1 November 2007: I agree with everyone else - she isn't too old. If she wants to get one done, she should. And if she still looks good in a bikini, then that's all good too. But if she feels uncomfortable or self conscious about it, then you shouldn't pressure her. ... (read in full...)
Should I give her my number?
Q. There is this new girl at my work (retail). She has been there 2 weeks now. The first thing I said to my coworker (and one of my best friends) upon seeing her was that she was the cutest girl I've ever seen. We (the new girl and myself) talk ...
A. 1 November 2007: Yeah, you should go for it! What have you got to lose? I think most girls get flattered if they know guys are interested in them. And if for some reason she isn't interested, you can always say you meant so that you can do things as friends. :P... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel so lost after breaking up?
Q. OK, last night I broke up with my bf of 4.5 yrs, we have'nt really been happy for the last yr or so as we lost our spark and both of us did nothing to help our relationship until it was too late. Last night, I sat him down and told him we are ...
A. 31 October 2007: Yeah, I think it's normal to feel really lost after breaking up. Especially as you were with your boyfriend for so long. Actually, it'd be a bit strange if you didn't feel lost - it'd be as if you never cared for him at all. So yeah, feeling lost is ... (read in full...)
I feel totally rejected - couldn't we have discussed it?
Q. Was dating a guy and we got on famously, walks, meals, fun nights out together and we really clicked. We fancied each other quite a lot and then after a few weeks made arrangements to sleep together. Anyway I've always found that when I sleep wi...
A. 30 October 2007: Hmmm... maybe he met someone else and just doesn't want to tell you...? Actually, the first thing that popped into my mind when I read that was that maybe he was just using you to get you into bed, and that now he's done that, he doesn't want you ... (read in full...)
Where can I buy Covergirl Foundation?
Q. Please publish this post, I'm very desperate to know! I've heard of this amazing foundation (It's really good for spots and doesn't dry skin) And it's a brand called 'Covergirl'. I've never seen it in the UK, where I live! I'm in desperate need f...
A. 30 October 2007: I know Covergirl is available in Australia (where I live) as well as in the US and Canada. Have you tried ordering it online?... (read in full...)
I'm always thinking about her, what should I do?
Q. So i'm in high school. I'm a senior at a local high school in the bay area of california. There is this girl I have known since about 3rd grade whom i've always adored (i've had a crush ever since I can remember first seeing her.) She never ...
A. 30 October 2007: Hey,
I kinda know how you feel - being too shy to talk to someone you like... When I was in year 11 there was this guy I really liked, but I was way to shy to tell him. What I ended up doing was writing him a letter telling him how I felt. But as I... (read in full...)
Our only obstacle is that she doesn't want to hurt her parents with an intercaste marriage. What to do??
Q. hi i m 27 male and belong to an orthodox indian family and i m madly in love with a girl of different caste who is 21 n studying. we are in this relationship for the past 1 year and she loves me truely as well . but we got seperated almost 5 times ...
A. 28 October 2007: Hmmmm... that's a tricky one. Have you tried meeting her parents before? Even as just "a friend"? Because if they get to know you and like you, they might be alright with it. If you truly love each other, you should be together, despite a difference ... (read in full...)
Everywhere we go there are girls who instantly like him and try to flirt with him even though I'm there, this upsets me. What do I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been having a relationship for two years, and I find myself in a very difficult position. My boyfriend, who is not only good looking but smart and charismatic is being stalked by all these ex-girlfriends, who leave him flowers ...
A. 28 October 2007: I agree, talk to your boyfriend about it. Try to get him to ask the girls to leave him alone, or at least tone it down a bit. He probably does like all the attention - who wouldn't? Just make sure he doesn't start flirting back. Ooooooo, maybe if ... (read in full...)
Suggestions: What would you do with your ex’s stuff? (in order to let go)
Q. After asking for answer and help on a few websites. I reach the conclusion that I have to ditch all my ex’s stuff in order to let go. Also, not to mention my father is coming to London to stay with me. I don’t want my dad seeing all the men stuf...
A. 28 October 2007: Try to find out if he wants it back. If he does, give it to his friend to pass it on. If he doesn't want it back, then sell the MP3 and sivler chain on ebay, and give the rest to charity. Unless you want the MP3 - personally I also see that as just ... (read in full...)
Is there any need to get married over co-habiting?
Q. Hi Whats are your views on marriage vs cohabitation. Is there any need to get married? Is marriage putting your money where your mouth is or am I just old fashioned? Thanks...
A. 28 October 2007: I don't see anything wrong with just living together rather than getting married. It saves a lot of hassle later if for some reason something goes wrong and one of you wants to end it. I think it also gives you a bit of a taste of what being married ... (read in full...)
I moved to a friend's house so that my ex who abused me wouldn't find me. Now my friend is acting controlling, how to I save our friendship?
Q. i dont know where to start with my problem i was abused by my partner six weeks ago and the police were called. i havent seen my ex partner since that day and dont intend to again the problem is i was scared to be on my own and moved out to a male ...
A. 28 October 2007: Wow, your friend really seems to have a thing for you! I agree with Waterloo Sunset, you should see if you can stay with a female friend. At least until things cool off a bit. Try to distance yourself from your controlling friend a bit so he won't ... (read in full...)
I can't cum - am I weird?
Q. hi, my friends tell me all the time that they masturbate and that its really nice adn we also discuss there relationship with boys like which boys made them cum the fastest and who was the best and fingering and other things but i have never ha...
A. 27 October 2007: Nah, there's nothing wrong with you. Personally, I've never had an orgasm either (that I know of...), and I'm not a virgin. Also, I've read that it takes a lot longer for girls to have one than for guys. Some girls are never able to. I think that if ... (read in full...)
Do I continue with or end this relationship?
Q. i m in love with a guy and we have sexual relation also. now i wanna marry with him but he is not ready to talk with his parents. now plz tell me either i continu this relationship or end this relationship....
A. 26 October 2007: I think you should hang in there a little longer. If it's necessary for him to talk to his parents first, and you're in love with him, then it may be worth waiting until he's ready to talk to them. Maybe wait a while and see how things go or if ... (read in full...)
Love affairs from afar, circumcision, and masturbation.
Q. First, I'm in a distant relationship and love my gal too much. This is what's causing da problem. I think about her to the extent of my head aching. I miss her so much that it really hurts. Sometimes i feel she doesn't love me as i do because ...
A. 26 October 2007: Hey,
If you miss her so much, maybe you should consider visiting her...? (Unless it's too far away/too expensive/too awkward) If you miss her to the extent that you're head is aching, maybe you could find something else to occupy your time with... (read in full...)
Did I just go through a bi-sexual phase?
Q. I'm a little confussed .... I'm bisexual... well i thought i was.... but lately girls ... nothing i don't feel anything in my stomach.... apart from a few ... i'm so confussed .... i mean guys turn me on .. well if there naked they do ... but girls ...
A. 25 October 2007: Well, if you're not attracted to girls, then I would say that you're probably straight. I've read somewhere when I was younger that it's normal for teenagers to sometimes go through a stage when they are curious in the same sex, and are attracted ... (read in full...)
The stars were not in favor of our love... or are they?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 9 months with a woman I have known for years. She is currently gettin divorced,but I started as her friend through the whole thing and then we started gettin serious. I fell in love w her as did she..we both ...
A. 24 October 2007: If you both love each other, then that's why you have strong feelings for each other. If she's getting divorced as you say, then just wait until the divorce goes through, and then give it another shot. If you love someone who loves you back, then ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be in love?
Q. im 16 years in age, i know this is gonna sound stupid but i really need an answer to my question i think im in love with my girlfriend, but i feel im to young to be in love. i treasure the little things she dose, im really comfortable with her and ...
A. 22 October 2007: Hey,
Personally I don't think 16 is too young. I was in love at 16 too. It was unrequited love, and didn't work out, but still! And now, 2 years later, I'm in love with my current boyfriend.
Anyway, I think the feeling of being in love is a bit ha... (read in full...)
How do I make our sex HOT again?
Q. So...I have been in a relationship with a man I love very much for just about two years. Yesterday morning in bed he told me that he has not been happy with our sex. We use to have AMAZING sex, bragworthy for both of us. He told me that he still ...
A. 21 October 2007: Maybe you could try doing something a little different, that you don't normally do? Or maybe there's something you used to do before while your sex was still "amazing"...? My boyfriend seems to like it when I sit on his lap (but without any actual ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's serious, or just playing me?
Q. Im in major need of some opinions/advice!!! I have known this friend since Feb this year. For the majority of the time I had a bf. However me and my bf broke up 2 months ago. When that happened my frined started showing me alot more attention. ...
A. 21 October 2007: You're right, that whole asking if you're a virgin thing seems a bit suss. Also the thing about not being classed as girlfriend/boyfriend just yet. I had a VERY similar situation with a guy at the beginning of the year, and he ended up using m... (read in full...)
What is this discharge I have suddenly developed? It only comes out during sex.
Q. I really hope you can help me on here, as I don't know who else to ask about this. For the past 6 months when my boyfriend and I make love, when he pulls his penis out it has thick white discharge on it from my vagina. When I have an orgasm, it is ...
A. 21 October 2007: I agree - if it's white and only comes out during sex, it's most likely to be his semen. But otherwise wouldnt it just be normal discharge...? Perhaps it's what your vagina uses to lubricate itself for sex with...? Otherwise I wouldn't have a ... (read in full...)
Girls, would you find it insulting for a boy to ask you out by text?
Q. this is a question for girls, would you find it insulting if a boy was to ask you out, say to go to the cinema using a text message? and would you be more likely to reject them?...
A. 21 October 2007: Hey,
If it's your girlfriend your asking, then that's not a big deal. My boyfriend and I organise things via text or msn all the time.
If you're asking someone out for the first time, it may be better to ask in person. Personally though, I wo... (read in full...)
If I look down there it puts me off from having anyone touch me. How do I know I'm allright?
Q. Heya. This is probally one of the most common questions you come across but you can never find an answer for, well at least i cant. Im worried if i look right or not down below and it puts me off from even having anyone touch me. How do you now if ...
A. 21 October 2007: Hey,
Don't worry about it. I used to be a bit concerned about the same thing a couple of years ago too, and it's nothing to be worried about. Unless there's a really good reason for you to think something's wrong, then it's all good.
Like Ph... (read in full...)
Shall we own up to what didn't happen?
Q. hi to give you abit of background in the situation me and this girl my own age have been best friends since we were little. Her mum and dad have known me since the day i was born and know what i've been through in the past(my dad died when i was 4 ...
A. 21 October 2007: I agree with peoriaman; don't say anything. If it turns out they saw you and they ask about it later, just explain to them nothing happened. Otherwise don't worry about it. You two sound really close, I'm sure they should understand anyway. I do... (read in full...)
While on a date, how do you know if the girl wants to kiss you?
Q. Hey. I just have a question quickly, if you're on a date how do you know if the girl wants to kiss you? thanks Anonymous...
A. 19 October 2007: I'm not too sure if this is true for all girls, but usually if I want a guy to kiss me I tend to look at his mouth a lot. Also, I'll wet my lips a lot, or pout them a bit, or do anything to try to draw attention to them.
And if you find yourself... (read in full...)
How do I save her when she doesn't want my help?
Q. my best friend since kindergarten just told me that she is a lesbian. we have been friends all our lives and i dont know what to do homosexuality is a big big sin and i know that she will go to hell for it. i told her this and she said that god lo...
A. 18 October 2007: Don't let your religion get in the way of your friendship. There's nothing wrong with homosexuality. People can't stop themselves from being gay; it's just a natural thing. Anything that's natural can't be a sin because it can't be helped. ... (read in full...)
Why am I a drinking wreck! Why do still I love abusive, lying cheating partner?
Q. My (currently ex) partner of 7 yrs has cheated on me for 1st 6mths with the mistress his wife was divorcing him for, has constantly lied, stolen 30k from his mum, been on many sex internet sites with his picture replied to all women i put on to ...
A. 18 October 2007: I had some similar problems with a bad ex, and it made me really depressed for a couple of months. What seemed to help me was talking about it with a really close friend who I trusted more than anyone else in the world. He (it was a male friend) was ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept that he is back with his girlfriend? or should I take a risk and tell him how I feel?
Q. I recently met a wonderful boy whilst i was overseas. Although we only spent a short time together, the connection between us was beautiful, we were constantly laughing and i felt like a changed person. During our first meeting we discovered were ...
A. 17 October 2007: I think that you should wait a while and see how things play out. If he seems happy enough with his girlfriend, it'd probably be best to stay away. But if things don't work out for them, or they have troubles, then maybe you should tell him. I kinda ... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance? I will not be abused by him.
Q. we've been very close friends for 6 years and since living 280km apart and studying we couldn't see each other as often as we wished. i knew his girlfriend of four years. then we started dating about 6 months ago(after their breakup because she ...
A. 16 October 2007: If he has another girlfriend like you said, then I don't think you should give him another chance. Especially if they've been having sex! If he's cheated on you, then he obviously can't care as much about you as you do for him. You deserve better ... (read in full...)
Help me-i love my female teacher!
Q. hi i'm 15. a new teacher came to my school. i fell absoloutley madly in love with her, i can never stop thinking about her. it's killing me. i love her more than i've loved anybody. i don't know whether to keep it to myself, or tell her. if i tel...
A. 16 October 2007: Well, I think if it's making you that depressed, you should tell her. Be prepared for rejection though since a relationship is obviously not realistic, as you said. Even if you're scared, it may be good for you in the long run. Think of it as ... (read in full...)
We keep fighting and breaking up. What should I do now?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going out for about 6 months but everytime we fight we break up and then 2 or 3 days later we make up again but the last time he left me for another girl and we were out for about a month and then he came back to me and asked ...
A. 16 October 2007: Personally I think that if your relationship can't survive through a fight, you might not be very well suited for each other. If he keeps leaving you, and especially for other girls, you shouldn't put up with that. From what you've said it seems ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat to get some satisfaction?
Q. Hi there! Can you please give me some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and love him so much, but he doesn't do it for me in the bedroom, as he justs wants a quick 5 minutes and then he is done. Apart from that, everything...
A. 16 October 2007: I agree - you should talk to your boyfriend about it. If your boyfriend is as great as you say he is, then he should be understanding about your feelings. Maybe try suggesting erotic sexy activities as foreplay, which should make things last longer.... (read in full...)
How do you give a woman oral sex?
Q. How do u give a women oral sex? my girlfriend really wants me to give it to her but i have no idea how!...
A. 16 October 2007: Oral sex for women is different than for men, obviously. Basically what you do is lick her genitals. Try aiming for the clitoris, which is the most sensitive spot and will give her the most pleasure. As well as licking, you may also want to try ... (read in full...)
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