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writes:hi to give you abit of background in the situation me and this girl my own age have been best friends since we were little. Her mum and dad have known me since the day i was born and know what i've been through in the past(my dad died when i was 4 and my mum admitted he never wanted me which i always knew and so we don't get on, i'm alot happier btw now i don't see her as much infact id say i love my life despite of that) I stop over at my friends alot and they don't mind. ok when you read this please don't judge me in saying anything about sex or anything like that because i'm not like alot of other lads i care about my friend more than anyone and although i have been in love with her for the past year this has nothing to do with what we did. Anyway now thats cleared up i'll begin. Her mum and dad went away for the night on friday and they knew i was stopping over i normally sleep on the sofa bed in my friends room but that night i didn't. Like i say i have been in love with her for the past year but have never done anything about it because i wanted to make sure that she is the one i want, which she is because i'm mad about her.only two of our other best friends know about this and they keep telling me that she in the same position as me which i can believe actually because we are incredibly close for friends. Anyway that night we were just watching tv and were cuddled up on the settee as we do alot when we are alone, we kissed afew times too. Not as a snog but it was very passionate, we have had the odd kiss and cuddle in the past. Anyway i was very tired that night and in the end i was nearly falling asleep on her but she started to lie down because she was tired too but she wanted to see the end of the program so i lay down behind her. it got to about 12.30am and the program had just finished and we realised as we were going to bed that we hadnt unfolded the sofa bed or got the spare quilt out or anything so we were just lying there and neither of us could be bothered to get up as we were so tired. She then said"we could just stay here all night" i was lying behind her with my face on her shoulders with my arms round her. I said "no we can't because you squashing me" So we finally got up she went and got ready for bed as i went in the bathroom. When i came in i was virtually asleep and could of collapsed on the floor and she said "you can get in here if you want" (she has a double bed) So i did and we both went to sleep(btw i had my arm round her again just like we did downstairs) Anyway when we got up the door was only half shut so you could see in and when we went downstairs although no one was there we could tell her mum and dad had been back because they had dropped some shopping off with a note saying we've gone shopping ring me if theres anything you want. So we are guessing they saw us. We are just so scared of what they are gonna think, they don't know that nothing happened and i shouldn't think she has told them she has any feelings for me. What do we say to her parents? do we ask them if they did see anything, leave it or just confess? Also do you think the way we are together is just plain weird? and how can we develop this even further like how can we finally overcome it all and say how we feel about each other? cause when ever we do cuddle i never want to let go and when we do kiss its so great? Shes the oen i want to be with please help with htese two situations! and one last thing i wouldn't be shocked if you have never come across this situation before.Moderator's note:If you post another question, could you please get straight to the point and make it readable - ie. PARAGRAPHS!
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reader, sweetnsoursauce  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 dont say anything unless they ask you about it, then just tell them the truth and they'll believe you. if they don't bring it up, they probably didn't even see anything.
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reader, JaffaZ  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 I agree with peoriaman; don't say anything. If it turns out they saw you and they ask about it later, just explain to them nothing happened. Otherwise don't worry about it. You two sound really close, I'm sure they should understand anyway.I don't think its weird, how you and your friend are. It seems quite normal to me. If you want things to go further, you can either wait and see if things will unfold naturally in your favour. (which it might) Or, you can talk to your friend and see what she thinks. Maybe you should ask her if she's thought about taking things up to a girlfriend/boyfriend level, and how good you think you two will be together.Good luck!!
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reader, Helpmeplease123 +, writes (21 October 2007):
Hey hows it going? You two definitely have a connection and you should talk to her about it as it sounds like she likes you too. It shouldnt be hard for you two to talk seeing as though you know eachother well. Its weird for two friends to be that close then again its not weird for two people in a relationship and i think you need to establish if thats where you want to be. As for the bed thing, just be honest -thats the best you can do. Goodluck x
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