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writes:I recently met a wonderful boy whilst i was overseas. Although we only spent a short time together, the connection between us was beautiful, we were constantly laughing and i felt like a changed person. During our first meeting we discovered were both from Melbourne, and literally live a 10minute drive from one another. So from what i gathered the situation was perfect, however i soon found out that he just came out of a messy relationship. we didnt promise one another to continue anything romantically once we came back to australia, we were both aware that our meeting was no accident, and that we shared something special. Much to my dissapointment i came back to Australia a few weeks after him, and i found out that he had returned to his ex gf. We have met up a few times since then, and the spark and connection is still there, strangers have even come up to us and mentioned the spark and chemistry between us. About 2 months have passed since my return to Australia... and his still with her.. Im unsure if i should tell him how i feel? Were acting like 'friends' but the feelings are still there between us, we just dont talk about it. Should i just accept that his back with his girlfriend? or should i take a risk and tell him how i feel?
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reader, JaffaZ +, writes (17 October 2007):
 I think that you should wait a while and see how things play out. If he seems happy enough with his girlfriend, it'd probably be best to stay away. But if things don't work out for them, or they have troubles, then maybe you should tell him. I kinda agree with what the others say as well - you should take into consderation that you may not be able to stay friends if you tell him how you feel and the feeling isn't mutual. But if you think you have a good chance that he feels the same way, I think you should go for it. You never know if he just got back with his girlfriend because he doubted he had a chance with you.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (17 October 2007):
I don't think you need to tell him anything, he already knows. Besides if he liked you better than his gf he would have acted differently. Give up on him and find a new bf.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 hi
because this guy come home and and returned to his girl friend says a lot about how he feels,i believe it would be a mistake for you to reveal the way you feel about him, he may not feel the same way about you, he may only see you as a friend and if you tell him your feelings he may end your friendship, holiday romances are very rarely the real thing, two people meet up from the same country, in a different country are bound to make friends but in the cold light of day when you return home it is different again, things go back to normality, you must also consider the feelings of his girl friend, if things get out of hand then you will be in a very messy situation, all the heart ache you will suffer will be unbearable, i do not think you want to go through that, maybe you should just stay friends and if his relationship with his gf end then you are there for him, let him cry on your shoulder, then after he has got over her tell him the way you feel, you are still young yet and have plenty of time to find a boy friend so try not to rush into a relationship witch will cause you pain.
hope this will help you
have a great life
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