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writes:i m in love with a guy and we have sexual relation also. now i wanna marry with him but he is not ready to talk with his parents. now plz tell me either i continu this relationship or end this relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, JaffaZ  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 I think you should hang in there a little longer. If it's necessary for him to talk to his parents first, and you're in love with him, then it may be worth waiting until he's ready to talk to them. Maybe wait a while and see how things go or if anything changes before making any big decisions. He may just need some time; try to be patient with him for as long as you can.
Good luck!
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Well - I see that your flag says India - so I'm assuming that's where you are from. I'm also assuming that this is not an arranged marriage either (and for those reading this I DO have friends from India who's marriages were arranged by their parents. This may not happen a whole lot anymore, but it still happens. Before you go jumping down my throat...).
I think you should wait. From what I understand, parents in your culture are heavily involved in their children's lives - no matter the age - when it comes to marriage. But you might want to talk with him about why he isn't ready to talk to his parents about your marriage yet. Maybe he's just having "cold feet" or second thoughts about getting married. Talking with him might reveal what the problem is. Wait it out if you truly love him.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Checkup Man  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Talk with his parents about what, for goodness sake? He is, I imagine, old enough to decide for himself about his future wife? He should be able to know by now if he wants you or not! His parents cannot decide for him. I've heard of this situation before from a guy of 28 in fact! He ended up crying his eyes out because his father said he didn't like his girlfriend and the engagement was broken off! All the best to you! Take care! Lots of love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): My advice would be to see him less often. This may prompt him into seeing what he has to lose. If this has no effect end the relationship.
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