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writes:I met this guy on a dating site and after exchanging photos and mails constantly,we are both in love and we will be meeting very soon.My only worry is that he talks about sex everyday and even tells me that he loves it to death.He also tells me that he loves me very much and cant wait to have it with me.Is our relationship takin' a right direction???Or is there need for me to worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Well hun, considering I am in a very similar situation I can relate from experience. I won't say that you should or shouldn't be worried, but what I will say is that you should trust your gut. If you feel that this is a bad direction for your relationship, than it is. No ifs, ands, or buts. Conversly, men are wired differently then women, they think about sex a lot, it seems sometimes that they can't think about a loving relationship without it. My suggestion would be to ask him point blank what he would do if you said no, now there is always the posibility that he would lie, but if he truly loves you like you believe he does then he should have no reason to lie to you. But really do be careful because men just like women lie, and the internet is a grand forum for the more undesirables of the world to come out and play in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): be very careful
i have just had this happen.
we chatted alot online, then met. i was attracted to him and we slept together. i consented but he was married.
he told me he loved me, and i told him not to say that as it wasnt true.
over the time, my feelings grew as we chatted alot and met again.i was lonely and he said things i wanted to hear. i had just split from a long term relationship.
then i found him on other sites, looking for other women.
i feel hurt and realise he abused my weakness of being lonely and recently seperated. i feel sorry for his wife and wonder what is so wrong in their marriage.
i know he lost interest in me and he has told me to grow up.
that says it all - i was stupid to even go there and i deserve to be hurt again,
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): uh, YAbe worriedif doesn't pay attention to what you say at dinner or is constantly looking at your privates or (eww!)worshiping them, don't have sex...you know personally i wouldn't actually try meeting him AT ALL.best of luck , take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Hi,I think this guy is more interested in having sex with you than actually loving you. I'd be a bit worried if it was me to be honest. You hear all the time about the dangers of internet dating, more for teenagers, but how do you know that this guy is who he says he is? Does him talking about sex all the time make you uncomfortable? If you met him and said you didn't want to have sex do you think he'd get violent? You can never be sure when you have only met him over the internet. Like Miss C said, Be careful sweetie x
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Hello.
I think by what you have said that he only want to get his way with you, and then he will be gone, onto the rest of the females on the dating site,i think this guy is ill so you had better watch yourself, if you meet after all he has told you what he wants from you,(said that yourself)it would be a mistake on your part to even show up.
Wish you well good luck.
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 well honestly I really think that this guy is much more interested about sex and not to you,. First of all how long were you and this guy know each other to consider that you could possibly be in love with each other? you barely met him in a dating site! on my personal opinion, if he's really interested in you he would give extra effort to show you that he loves you with all the respect he could show. I'm worried about YOU! I dont think that meeting this guy is a wise idea, coz we don't know what's on his mind. but if you really wanted to, make sure that you have a friend to accompany you.
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reader, JaffaZ  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 I agree with the others - you should be worried, because he's probably just going to use you for sex.
Never completely trust internet dating sites either. Believe me on this one, I've done that myself once before, and never again. You'll just get used for sex. There are some really dodgy guys on those sites, and many of them lie about who they are. They're only trying to find someone to have sex with. There are some genuine guys looking for love, of course. But if he's that eager to have sex, then I wouldn't be too quick to trust him, especially if you've never met...
Anyway, good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): I'm beginning to lose count of the questions relating to falling in 'love' on the internet!
The answer is still the same. Love is something that grows like a beautiful flower from a tiny seed. It's not something that suddenly appears out of the blue, and it certainly doesn't blossom from a dating site or on a computer until you've actually met each other in the flesh and spent a LOT of time together.
1. How do you know he is what he says he is?
2. How do you know that's his photo he's sent you?
3. How do you know if he's genuinely looking for romance?
Meet up first before deciding that you're 'in love'. Chances are, you won't be.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): meeting how you ave is fine,but if this is going to be your very 1st actuall person to person meet,then makesure you tell plenty of people where you are and who with and make sure you are in a busy place,but im totally sure you know that anyway.As far as him saying he cannot wait to have sex with you,if he truley means wat he says wen he says he loves you then he wont mind waiting until you feel ready and comfortable to do so,i believe uf you sleep wiv himstraight away you will be setting yourself up for a big fall and hurt.
yous sincerly mark.
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