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writes:i've been with my boyfriend a while now and we've started having sex. everytime we do, it's really painful and i can't wait for it to be over. i have talked to my boyfriend about this and he does whatever he can to make it less painful, it is worse when his penis first enters. we always use a condom and im wondering if that make it more uncomfortable and it is that thats causing the pain? however i don't want to try sex without a condom cos of the risk of infection and getting pregnant. someone please help!!
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reader, Be a good man  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Oh , my god!I cannot believe this.
However,I hope you and your boyfriend will be ok soon all the same.
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reader, JaffaZ  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Don't worry about the pain, as Mistify said, that's normal when you first start having sex. Eventually things will get better.
But even if you've been having sex for awhile, it can still really hurt if you're not "in the mood." That's the whole point of foreplay - it's supposed to get you excited enough so that your body can prepare itself for having sex (opens a bit wider, and creates a natural lubricant.) So if you've been skipping foreplay/haven't done it for a long enough time, then your body wouldn't have had enough time to prepare, and it can still really hurt.
And yes, always use a condom.
Good luck!
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 It is normal for sex to be painfull for a couple of times when you first start having it.
You are wise not to want to try without a condom. Yes - the condom might cause friction, but there are ways around this.
You can find a lubricant at most supermarkets and chemists. Try this for a while until your body gets used to it. It adds to the fun.
Good luck
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