I know it would be sensible to leave him but I'm unsure how to do so
Q. I am 21 and never got involved with a guy before.I used to love being single. Then I met this guy online who used to be my classmate and a big flirt.He lives in another city.We spend a very lovely time together for 1 month when he was in my city ...
A. 6 May 2009: It would seem you have already asked yourself, does this relationship make me happy? Your answer looked to be an astounding NO. You realize you should move on but aren't quit sure how to do as such.
This certainly is the hard part isn't it? Whe... (read in full...)
We passed 100,000 questions published on DearCupid
Q. Today is another milestone in DearCupid history: Over 100,000 questions (100,020 as I write this) have been published! Wow. Thanks to the aunts, the moderators and everyone who shares their problem. As always any ideas on how to improve the s...
A. 6 May 2009: That's awesome news. It feels good to know that a possible 100,000 people have been helped for the good (hopefully) and all thanks to everyday people.... (read in full...)
He says he likes me but he won't move it along
Q. So I have this buddy who I've know for two years and we've continually have gotten closer. Well I'm bi and I have a crush on him so I told him I like him and he tells me he has a thing for me too. Now the thing is when I try to take it to another ...
A. 30 April 2009: You're welcome.
This part is always easier said then done. Just be open with him. Tell him exactly what you want and how you feel about him. I would start by first writing down everything you want from a relationship and read it to yourself... (read in full...)
He says he likes me but he won't move it along
Q. So I have this buddy who I've know for two years and we've continually have gotten closer. Well I'm bi and I have a crush on him so I told him I like him and he tells me he has a thing for me too. Now the thing is when I try to take it to another ...
A. 30 April 2009: From your quick write up it seems plain as day to me. He has feelings for you but at the same time he doesn't want to be "gay" to the world he lives in.
I take it he's never been openly gay? He's never going to be comfortable in a relation... (read in full...)
What happened to me????? Sexual harassment?
Q. Ok now last October I went to a lock-in. And this boy in my class was there. During the dance he came up to me and tried to make me dance with him but I said no and my BFF told him to leave me alown.(I don't like him he's like a really bad boy). He ...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, you said you couldn't really tell what he was doing so I wouldn't call that SEXUAL harassment for sure. Either way you were harassed. What happened to you is NOT RIGHT. Are you hurt in any way other then emotionally? You can either cha... (read in full...)
My beautiful baby was born dead and I'm finding it very difficult to cope... Please help me...
Q. On the 27th of February my baby was born dead... I'm finding it very hard to grieve and do anything. I have an 18 month old baby and I can't seem to hold her... I don't know how to go on. Please I need some help. ...
A. 23 March 2009: Even finding help on this matter is hard. There are two very strong views on grieving.
1. If you don't grieve right away then something is wrong with you and they try to fix you.
or
2. EVERYONE grieves differently. I follow this ideal. I'... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, I don't know why we're not dating or even married!
Q. This is going to sound so cliche, but I have to know what exactly it is I'm supposed to do here. I'm 31 and I have a two year old daughter with my best friend whom happens to be a guy I've known for about twenty years. This guy and I are not ...
A. 6 March 2009: I'm not sure why you're questioning your love based on dating or marriage. Don't people fall in love BEFORE marriage anyway?
You knew this guy for 20 years! My guess is you know a lot about him. More then other people when they fall in love.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is obsessed with my penis!
Q. I know this may sound silly but it's true. My girlfriend is obsessed with my penis. I don't know why, maybe it's because she's never seen one in real life before me... or something, I don't know. She's so fascinated by it, she's always wants to ...
A. 6 March 2009: Whoa! Slow down there guy :)
You are dating a heterosexual woman. She likes penis. That is perfectly normal.
Sounds like she has a pretty high sex drive inside her. So, consider the flip side... low sex drive. She could not care about y... (read in full...)
Is there something else that might fit the description I've given of these bumps?
Q. Ok I posted yesterday about weird bumps on my vaginal lips. The headline was "pimples on my "lips"! There's a few of them, maybe 4 or 5 and a couple are bigger than the others, but none of them are huge. They are not on the outside of the vaginal ...
A. 6 March 2009: I can tell you this, my ex wife had exactly what you are describing. The funny part is, they would MOVE!!! Not really, what was happening is they would come and go in different places. You pinch them and they felt like hard little tiny balls ... (read in full...)
On penis size, debunking the myths
Q. Usually, it's women who have worries about our appearance. We usually wonder if this is too big, if this is too small, too short, too tall, etc. We usually get the same answer: "It's the inside that counts". And it's true, albeit hard to believe. I ...
A. 5 March 2009: I came here because of Tisha-1 post link. Very good article. If I may add my two cents....
Girth does play a good role in stimulation. For some women it's doesn't matter as their clitoris might be too small anyway, but for medium size and abov... (read in full...)
Does wearing specs mean I'm a geek?
Q. Whats your view as society on people who wear spectacles.? Recently i moved in to a new college and i am taking science and math classes. people call me a geek. Should i stop wearing them???...
A. 5 March 2009: No, spectacles do not make you a geek. Being a geek makes you a geek.
You are in college and people are calling you names? Seriously? What state are you in? I'll be sure to keep my future kids out of it! Or are these your friends messing ... (read in full...)
Stockings/leggings/tights fetish.
Q. I love stockings/leggings/tights/anything else that really tightly hugs the legs of a woman (this includes tight jeans). I haven't really been able to pinpoint the reason why I have this fetish. Is there any reason why I like these things? Or is ...
A. 5 March 2009: Just roll with it. Everyone has their own interests. For me it's hair. Nothing beats long wavy hair for me. Gets me all wild! Very sexy! My current girl and I are a perfect match. She loves her hair being stroked and I love to stroke a womans ... (read in full...)
He says I need to be more open when I want sex
Q. Is it okay to let my boyfriend know how I'm feeling? He says I have to be more open with him and tell him when I want sex. He tells me all the time. Do guys like that? Makes you feel wanted.. ummm a turn on? I don't know..maybe send him a naugh...
A. 5 March 2009: Can't really add much to the first post except to back it up. Yes, us guys have all the same feelings as you women. We want to feel wanted. The more open you are with your partner the better off your love life will be.
Communication is NEVER NE... (read in full...)
What does a woman smell like?
Q. i don't want to sound like a jerk or anything, but does a woman's vagina have a bad smell. what does a woman's vagina smell like? The reason i am asking because i don't want to get that far with a woman on pleasing her down there and then find out ...
A. 5 March 2009: The smell depends on the woman and whether it's bad or not depends on you (ok, both of you). Yes, it's possible that a woman smells horrible. If she's dirty and doesn't clean herself well, yeah, it'll smell bad.
For the most part, the smell is... (read in full...)
Wrong to love one and be with another?
Q. Basically i don't know who i want to be with. it's pretty much i want girl2 but i'm happy with girl1. Me and girl1 are in a great relationship. I do actually love her. I see her like 3 times a week and we always have fun if we go out or just watch ...
A. 5 March 2009: It seems to me your heart wants both. But you can't have both and your heart will never decide. Time to turn off your heart and turn on your brain.
List all the things you want from a relationship. Who matches the most of them? Who is MORE RIG... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage wanting more
Q. I'm in a sexless marriage now for over a year--irregular for 3 years prior to that. counseling hasn't seemed to help. I've been seriously thinking of a "friends with benefits" type of relationship rather than an outright affair and would like to ...
A. 27 February 2009: I say no. You have marriage vows to uphold. So, you've been through counseling, he knows how you feel yet is still unwilling to give you what you want or meet you half way? It sounds like he's already not upholding his vows. Did you discuss ... (read in full...)
Is 32 years... old???
Q. Is 32 old? In people's eyes and in comparison to some still in their 20's?...
A. 27 February 2009: I'll be 34 soon and I'm still not old! But I'm a kid at heart.... (read in full...)
I'm confused because he hugs other girls as well, help!!
Q. Theres a guy at school, who i knows likes me but i don't think i like him in that way, but there is a guy that i kinda like and i was talking to my friends about the guy that likes me and the guy that i like was there too and he's friends with the ...
A. 27 February 2009: I agree with Janicp14. I'm a hugger myself. I love to give hugs and love to receive them even more. But there's a major difference between giving someone a friendly hug and giving someone a HUG!!! Does he hug any one person in particular any ... (read in full...)
How can I win her trust back? I love her so very much.
Q. At the start of our relationship, I made the horrible decision to talk with some ex's in a way that I shouldn't. It was completely online, and I did not cheat physically in any way. To be frank, I was scared of the relationship I am in. It was ...
A. 27 February 2009: You've done a lot but have you done everything? It's easy for you to SAY you are sorry and wont do it again. However you are asking her to move the world in order to forgive and forget. Seems to me she doesn't even know how to start doing as ... (read in full...)
My ex is causing problems between me and my guy!
Q. I was sleeping with a friend/coworker. My ex came by my house drunk over the weekend. I was drunk too, worried about him driving. Let him into my apartment. ended up going through my phone. Found some questionable texts between me and this other ...
A. 27 February 2009: You need to lay down the LAW girl! Your ex is obviously NOT a good person to have around as an ex or a friend. I know it's hindsight but you should have slammed the door in his face that night. He is having a negative affect on your life and yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he was bi-curious, but found out he's more... help!
Q. I am a female who wrote a question about my live in boyfriend. I wrote that I was worried because he had been bi-curious before he had met me. He and I had been dating for 4 months then moved in together. After several weeks I came accross some ...
A. 27 February 2009: Bi-sexual things? What things? Has he or has he not been another guy? Just to lay something out on the table for you to look at, men have a prostate. It feels good to massage the prostate and the only way to get to it is through the rear... (read in full...)
Is he just not that into me?
Q. ive been going out with this guy for the past 3 months. we're both in the university. even if were dating, our status is still just friends because he doesnt want to have a relationship. it started this way. one day when we went out, we started ...
A. 27 February 2009: The way you described his actions reminds me of a situation I was in once. Except I was honest about my feelings. So let me describe what I went through.
For 4 years I had a crush on a gal at work. But i never did anything about it as I was... (read in full...)
I really dig my friends younger sister, go for it or...?
Q. Ok, heres the deal... My friend (who is a girl by the way) has a 16 year old sister and I am 19. I like her and she seems to like me but I've been a bit hesitant so go too far with it because I'm not sure how my my friend (her older sister) would re...
A. 27 February 2009: I agree, discuss it with your friend first so there are no shocking surprises. But then discuss it with the gal you like immediately afterwards.
All in all, if this person was truly your friend then she would wish you all the best.... (read in full...)
Should I try and talk to him or just let him go?
Q. His jealousy makes him angry and he gets himself very upset. He is not one to handle any type of emotional strife of any sort. But instead of talking about things and working through it he would rather walk away. He says he cant have any roller ...
A. 27 February 2009: Well, if the good outweighs the bad then maybe you should talk to him. If you can chisel some of the bad out then their would be even more good to look at. What is making him jealous? Is there anything you are doing that enables him to be insecu... (read in full...)
What do we do? Choose the holiday or try our best to get this house?
Q. i need advice on what i should do. myself and my boyfriend have planned to go away in the summer with family for a family members big birthday. it will be so much fun i no as we havent been away in a few years. i have the money here to book it ...
A. 27 February 2009: I agree with everyone else. If you are trying to buy a house then you should keep that commitment going. The hard part is getting into the house. Then you'll be putting money every month into your own pocket instead of someone else's pocket for ... (read in full...)
I don't understand his behavior
Q. Hello, I would like to have your opinions on this matter. Even if I always condemned it, it happened that I became interested in a man at my workplace who is married, really I did not want this to happen, it just happened. It's hard sometime...
A. 25 February 2009: I agree. You played a pretty good mind game with him. It might not have been intentional but it happened all the same. What exactly did you expect to come from this?
A fling? If so and if he takes the bate then great for you, bad for him and ... (read in full...)
My sex drive is going through the roof! Why???
Q. I'm a 24 year old female. I think that my sex drive is too high. I think about it all the time, in the car, at work, the grocery store, everywhere!!! I'm in a great relationship, but my boyfriend's drive is nowhere near mine. I take care of ...
A. 25 February 2009: If you don't me asking, how often do you require an orgasm? More then once a day? At 24 there is nothing wrong with once a day. I'm 33 and I'm pretty much once a day.
But then again, if you are more then once a day then yes, by percenta... (read in full...)
What sexual position do women enjoy the most?
Q. Simple one really...what are a woman's favourite sex positions that satisfy her the most? I think my girlfriend is getting bored of missionary... ...
A. 24 February 2009: Not only is every women different but what they like can change over time.
Maybe buy a karma sutra book...TOGETHER. Both read through it and point at what you want to try.... (read in full...)
I don't want my partner to know I secretely prefer to watch women in porn
Q. I am in a loving releionship, but I when my partner is not around I secretlety watch porn, preferring to watch girls than men. In real life I find men very attractive and would not want to date a woman. i have had an experience with a woman in ym pa...
A. 24 February 2009: 1. You are Bi.
2. #1 doesn't matter.
3. You should not be hiding it from your boyfriend. After all this could cause issues. For example, he wants to surprise you one night followed by a very CLOSE night together. But gee, you just finishe... (read in full...)
Are all men forgetful? Or do they just not care?
Q. Are all men forgetful or do they just don't care?!? Ok, today I've been with my bf for 1 month!! And many more to come!!! He hasn't said anything. Should I mention it? Or is that really not an important date for a guy?...
A. 24 February 2009: These things aren't important to everyone. That includes men AND women.
For me I've been dating a very special gal since Feb 7th and on March 7th I plan to do something with her. But this will be the first time either myself or anyone else ini... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my saggy clit, help?
Q. mkkay well can you help me! i wanted ta know is it normal for your clit to be saggy? and is it a turn off? i didnt let my ex touch me down there because i as so insecure about it! i want to sex my boy friend but im afraid he will be freaked out by ...
A. 24 February 2009: Oh wow! It's times like these I hate our society.
1. As was already stated, all women are different. Some women have clits that are too small (hard to finish). What would be considered normal (can still be hard to finish). Some who are extr... (read in full...)
Is my b/f pervy or does he love me?
Q. pls pls as many opinions as possible from men and women, im having a hard time deciding if my b/f is a bit pervy or does he love me. everything comes down to sex if i want anythin he will jokingly reqest sex or a favour like that. when i see him he ...
A. 24 February 2009: This is strictly my opinion. You seem to have a break down of respect. Sex between two people should include AND ONLY INCLUDE things that are wanted by both parties. 1. He should NEVER do anything to you that you do not want done to yourself... (read in full...)
How do I not get attached to him?
Q. I've been sleeping with a guy since early this month. It started out as a NSA (no strings attached), but after being with him, chatting with him alot, sleeping with him twice, it's getting more difficult for me to get him out of my head. I try to ...
A. 24 February 2009: It sounds like you went down a road you didn't want to go down. But guess what? You're there none the less. Do you think you might be changing your mind about NSA? Do you think he is? Anyone here can only guess what your man is thinking and ... (read in full...)
I kissed another girl, but I didn't plan to cheat, help?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 and half years now. Last week when she was away I went to the cinema with a friend of mine who is female as it was her birthday. After the film while waiting for her mum is was a bit cold so we hugged ...
A. 24 February 2009: Well, you obviously know what you did was wrong as you are labeling it cheating. You can cheat mind, body and soul.
We all make mistakes. But you need to be honest with yourself for the sake of yourself and your girlfriend. Was it only a kiss? ... (read in full...)
My wife had a boob job, after I said no. I am leaving her!
Q. My wife went and had a boob job and I find it absolutely disgusting. Once she had small, pretty breasts and I loved them just the way they were. she kept asking me if she should get them "done" and I told her no, not only no but, H--L NO!!!!! I ...
A. 24 February 2009: First, here's a qualifying scenario on my part. My wife of 7 years started smoking 5 years into our marriage. She quit when she met me (hid it at first) because she was made aware of how I felt about it. Then shortly after, quit. I found out ... (read in full...)
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