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writes:Are all men forgetful or do they just don't care?!? Ok, today I've been with my bf for 1 month!! And many more to come!!! He hasn't said anything. Should I mention it? Or is that really not an important date for a guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): A month 'anniversary'?? since when is a month a celebration?
this seems very gooey, and fair enough if you are that way inclined, but whyever would you just assume your bloke is too?
d'ya want a card and gift exchange every month forever? seems somewhat over the top! but if it floats your boat, at least ask him if he's into monthly celebrations too before you get angry at him for not happening to share this quirk! especially in your late 20s...!
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reader, ISOHaven +, writes (24 February 2009):
These things aren't important to everyone. That includes men AND women.
For me I've been dating a very special gal since Feb 7th and on March 7th I plan to do something with her. But this will be the first time either myself or anyone else initiated a one month anniversary.
But then again, this is the first person I ever dated that had a child and I don't get to spend nearly the amount of time with her as I'd like so maybe I'm reaching. Either way, it seems to depend on each individual situation.
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reader, Auntie Jez  +, writes (24 February 2009):
Hi HoneyI dont think that he will be that bothered as men dont tend to be that into anniversaries unless it is an important one. Dont worry he probably is not thinking about it - he is probably just thinking how lucky he is to be going out with you!!!Dont worry!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 February 2009):
 If you have expectations about the day, it's a really good idea to let him know. Otherwise, you're blindsiding him if you get miffed or angry or hurt that he didn't remember or even notice. And that's not playing nice with his feelings. Personally, we forget our wedding anniversary every year until someone sends a card and that reminds us. It's just another day to us, a happy one, yes, but not one built on over-reaching expectations.
I think you'd score some brownie points if you were to tell him, "Hey, hon, we've been together for a month! Happy day!" with real joy in your voice. (If you're really miffed, don't do this, as it will show.) Then give him an extra hug and smooch and help him remember why you two got together in the first place... *ahem*
If you have high expectations about how your one year anniversary (should you reach that stage) should be celebrated, make sure he has some lead time and clear and obvious hints or directions from you. There's no point in setting the guy up for failure here. And wait until month 10 or so before you start talking that up.
Congrats on the new beau. Ah, young love! So sweet and so fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): the thing about valentines day is us guys generally get a few warnings to jog our memory's like hints from the ladies or the thousands of cards out there...the same is true for christmas and easter.... however i don't see a one month card.... so how are we supposed to remember.
Don't be stupid and mark time like that - mark it with things like this is the first time we kissed, shagged... etc. And what is so special about a month he could be doing it on a 6 weekly calendar?
but yes we do forget...as do the women too... sigh.
Hugs Star.x.
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reader, Aylarsh +, writes (24 February 2009):
 it is important but I wouldn't say anything until you guys get really serious and you have been together for awhile. But don't say you don't remember just say o it's our anniversary or something you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): OH my gosh just wait till it gets more seriouslike six months! A month is nothing! It is usual for most people not to remember the exact date they got together! My gosh
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