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anonymous
writes:I am 25 yrs old,and spent the first 3 years of my sex life with a man of "Well Above Average Size". the sex was great - I orgasmed most of the time. Over the last year, I have been living with a man who is "average" and have not been able to achieve orgasm at all. with him inside me. Suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2015): Don't focus on the penetrative sex only, there are many ways of achieving an orgasm. Let him go down on you or use his fingers. He or you can play with your clot while he's inside you, to help you achieve orgasm.
I would say my parner is pretty well endowed, and while I have orgasm from intercourse sometimes, I prefer the orgasm he gives me when he goes down on me, and inserts his finger inside me at the same time. The orgasm then is just mind blowing for me. Its more powerful and pleasurable than the one through intercourse.
Of course I understand everyone has their preferences. Maybe for you orgasm from penetrative sex is what makes you happy. If you can't find ways around it then perhaps you should move on. One of the previous posters was right when he said you wouldn't want to spend many, many years with someone you are unhappy with sexually.
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reader, ILMCSW +, writes (13 January 2015):
like the anon said, try foreplay it will help to stimulate you.
also can you with of what the other man did that this one does not? perhaps he did it differently.
find new things to stimulate eachother i.e sex toys, postions, type of condom, ect.
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reader, happylife +, writes (8 January 2015):
Well I have been with my wife for 10 years and she does not enjoy sex. Its very difficult for her to meet my sexual needs because she doesn't enjoy it with me. Frankly, this is not a good thing for any relationship. If you just can't reach orgasms ever then my advice would be to move on because he will always want to have frequent sex with you but if you don't enjoy it you just won't be able to keep up with him and will begin to have arguments and fights about sex. So pick a partner that you enjoy having sex with because men like sex all the way into their very late ages (70+ years old) and you will have a miserable marriage if you have to spend the next 50 to 60 years having unpleasant sex with your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): try different positions etc, also let him focus on foreplay a lot more .. failing that allow him access to your back door ..you might like it
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