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writes:I have a girlfriend i been with for 3 years. we have split up for six month but have been back together for a yr. I love her but i met this girl recently who i have been really fond with. I am only 19 yrs old and i feel trapped that i cant go out with anyone else what should i do?
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reader, pabs +, writes (8 February 2007):
pabs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you the situation was resolved. thank you for ALL YOUR HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): Forget the other girl and stay with your girlfriend. After all, the other girl might not feel the same way back about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): from another perspective maybe you should live with your gf before making your life hell. Its possible you are settling for something that isnt what you really want. Truely look at your relationships and decide if your gf is really worth it.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): Your not trapped cos your not married, have no ties/no kids and you are WAAAAAAAY too young to tie yourself down to just one person at such a young age!!You should be out having fun and living your life to the fullest - these are the best years of your life instead of worrying about this problem!!
I know cos I was 19 when I started goin out with my boyf and he was 23. Things were great at the start but then I started wanting different things to him - wanted to travel & see the world and he didn't! I spent 9 years with him before finally having the courage to split from him! It was hard but it was the best thing I could have done! I do regret not doin it earlier but now I'm happier and doin the things I wanted to years ago!!!
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reader, Reebe +, writes (10 January 2007):
 I think you have answered this question yourself. If you are feeling the way you are right now then you are not ready for a full on relationship. Your a young guy and although it maybe hard I think you should end your relationship with your girlfriend, please be honest with her and explain that your young and you want to experience some life before you settle down with 1 person. Don't make it sound like you want to play the field tho!
Be careful that your not making a mistake and this is what you truely want, if you think you can make it work by talking your feelings through with your girlfriend, maybe spend less time together for a while and hang out with your mates a bit more. Think about what you would feel best about in 6 months time and what you think will make you the happiest.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): I agree. If you are feeling trapped, then you don't truely love your current gf in a committed, meaningful way. If you did, no other female could ever turn your head and you would be inspired to make this relationship with her, as remarkable as possible. You sound unhappy and you are very clearly unsatisfied in this relationship. My suggestion: Come clean with your gf-tell her you aren't interested in an exclusive relationship anymore. It's time for both of you to go your own ways-plain and simple. I happen to believe that a true mark of maturity is the ability to accept things the way they are as well as using honesty and compassion when dealing with unhappy circumstances. You sound excited about this other female..and I think you want to pursue it. But...before you do anything, you need to be honest with your gf. I know, ending a relationship sucks. But this is the only way for her, to walk away with her dignity. Good luck.
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reader, happylife +, writes (10 January 2007):
Don't worry about marriage at all at age 19. This is the time when it is OK for you to make mistakes. marilyn512 gave you good advice. However, if you decide that you want to chase the greener grass then go for it. If you regret in the future than at least you will learn the important lesson that you don't already know;
1. The grass looks greener on the other side.
2. If the grass is truly greener on the other side than you can definitely expect a higher water bill with it.
Good luck!
Happylife.
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reader, marilyn512 +, writes (10 January 2007):
Well if you are truely in love with your girlfriend you shouldnt want anyone else. i mean it is human nature to want attractive people you cant have, but you need to either realize why you love your gf, are you going to marry her, or is this an oppertunity to get out.
from personal experience you will want her back after she is gone. so i think you like her more than you know, and will miss your gf. and if this is the case and you choose to go out with a new girl, then your gf probibly wont want you back, so make a good choice
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