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... Send *renzotic a private message | | | *renzotic's profile:Many friends of mine always come to me for advice and support for issues in their life whether general issues, financial issues but more often than anything it's relationship issues.
I'm still puzzled as to why they make me the first person to see but as I've found out from a dear friend of mine, I have an uncanny ability to see from many perspective, put my feet into different shoes and see things from both a male and female mindstate.
I've always been lending not just an ear but a hand to people. I like to try and help people with their worries and let them know there are ways of finding light at the end of the tunnel.
I hope that maybe some of my suggestions and words into some of your issues may prove helpful into ensuring the health of your relationships, into the people in your lives and to you. =] |
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Why do I treat him like this?
Q. what is wrong with me? theres this guy i lile and i am often very mean to him. he likes me too were friends. i always treat other guys nicely, flirt with other guys, dance with other guys even though im not doing anything serious after with them.the ...
A. 19 January 2010: I think both you guys are waiting for something to happen; for one of you guys to make the first move.
Maybe you or even both of you are subconsciously frustrated by all this waiting so that you guys flirt/dance with other guys/girls to get each... (read in full...)
I have proof she was cheating, but she still denies everything
Q. what if you're you been a girl for with a year now, and she thought she could be slick and have a side relationship with a another guy, but when you caught her and even gave her sure proof, she denies it. Even when u have proof of them flirting...
A. 19 January 2010: She denies it yet you've got proof and showed it to her right? Is she even explaining/proving her actions?
She's being unfaithful to you. Don't put up with it when it's evident she's lying to you.... (read in full...)
Online dating and trust
Q. hi there, I need your advice on my situation. I am an international student in the US. During my thesis writing, I felt so stressful and boring, then I googled and joined a chat forum where I met a guy from Singapore. We started to talk and he s...
A. 19 January 2010: It is possible to build some sort of relationship but you need to spend ALOT more time knowing each other, talking to each other and meeting each other.
The fact he has moved onto the more intimate side so quickly means you should be wary though. ... (read in full...)
What signs do you look for to know a guy fancies you?
Q. dear cupid, ok i am a 14 year old girl an i have never really had a boyfriend or a boy fancy me for that matter, and well recently some boys have been acting a bit differently around me, i dont know what it is, could they have a crush on me becau...
A. 14 January 2010: Glances that last longer than they should
They always look around/at you
They smile or go shy around you OR they show off around you.
They tease/jokingly pick on you.
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What other means of ID can I use?
Q. hi this isnt a relationship question but i thought id ask anyway! i have lost my passport and provisional licence and have no other identification so i can get new ones i originally used my birth certificate but that has gone too, any ideas on what ...
A. 14 January 2010: I think your only option is to head to the General registration office and order a copy of your birth certificate. I think the type of proof you may require then would be your mothers/fathers to prove you are the child?/bank or bill statement? Try ... (read in full...)
I'm almost a year married but I've still not had sex as I'm afraid of the pain! Help!!!
Q. hi i know the question i am going to ask is strange that i have. it is almost 1 year since i got married and still i am a virgin. i am afraid of sex, i think it will pain me. i tried many times but i failed, plz give me some tips, and help me. T...
A. 14 January 2010: My advice is to get comfortable in your own skin and around your partner's own skin. Relax, enjoy the moment, have tons of foreplay (important!!) as it helps relax you and gets you in the mood as well as helps you to produce lubrication for sexual ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when you have stretch marks?
Q. well this isn't a sex or relationship question but I hope you can help me. What do stretch marks mean? Are you gaining or losing weight?...
A. 14 January 2010: It usually means you're gaining weight either as fat or muscle. It stretches that skin to accomodate the fast build of fat or muscle. Think about pregnant women who have to deal with stretchmarks on their stomachs that happens when their baby is ... (read in full...)
When it came down to it... why did he not do what he was dying to do?
Q. I started a fight with my bf ealier today, i felt bad. So to make it up to him I told him he could do a certain sexual act on me that for months and months i told him he couldn't b/c it just wasn't my cup of tea. Well I figured he'd just jump r...
A. 14 January 2010: You have to be in the mood for sexual activity which he won't be after a fight. As well as that, you using this to say sorry may not seem right. Don't use sex/sexual activity as sorry. He's probably hurt by that thought.... (read in full...)
Age dfference, but can't help the feelings!
Q. Hello, I am a fourteen and a half girl. Anyway this is my dilemna and I'd really appreciate it if you could give me your input or some advice. Just recently , I went back to my homeland, where I was actually born. There we have really good fami...
A. 2 January 2010: It's not at all horrible that you guys are fantasising these ideas though please please please don't let it become too much serious fantasising and dreaming as this could set you up for potential heartbreak if it doesn't happen. Despite the feelings ... (read in full...)
How do long distance relationships work out?
Q. So right now im a member of this site where gay or bi guys can chat, share pics, share music... its basically a myspace for dudes only but betta den them otha sites cuz u dont gotta pay nuthin to earn gold memba status or nuthin like dat (btw this ...
A. 30 December 2009: They can turn out good if you both are realistic about the potential relationship/where it's going and make time to know each other outside of the online world.
Alot of the time many people lose sight at the fact the relationship they are building... (read in full...)
My lips are very dry and swell.....why?
Q. I'm not sure why, but ever since going on roaccutane 2 years ago (I've been off it for a year), my lips have been incredibly dry. I use blistex/paw paw ointment several times a day and have had pregnazone to try ease swelling. Any ideas?...
A. 28 December 2009: I'm afraid you're on a very powerful drug and that symptom is one of many very common side effects when on this particular drug. There's not much you can do but if you search on the internet for people who have also been on roaccutane you may find ... (read in full...)
Should I invest everything for this girl or have a back up plan?
Q. okay..so i have fallen madly in love with this other girl on the internet. im 20 and she is 17. from the first chat,things just flowed and its gotten to a ridiculously sweet level that it scares me! we havent talked on the phone yet as she lives far ...
A. 24 December 2009: Hey, I know exactly where you're coming from and thankfully for me and my other half things have been progressing extremely well in that he's moving to the UK. (LDR's CAN WORK OUT!) My advice is not to invest everything into someone despite ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend so so much but can it really last forever?
Q. I don't know how to begin. I guess ill start with the basics. I am 17 and me and my girlfriend have been going out around 5months and i am so in love with her. I can really see us being more than a high school thing and us never breaking up and ...
A. 22 December 2009: I would never let age dictate the lasting of a relationship.
Simply put, if you guys love each other enough, can forgive each other and work at arguments, help each other through the trials life throws at you both then it will last.
Howev... (read in full...)
She thinks she loves me but we've never met and I'm just not feeling it.
Q. There's this girl I'm friends with. We've been friends for a while now but never met because she lives in a different country from me. We talk on the phone alot and have become really close. She tells me that she loves me, I'm the first boy to treat ...
A. 22 December 2009: I think here she needs you emotionally more than anything. She's a bit lost in a fantasy, you gotta help her realise the reality of it.
I'm assuming that despite your attraction to her you don't feel the way that she does. You need to help her face... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend's family suddenly not trust me anymore?
Q. Hi i'm 17 and have just come back early from my first visit to my girlfriends house. This was an interesting experience. I've been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and she's been round my house a lot and we've been out on a Friday ...
A. 18 December 2009: I think you and her dad should begin the first point of contact...TALK.
You should make the effort into saying hi to him, introducing yourself, asking general questions such as "How are you?" when it looks like he won't begin.
I've been through... (read in full...)
Professor giving us dating and courtship suggestions
Q. Hello,Guys~~ one of my professors is always telling us not to touch g girl even though she probably is you girl friend to protect her and make sure she is clean. Telling this, he also aften do some disgusting actions... The problem is that I ...
A. 17 December 2009: Hey
His thoughts and opinions are his own, as a professor though he should be more professional and keep his own belief to himself and just teach the class.
If he continues, take him to the side and tell him you find it inappropriate an... (read in full...)
I don't know whether I should wait for him to tell me stuff or just out and ask!
Q. I would like to know did my boyfriend have any serious relationship before me... it`s only because I`m curious, not because I think that is realy important. Also, I`m not sure that he`s virgin like me, so I have a little doubt, should I just ask him ...
A. 13 December 2009: I don't think he'll tell you by himself if he doesn't feel the need to. You should slowly build up your relationship to a level where you both can easily open up to each other comfortably. You should ask him seeing as you're curious. Just tell him... (read in full...)
Should I stop flirting and keep it just as a friendship?
Q. okay same guy same senario kinda.. so ive stayed with this guy several times now. i know he wants me to stay the night with him because he is the one who asks me to. but! every single time when it comes down to having sex there is always some excuse ...
A. 13 December 2009: What is it that both of you are after?
Are you after a relationship? Is he?
That's the questions you need to ask yourselves.
Only then can you decide if it should be strictly friendship or is it a potential relationship. Good luck... (read in full...)
Do you think he was attracted to me?
Q. Today I met this guy that my friend's boyfriend introduced me to. We have been talking on the [hone for about a week now and today we finally met to see each other. I swear he is so sweet it's ridiculous We had described to each other how we looked ...
A. 13 December 2009: It's definitely hard to tell.
He could have been nervous himself and by the way you were being nervous it could of made it incredibly difficult to converse with each other.
It's a good thing he called to check up on you, it shows he cares.
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Not in committed relationship but jealous that he's seeing someone else
Q. i dont like getting in a relashionship cause i always end up crying and getting hurt. its been 6 months since i havent dated but i have been "friends" with alot of guys kissing..just kissing and messing around but not losing my virginty!! ok so this ...
A. 13 December 2009: I'm afraid there's nothing you can do as it's not a commited relationship and you both know that. You guys could try stating what you want/don't want in this 'relationship' but you gotta accept you made your choice and he made his.
You just gott... (read in full...)
Is an age gap of 6 years at age 16 and 22 immoral in the UK?
Q. Hi there. I am a gay 22 year old and I live in England. There is a guy who has liked me for months, I've only liked him for a week (before last week I really wasnt interested despite him telling me how much he cares for me as a friend and a romantic ...
A. 13 December 2009: Personally I think the age gap is the issue with regards to maturity. Obviously at 16 we believe we know everything etc but I think you guys should give it time for the relationship to mature and for the other guy to mature emotionally, ... (read in full...)
I would tell her how I feel but she has a boyfriend and her brother is one of my best friends! Please help!
Q. I need to know what to do there's a girl who i work with in a part-time job. I'm 17 and she's 20. I'm still in secondary school and she's in second year in college. What I look forward to is the weekend so i can see her. We can talk about absolute...
A. 12 December 2009: You guys talk about sex as a general subject? Or more specifically both of you together?
Does she talk about her boyfriend much?
You could tell her your feelings but she needs to work out whats happening with her own relationship before she t... (read in full...)
Is our relationship going to survive, if we interact better by sms?
Q. so if you and your bf talk beter when you text each other then you do in person, is your relationship doomed to fail? xoxo, miny...
A. 12 December 2009: No your relationship isn't doomed to fail. Communication by all means is a good thing but you just both need to put the phone down a little bit more and make time and put effort into connecting that level of communication in face-to-face ... (read in full...)
Is he wanting a no strings relationship with me?
Q. I'm 22 and startd my first relatnshp 3 months back. I found him online and met last month. He's good but on our 1st date he comlimented me that I have huge boobs and suddenly he caught my boobs and smooched me, forcibly. I cried and left the place. ...
A. 10 December 2009: Hey The fact he lurched onto you straight away on the first date and couldn't compliment you on anything else other than your assets means he's pretty much insensitive and rude towards you...not very gentleman-like. It doesn't mean he doesn'... (read in full...)
Part of me feels I should play the field, especially since I'm not as sexually attracted to him.
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a long time now, and i seriously think he's the one. But since things have started to get serious i don't find myself as sexually attracted to him anymore, and we rarely have sex. We both work together and for...
A. 8 December 2009: Both you and your boyfriend NEED to MAKE TIME to reconnect that level of intimacy with each other. Find ways to get that spark back. Both of you do new things, take a weekend trip somewhere, find new hobbies/leisurely activities together etc
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One for the women! Would you ever sleep with your son's friend if he was of legal age?
Q. If you were an attractive mother and your son had a friend who was 18, very cute, smart, funny and nice, would you sleep with him? Remember it's totally legal because your both 18 or over and he's very cute. Would you do it?...
A. 8 December 2009: It doesn't matter if he's of legal age or not, have you thought of the emotional/psychological/social effect that could arise regarding your son, let alone your son's friend. You potentially compromise everything between you and your son, your son ... (read in full...)
Can having diahorrea affect the pill?
Q. Hi I know this may be kinda gross but i still need to ask. My boyfriend of five years and I use the pill as our form of contraception, we have never used condoms as we dont enjoy using them. Anyway for the past few weeks i have had diahorrea on and ...
A. 7 December 2009: The pill needs to be fully absorbed into your system, having diarreah means it isn't getting absorbed. I was diagnosed with IBS and I had the same problem.... (read in full...)
He lied, I wasn't his first. Should that matter?
Q. Well me and my fiance have been together for 10 years, I was 14 when we started him 18. Well when we first started he had told me he wasn't a virgin and had sex with his girlfriend before me, but then after we had sex he said he was lying. Off an on ...
A. 5 December 2009: Your fiance is unsure of how you're handling it hence he's telling you 'yes I did' then at the sight of you upset 'no I didn't' which isn't good as it makes the situation confusing It would have been nice if you were his first, I know how importa... (read in full...)
He spends 2-3 night a week with his friends instead of me. Is that normal?
Q. Hi I have a question: is it normal for your guy to spend 2 or 3 times a week with his friends after work and not with you? My guy see's me 2 times a week on his days off and sometimes 3 times a week if he has time during a break at one of his jobs. ...
A. 4 December 2009: Hanging out with friends 2 3 times a week is definitely normal. You got to understand friendship is equally important and is a good way to socialise, bond and let off steam.
He makes time for you, calls you when he's with friends, you guys are... (read in full...)
Was he avoiding taking my number?
Q. Well, I'd liked this guy for quite some time, and he works at my favourite restaurant. We always talk and joke around when I go in. Tonight, I got my usual order, and (remembering the last time I was in) he gave me an extra pickle with my food. He ...
A. 4 December 2009: Hey
Yeah alot of places do have that rule. It can be seen as an unprofessional practice, especially if this happens infront of public eyes.
I think at the end of the day if he rings you it's all good. If he doesn't then don't be disheartened!... (read in full...)
My sister went through my underwear
Q. i caught my sister going through my underwear shes 17 and I'm 14 and i don't know what i should do. I didn't ask her what she was doing i just walked back upstairs and pretended like everything was okay but its not. What should i do?...
A. 4 December 2009: Ask her. Just casually mention it to her you saw her in your room and wanted to know what she was up to.
If you don't ask you won't know!... (read in full...)
To snog or not to snog, that is the question
Q. hey im 13 and im going out with a boy he is 15 and he wants to snog me i have done it before but i dont want to again i get nerves every time im around him and i cant seem to snog him what shall i do thankYou ...
A. 29 November 2009: Nerves? there's nothing to worry, it should be exciting! =]
Just take a deep breath, relax your neck and shoulders and go with the flow and go for it.
If it's not that and you reallllllly don't want to, you should tell him you want to take it s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has kept his online dating profile, is he cheating?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and its going really great though he used to have an internet dating profile which he told me about but he still uses it. He says he doesnt go to pick up girls but just to check out the 'scene' to ...
A. 29 November 2009: why would he need to check new members out?
Tell him he doesn't need to check it anymore, obviously you don't want to turn it into a major issue but if he's with you, he doesn't need to check other people out on a dating site now does he?... (read in full...)
I hurt when I pee...how can I prevent this?
Q. I'm seventeen and have sex with my boyfriend who's 19 I hurt alot when I pee and I always have utis what can I do to prevent this ??. ...
A. 29 November 2009: Did you have unprotected sex? Make sure you always use a condom.
You need to go and get it checked at the doctors, the sooner the better =]... (read in full...)
I am ready to move on to the next stage with my girl
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and 3 months now, but we havent gone any further than making out without shirts. We talk openly about topics like sex and such but not about US doing that, and im sure she wouldnt do that ...
A. 29 November 2009: It's a good thing to see you're respecting her for it.
You guys have been in a good long relationship and seeing as you guys openly talk about topics such as sex I think it will be easy to discuss issues surrounding it, by taking it a step fur... (read in full...)
I want marriage but he wont be threatened into it
Q. I realised i have been pressurizing my bf for marriage from the second month of our relationship partly because i thought that would work. i also tried being a doormat (cooking, cleaning, washing and trying to be a wife)in order to make him realise ...
A. 29 November 2009: You've used the words pressuring and threatnening...that's definitely not the way to go, if anything it'll just make him back off even more.
It's a bit too sudden especially when you're already on his case TWO MONTHS into your relation... (read in full...)
Have I just totally ruined any chance I ever had with him?
Q. Hi, Help! I met this guy abroad. I thought he liked me as he asked me to exchange contact details. We did. I gave him a card which was about missing someone, with my details inside. He rang me after I arrived, to see if I landed safe...
A. 29 November 2009: I'm sorry but from the sounds of it you may have. Especially considering the fact you guys just only met and now all of a sudden a flood of messages like that only spells disaster. He has a girlfriend, as much as that hurts you need to move on,... (read in full...)
When is it time to let him go?
Q. Hi all, thanks in advance for any advice or clarity you may be able to offer me. I have dating a man for near on 18 months. From the start, I wasn't very sure that he was someone I wanted to date (long term). He wasn't 'my type' and I didn't fe...
A. 29 November 2009: I'm sorry I'm not one of the above but looking at your post I think before you ask when the time to let go is, you should focus on trying to open up about the situation with your boyfriend. Don't wait expecting change.
From the sounds of it you g... (read in full...)
Understanding the ex's behavior
Q. ex partner used to pretend to be jealouse over a long ago friend who I never fancied. Ex pushed to settle down saying I was the one etc. We ended, she did not ask why and is now married. How can you be so in love and jeolose one minute and ...
A. 29 November 2009: How long have you guys been seperated for? Why did you guys end it?
I think she did have feelings for you but her desire to settle down wasn't what you wanted? She may of found that with someone else?
She didn't mistreat you, your perception ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with a girl who adores me? I'll have to see her every day!
Q. I am in a serious dilemma.I am currently in an unhappy 3 months relationship. I really want to break up with my girlfriend. Trouble is she really adores me and she is planning out our future together and i am so terrified at breaking her heart and ...
A. 28 November 2009: Unfortunately avoidance is hard in this situation. However you really need to tell soon before she keeps dreaming bigger and bigger...the sting for her would get worse if you let it drag.
You need to sit her down and tell her "Listen, I don't th... (read in full...)
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