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writes:So me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and 3 months now, but we havent gone any further than making out without shirts. We talk openly about topics like sex and such but not about US doing that, and im sure she wouldnt do that at this point and i respect that. But i wanted to know if it would be wise, or not, to ask if its ok to take it a step further, and by that i do NOT mean sex people! Do any of you think it would be ok, and if so how should i do it and bring it up in a conversation? Also, she said she doesnt know if she really loves me but isnt sure if she would or wouldnt do aomething like that. So how, and should i, bring it up? Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): What other thing than sex do you mean? At your age, waiting more than 3 months to take the next step could be a good idea, so that you get to really know her and learn how it is to be in a relationship before anything else. One step at a time. If any of you are virgins, it'll all be new and scary, and will need lots of time to get comfortable with.Talk to her about things, thats great. But if she doesnt really know how she feels about you, it might be the best idea to figure out how you feel, and what type of relationship you have, before any further steps are taken. If you move forward too fast without laying down the groundwork, this can get unpleasant for you both. You wanna enjoy the relationship right and you like her? Then work out the baby steps and get secure around each other first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWere both about to be 16.
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reader, Frenzotic  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 It's a good thing to see you're respecting her for it.
You guys have been in a good long relationship and seeing as you guys openly talk about topics such as sex I think it will be easy to discuss issues surrounding it, by taking it a step further I assume you mean foreplay.
Bring it up the same way you guys openly bring up sex issues, sit her down and tell her something along the lines of "I feel like we should take our relationship further, not sex but I want to feel and be intimate with you, what do you think?"
Let her know your love for her and how you want to express your closeness to her by being intimate.
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reader, Smitty babyy +, writes (29 November 2009):
I think youu needa go slow if she doesn't wanna she's not the onee
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reader, betty j. +, writes (29 November 2009):
 please wait @ your age don`t rush anything been there done that. and wish i had waited, sorry but you both need a life of been a teenager without sex being any part, but if you do please take precautions, being a teen parent is know picnic.
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reader, Smitty babyy +, writes (29 November 2009):
I wuld take it slow!!. Is she young? Well I have been with my man for a year n a half we slowly went into sexual stuff from oral making out n then to sex you'll get there if she's the right one
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