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writes:okay..so i have fallen madly in love with this other girl on the internet. im 20 and she is 17. from the first chat,things just flowed and its gotten to a ridiculously sweet level that it scares me! we havent talked on the phone yet as she lives far off but we communicate via sms and email like every day for the past month.she says im the guy she has always looked for and i feel the very same way about her..what i want to know is if this thing can hold up. we live on two different continents but we are madly in love with each other and plan to meet one day and eventually marry..i want to be there for her and i appreciate the fact she is big on honesty too..so i just want to know what to do,has someone been through this..did it work out..btw, i know we will both crash if this ends! what are the chances though she might get snatched by someone she meets face to face,should i invest everything like i want to or have some sorta backup plan? help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much guys! actually we had planned on me going there sometime next year after saving up enough funds. i will talk to her about skyping,btw i have told her countless times im not exactly what she thinks but she has dismissed so many times that i got convinced i might be what shes looking for really! but so far its been magical to say the least!! i just have to arrange the meet so we can take it from there.
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reader, Frenzotic  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Hey, I know exactly where you're coming from and thankfully for me and my other half things have been progressing extremely well in that he's moving to the UK. (LDR's CAN WORK OUT!)My advice is not to invest everything into someone despite how strong the feelings/desires and not to have a 'back up plan' either. You just need to limit yourself there emotionally and just have fun. If you invest everything you will just get so badly hurt if it doesn't work out. One step at a time, you gotta think 50/50 so that you're realistic about things.Good luck
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reader, Tyrannosaurusgoose  +, writes (24 December 2009):
Be careful with internet long distant relationships. they don't work out. i know. but hey it might for you. talk on the phone. if you can keep a conversation going and get a long well meeting her might be good. Just have fun.
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reader, tatsuko +, writes (24 December 2009):
Not to be a downer, but its from my experience, that usually, long-distance/internet relationships rarely work out. Either due to idealizing what the person really is like, or the fact that you've never delt with them in real life 24/7 so you don't realize some of the things about the person that you just could not deal with. But you know, sometimes it does work out. Meeting up in real life is the key. Try and save up some money and have one of you fly over to where the other is. (if you stalk airline sites you can usually find a really cheap flight going to where you need it) So my advice is to spend as much time in personas you can. (Also,webcams are really good too) Then you'll gain a much better understanding of each other and then decide where to go from there.
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