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writes:Hi,Help! I met this guy abroad. I thought he liked me as he asked me to exchange contact details. We did. I gave him a card which was about missing someone, with my details inside. He rang me after I arrived, to see if I landed safely. A week later, I sent a text telling him that I wish I could have kissed him Goodbye, but didn't want to appear too forward, as we had only just met, as I was about to leave.He sent me a text saying he got my text. No response to either my card or the fact that I wanted to kiss him Goodbye. I thought this was a bit weird for someone who was supposed to like me.I texted him back with 50 million questions asking about him, the theory was that he would ask me about me as well. He texted back telling me that he had a girlfriend over there. I texted back and told him that I felt that my heart had just ripped out of my chest, the worst feeling in the world. I told him that I did not want any contact with him, as he had a girlfriend, and I respected that.He kept on texting me, I couldn't handle it, as I liked him too much. He told me that he wanted to be friends first! First before what! He had a girlfriend!I decided to be cruel to be kind and sent him a really nasty text telling him that he just wanted to use me for sex and was after my money, as my parents were building a house at the time.He has not contacted me since. Did I hit the nail on the head? Or was I totally wrong, and really hurt his feelings?I felt awful. I texted him at least 3 times, telling him that I was sorry and wished that he would forgive me. He never responded. I have not contacted him since. It has been over a week now. I can't stop thinking about him. It's driving me insane. I have since been online, and most of his friends seem to think that he is a really sweet guy and a true gentlemen. I feel distraught.Have I just totally ruined any chance I ever had with him?
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (4 December 2009):
 No I don't think you ruined a chance with him. He was just interested to have you around to offer him your affection, attention and compassion for free...it's nice when someones comes forward and offers you all these and you just offer your friendship as a return, isn't it? That's all he wanted, the comfort of your attention and because you were not willing to give him that with no return soon as he realized he backed off.
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reader, Frenzotic +, writes (29 November 2009):
 I'm sorry but from the sounds of it you may have. Especially considering the fact you guys just only met and now all of a sudden a flood of messages like that only spells disaster.He has a girlfriend, as much as that hurts you need to move on, you did well in respecting that fact. However there was no need in sending cruel messages, especially ones that jumped and assumed so much i.e that he was using you for sex and after money....especially only just after meeting him.The only thing you can do now is tell him sorry and let things be.
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