I'm unfaithful and it's killing me!
Q. I have been married for 10 years to the man I loved, and we have 2 wonderful children. After 4 happy years, a big issue based on my hubby's "unfair" suspicions, almost made our marriage collapse. We managed to overcome the matter but without going ...
A. 6 February 2011: Life is not always about decisions we make...This is just like accidents that happen to you over which you have no control and no power to avoid and stop...but with time and will, you get over it. True enough there are circumstances at... (read in full...)
She says the sex with another man is just for relief, nothing else
Q. i met a girl 4 months ago at a friends birthday,shes amazingly attractive and fun to be with,after a few dates we started having sex and is really good sex full of passion and shes very open minded,shes 27 im 29. she told me from the start about he...
A. 4 February 2011: You seriously want to be fourth cog in the wheel of a mistress who has no respect for herself and another woman's husband? She is admitting to being used as a piece of meat for a 50 year old she isnt a P.A but a cheap hooker with the gifts she gets ... (read in full...)
Should I indulge his unique fantasy?
Q. I recently discovered a whole new aspect to my fiancée, I mean, I knew he dabbled once, but several weeks ago, I discovered photos of him dressed as a woman. He responded to an ad online to be "transformed" and went atleast 9 times over the past two ...
A. 4 February 2011: Sounds like you shouldn't get tied down and marry him, he obviously has unaddressed issues mentally and with his sexual orientation is this someone who you want to raise children with? Is he constantly going to be trying to be dressed as a woman? Is ... (read in full...)
Why do I get soft halfway through sex?
Q. What could it be if halfway through sex I go soft? It will get hard again if given time, but I'm not sure why it does it at all? ...
A. 4 February 2011: many things can cause it brother too much drink beforehand, stress, smoking,fatigue best bet would be to see your GP make sure it isnt something more healthwise that is the cause too.... (read in full...)
I still like him but it didn't work out because of the distance. Do we try again?
Q. I had a long distance relationship and I still like him. We both found people that we like in our own states, but nobody I have dated ever treated me like him(even though long distance.) I found out that he still ikes me, but last time we dated it ...
A. 4 February 2011: It all comes down to what kind of LDr this was to be honest. Was it one where you both actually arranged metting once a month or for a month vacation together every couple of months to keep in touch or is it one of these fantasy online ldr's?... (read in full...)
I cant get over what she has done in the past...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months and her past and what she has done haunts me and maked me want to throw up and call her a whore and leave her. I cant do this though the thought of not being with her hurts me and I know that I ...
A. 4 February 2011: Your being hypocritical on this young lady's past if all you can do is judge her by her past she shouldn't be with you if its sucha hang up we all make mistakes nobody is perfect she has openly admitted she regrets her past so why torture yourself ... (read in full...)
I'm unfaithful and it's killing me!
Q. I have been married for 10 years to the man I loved, and we have 2 wonderful children. After 4 happy years, a big issue based on my hubby's "unfair" suspicions, almost made our marriage collapse. We managed to overcome the matter but without going ...
A. 4 February 2011: If I went too far it's only to knock some sense into your inadequacy at accepting your the catalyst and cause of the marriage falling apart with your affair when people suck it up and take responsibility for their own actions instead of feeding ... (read in full...)
What I should do or what should I have done. I am still in shock to find my husband also cheated.
Q. Dear All, I have always been a faithful wife. I even looked down on those whom got their lives messed up by having an affair. A little over a year ago, I ran into a man whom counseled my ex and I when I went through the divorce. I was so m...
A. 3 February 2011: If I was in your shoes to I'd also be reporting this councellor to the padre of the church his a hypocrite and has no place being in a position of authority in the church nor given his lack of judgement on morals he is meant to teach as anonymous ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong here? Everything is telling me to be the opposite of everything I was taught!
Q. I'm hoping someone can make some sense of the world I'm experiencing at the moment. The world that I've been experiencing for quite a while now... I am 22 years old (in two weeks) and have always strived to be a good person. I've always put other...
A. 3 February 2011: Don't change your persona and loving spirit for the sake of being noticed for promotions few too many people are good natured and look out for their fellow man these days as it is soceity as a whole as lost respect in these areas where everyone ... (read in full...)
I'm unfaithful and it's killing me!
Q. I have been married for 10 years to the man I loved, and we have 2 wonderful children. After 4 happy years, a big issue based on my hubby's "unfair" suspicions, almost made our marriage collapse. We managed to overcome the matter but without going ...
A. 3 February 2011: you fear your husband will destroy it all out of spite wake up to yourself and accept your at fault you've already destroyed the marriage and the way your own kids will look at women if you have sons as well as yourself so many people who still ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: Ok fayye your a beautiful young woman I back tracked your previous posts for insight but you need to get out of this relationship now please for your own safety and wellbeing if this male is the same one from your post ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: Why is it so many young women are so stupid you have had to call the police on this sad excuse for a man, a real man regardless of any wrong doings his woman may have done would never raise a hand to her. Wake up your in a abusive relationship and... (read in full...)
Ex told him lies about me and now he's not the same with me any more. Help!
Q. Ok, I am 16 and the guy is 17. We are both juniors and I really like him. He has showed interest in me since the beginning of the year but I never acted on it, until about three weeks ago. At first he was really nice and we texted a lot and he would ...
A. 3 February 2011: First of all you need to tell the jealous ex to back off and mind his own business he only went to talk to the boy you like to cause friction and it seems like it worked. Secondly if this new fellow you like is stupid enough to heed and act on ... (read in full...)
Should we put up with her sabotage games due to her "social phobia" or not waste our energy?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my DH have these friend that I met over the net 2.5 years ago. Orginally my husband made friends with her husband over the internet due to the fact that they had almost everything in common. Little by little the other guys wi...
A. 2 February 2011: Ahh former pot heads and his wife has social anxieity disorder so she has agoraphobia or drug induced schitsophrenia? Honestly you met well your husband met these people over the net and aside from chats online and phone calls you are'nt doing ... (read in full...)
I said I'd propose, but I'm not ready!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now in a long distance relationship. There's about a 700km distance between us but we still manage to see each other nearly every month. Ever since we started going out, she's brought up engagement an...
A. 2 February 2011: To be honest you know where and when you'd rather settle down her goal is self centered you said she said over the phone how she wants to do something great to show to her family and friends all this marriage to her is about proving a point to ... (read in full...)
How to tell my boyfriend that I want to keep my baby?
Q. I am not really seeking advice, just wanted to get things off my chest. Any comments however will be taken into consideration and welcomed. I am very much in love with a man, well at this point I am not sure what it is anymore. I wish I could jus...
A. 2 February 2011: Don't do it but let reality hit you now the 'man' your with is worthless is probably the type to be trying to dodge child support as well since his caring enough to get you pregnant(at 35-39 I assumed we all had the common sense to wear a condom if ... (read in full...)
What's the right thing to do? Tell someone I think I might be depressed? Or keep it a secret. I keep wanting to sleep all the time.
Q. I have begun to sleep all of the time. I wake up at 8 and then go to school. I come back home, and go to sleep around 4 and wake up at 8 and over and over and over again. Also I started to stop eating very much. it's not like i just want to los...
A. 2 February 2011: You need to find the trigger to the crying is something your thinking about causing you to be upset or is it hormonal being a young lady I'd gather the hormone changes at your age are very different to us males. If your feeling upset yes seek help ... (read in full...)
I'm confused whether my friend is gay or not. How could I handle this diplomatically?
Q. I have a guy friend in medical school. who is questionably/obviously gay and seemingly closer to possibly coming out. He was claiming to be straight at the beginning of the year, but when people have asked questions on his opinion about girls he has ...
A. 2 February 2011: Don't ask unless his comfortable coming out with you about his sexuality when/if he does confess he is that way just lay the line down your comfortable with him as a friend but your straight and you'd appreciate it if he doesn't try it on with ... (read in full...)
What I should do or what should I have done. I am still in shock to find my husband also cheated.
Q. Dear All, I have always been a faithful wife. I even looked down on those whom got their lives messed up by having an affair. A little over a year ago, I ran into a man whom counseled my ex and I when I went through the divorce. I was so m...
A. 2 February 2011: Your councellor is also very unprofessional and not a true christian for pursuing a divorced then remarried woman either he shouldn't be councelling or being a minister since he thinks morals aren't worthwhile and cannot follow his own teachings. ... (read in full...)
My mother hates him and I'm sick of sneaking around so I can see him. I need your advice please on what to do?
Q. I'm 14 years old. I currently just turned 14 in January, I may sound like a young and ignorant teenager, thinking I'm madly in love. I probably am just another one of those girls but, all I need is for you to rationalize with me. I'm 14, and I fell ...
A. 2 February 2011: Your mother is keeping your best interests 'safe' so to speak and I can't blame her really since your still a young lady dating a young man and being a young male sometimes we don't all think with the head on our shoulders so dont be too upset by ... (read in full...)
I have my reasons why I feel like my ex is still watching me. How can I best distance myself from him?
Q. Hello Aunts, i was let go by my guy nine months and few days ago. I closed my aol account, changed telephone details. I'm frightened my ex is watching me. I'm not with a replacement guy yet. Is he watching out for any replacement guy for me be with...
A. 2 February 2011: Considering you haven't given any evidence to prove he is surveilling your every day doings sounds more like to me your paranoid. Move on enjoy yourself if he is indeed keeping tabs on you, you have nothing to worry about since youve changed contact ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with bad housemates?
Q. my housemates particarly one lets call her sue does not like me i get higher grades then her and the fact that i dont do what she wants i think bothers her. lets call them c1 (major annoyance) c2 (sheep) c1 went into my room switched something ...
A. 25 January 2011: Friends like those who needs enemies they aren't your friends with that kind of behaviour but something my late nana would always say to me avoid sunny weather friends those who only wish to be around you when its in their favour, Id probably look ... (read in full...)
Why has this straight guy never been seen with a girl?
Q. So there is this guy that I have been interested in for a while now. We don't really know each other, but I have seen him around a lot. So, two months ago I sent him a message introducing myself, and letting him know I find him attractive. Thinking ...
A. 24 January 2011: As Jmtmj said he could just be really into his sport, social life or school work or he doesn't like socialising with people his own age for all you know he may have a higher intellect and avoids conversations with the typical teen crowd for he finds ... (read in full...)
I get soft even when being in her
Q. Hello, I've been having a problem lately. I'm 18 years old, and I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 months. We've had sex since a few times its not that I'm nervous because I'm not new to this, but I've been not able to get fully hard, an...
A. 24 January 2011: fatigue and stress can affect our libido and erection strength and believe it or not too much masturbation before intercourse the same day can cause issues too cut down on how often you masturbate as well and make sure your resting well to reduce ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is causing trouble
Q. Should I break up with my bf because he cussed me out because my xbf sent me a message on aim when I haven't talked to my xbf since 7 months ago when he texted me out of the blue.that pissed off my bf that time. What should I do.should I tell him to ...
A. 24 January 2011: Well if its a random out of the blue txt it maybe a harmless hello or it could be a hello to try to open up and get back with you since you havent kept contact with the ex in 7months seems a bit heavy handed for your current beau to get worked up ... (read in full...)
Should my wife be very close and open to male friends more than women?
Q. My wife is very friendly and open to male friends than women friends. She says she is more confortable with men than women. She almost talk about anything(culture, love eperiance, sexual things, men vs women behaviour etc) with her male friends may ...
A. 24 January 2011: haha yeah Cerberus I had similar thoughts if these male friends are going shopping with her massage parlours etc any chance these friends of hers are gay? If so mate you have nothing to worry about again if their hetero as well you have nothing to ... (read in full...)
If a guy was truly mind blowing in bed, would you try get him into bed with you just for one night?
Q. If you heard about a guy who was spectacular in bed, like he was TRULY amazing and could give you multiple intense orgasms, was great at cuddling and foreplay, would this make you flirt with him and try get him into bed with you? I mean, why no...
A. 24 January 2011: Then again how experienced are these 5 girls it could all be talk as well from them from lack of experience as well and a little shallow to mark a man just because rumors suggest his good in the sack or perhaps you like being another notch on his ... (read in full...)
Text messages lead me to believe she wants her ex boyfriend/casual partner more then me!
Q. My fiance and I have been together for over a year. At first, like all relationships, things started off great, we'd text all the time, the sex was regular, we were both affectionate to each other. However, over the last few months, things have cha...
A. 24 January 2011: Anonymous female stated Many guys are too scared to admit they get turned on by another man with their partner. Nothing wrong with it. I cheated on my man,he knew but didnt know he liked it until he told me. I allow him to sleep with females because ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gets angry a lot, will it change and what should I do?
Q. Hello all, This background is going to be a little long, but I feel like I need to give enough detail before I ask my question at the end. My Girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year in a half, it will be two years in may 2011. O...
A. 24 January 2011: Leave she sounds like a headcase with a troubled past she's placing you in the same sub standard as every dog who treated her wrong her reality isnt able to define the difference so her subconcious tells her if she acts like a bitch its preventing ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about burning during sex?
Q. It kind of hurt while i was having sex with my boyfriend and after a while it even started to feel like i had been torn. After we stopped when I went to use the restroom it burned a little bit. Should this be something to worry or go to the doc ...
A. 24 January 2011: Go to your GP definitely a tear is usually something that feels as pain burning sensation generally are not tears but could be a symptom of transmitted infection or disease like herpes or something worse more so if you are stupid enough to not ... (read in full...)
What are the possible consequences from unprotected sex?
Q. i had unprotected sex on monday and didn't shower, the next day i got oral pleasure from a different girl the next day still not clean. what are the possible consequences?...
A. 24 January 2011: Aside from HIV, or STI's theres alot at risk without protection showers do not prevent whats already transpired without protection there is a reason why condoms are suggested for safe sex.... (read in full...)
He has health problems because of a girl!
Q. I'm with my bf for almost 9months..he is the most caring and loving guy i've ever met!he had a gf before me and that girl cheated on him and he suffered a lot..but now he has health problems! suffers from anxiety ,wakes up every night a couple of ...
A. 24 January 2011: Sometimes it can but then you learn for your own piece of mind no woman is worth the heart ache and trouble and you overcome this mediocre problems the exceptions being his condition with his heart beat thats more than likely genetic he was more ... (read in full...)
Text messages lead me to believe she wants her ex boyfriend/casual partner more then me!
Q. My fiance and I have been together for over a year. At first, like all relationships, things started off great, we'd text all the time, the sex was regular, we were both affectionate to each other. However, over the last few months, things have cha...
A. 24 January 2011: They're warning signs alright and keeping quiet about it in long run is just going to cause yourself more harm than good more so since you two are planning on getting married.
I'd ask her if she is really over the ex and go from there for if s... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best mate I'm sleeping with her sister?
Q. im 19 and every satday for the past 12 years i have spent the day and sometimes nights at my best m8s shes 19. about a mounth ago i was stoping over and it was late and i couldnt sleep so i when down stirs to get a drink of water, her younger sist...
A. 23 January 2011: Aside from my eyes bleeding due to your grammar, Cerberus is right if you enjoy the younger sister's company (I gather you do since you've been sleeping with her) it's up to her to decide when to tell her older sister. Why are you feeling guilty ... (read in full...)
My wife contributes very little to our relationship
Q. My wife and I have been married for two years and I'm worried about our future because she contributes very little to our relationship. I bring in 100% of the money (I'm putting her through college), but in return she doesn't clean, cook, take ...
A. 23 January 2011: Actually Youwish you'd be suprised how many lazy women are out there myself was married to a Greek woman of all things who couldn't cook and wouldn't clean or do laundry and we have two girls together while I was constantly on 12hr shifts yet she ... (read in full...)
My dad is having a relationship with my math teacher!
Q. I am very confused and I need help! I'm 19 and my parents are divorced since I am 9. I live at my mom's but my dad lives in the same small town... A few days ago, I went to a party and decided to go sleep at my dad's cause it was closer. I...
A. 23 January 2011: Don't say a word its only just going to embarrass you in the long run.... (read in full...)
Our 1st anniversary and he didn't even acknowledge it!
Q. Well today (January 22) was my first anniversary with my boyfriend. And he didnt even call me or anything. I didnt get to see him. I know anniversaries don't really matter untill marriage but we were so excited about it. He counted the days and ...
A. 23 January 2011: No you shouldn't be mad its puppy love the time to be mad about these kind of things is when your husband constantly forgets about them imo, dating 'anniversaries' are irrelevant i think.... (read in full...)
I think I'm living more in a fantasy world than the real world
Q. This is not really about relationship advice but sort of is at the same time, i guess. I feel that i am more living in a fantasy world instead of the real one. Im sure other people do this as well but because its happening to me i am a bit conce...
A. 23 January 2011: You miss your father that's understandable the lack of a father figure for guidance you miss i think.
Sounds like loneliness and longing for a fellow in the real world as well I think but the only way your going to be able to make that possible... (read in full...)
Do guys like flowers?
Q. I'm thinking of sending my boyfriend flowers for valentines day because he's at the United States Air Force Academy and I'm stuck in Vermont. Would he like that? Do guys like that? why or why not?...
A. 23 January 2011: Some guys do like flowers for its the thought that counts BUT your dating a military man and could infact cause him to be the laughing stock of his unit send a nice photo of your self and a card it doesnt have to be overly 'sexy' preferably clothed ... (read in full...)
My husband just doesn't get it!
Q. my husband just wont get it. we got separated and just got back 2 years ago the reason being he used to hit me and had a drinking problem. all that is changed now he doesnt drink never has hit me or even raised his voice he chenged for that matter. ...
A. 23 January 2011: Wake up to reality girlie hes a wonderful husband with me is a fallacy you need to get outta your head now!
Firstly he was a drunkard and violent towards you, your physically and emotionally scarred still from this and the rest of his true col... (read in full...)
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