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writes:I'm 14 years old. I currently just turned 14 in January, I may sound like a young and ignorant teenager, thinking I'm madly in love. I probably am just another one of those girls but, all I need is for you to rationalize with me. I'm 14, and I fell in love with a 16 year old, who will be 17. My mother hates him due to certain reasons' She thinks he only wants sex. I know him, he respects me, he doesn't push to me to do anything I don't want too. We're just completely compatible. I know in my heart that he wouldn't cheat or just want sex from me. We have plans to grow old together, but I find it impossible to survive 4 years of sneaking around. I can't stand hardly ever seeing him, or deleting text messages from him, I can't even be on the phone with him, when I'm around my family. We're too attached to even break up. We've been together for about 7 months now, and we've only fought once and it didn't even last a day.Just please, what should I do!?Continue sneaking around because I'm madly in loveor break up with him although it would pain me deeply and wait until I turn 18 amd for when he turns 21?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): As long as u have nothing to hide, there's nothing to fear.
Stop sneaking out with him, it won't help you and your mom might begin to think you have something sexual with him.
Try talking to your mom, you can also invite your boyfriend to see your mom. He should be able to explain
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reader, faenon  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Your mother is keeping your best interests 'safe' so to speak and I can't blame her really since your still a young lady dating a young man and being a young male sometimes we don't all think with the head on our shoulders so dont be too upset by how your mum is reacting is there more than just mum thinks he only wants sex that she doesn't like this fellow or is there more to it?
Elders are a good judge of character but if you keep seeing this boy in secret and sneaking out its going to make your mum not trust you and despise your boyfriend even more he needs to earn your mums trust and respect with her little girl and seeing him in secret isn't helping your cause go halain.
A little advice your young sweetheart at 14 you shouldn't be trying to plan your relationship future things change constantly and if things don't turn out as you planned the wound cuts deep take each day at a time, don't sneak around to see this man but be honest with mum and dad sit down tell them you like this boy alot and would like to date him and reassure them you aren't planning on having sex for a long time yet and let mum know you understand she's trying to protect you.
Instead of sneaking around ask for permission for your boyfriend to come over to the house when mum and dad is home so they can see for themselves how he behaves to you eventually if they see he respects you their going to allow him to see you more but sneaking out to see him is doing you and him no justice its just going to make mum and dad try harder to stop you from seeing him . Good luck with it!
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reader, nikida656 +, writes (2 February 2011):
 no offense to your judgment but both of your solutions are rediculous!!!!!
if you really do feel the way you said then you have to prove he isn't the guy your parents think she is.
From what you said i'm guessing your parents dont trust your judgment and probably think that you are blindley in love.your parents are trying to say in the nicest way possible that you don't understand your boyfriends intensions and that you dont realize it but your boyfriend only wants sex. your parents think they know whats best but if you are being honest about his intensions than he has to prove it sense your parents wont listen to you. What you should do is have your boyfreind confront your parents. You should have him be honest and tell your parents how he feels about you. He should say how much he loves you, that your meant to be together, and most of all that he wants your parents to know about your relationship.
if he does this than your parents will realise he is brave for confronting them, Mature for telling your parents about the relationship, and a good boyfriend. HOPE THIS HELPS YA!!!!!! :)
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