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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Me and my DH have these friend that I met over the net 2.5 years ago.Orginally my husband made friends with her husband over the internet due to the fact that they had almost everything in common. Little by little the other guys wife started jumping in and taking over on everything ie phone conversations, plans to hang out etc.Then I got to be really good phone friends with his wife. Things are cool until I try to make plans for us all to hang out somewhere then she has 100,000 excuses such as sickness, family issues, husband working. It is kind of like an issue with sabotage. I rarely can get them out of the house to do anything. But the guys wife would rather keep me talking on the phone for 3 hours than actually meeting up with us and hang out. I mentioned something about this to her husband and he says that she has social anxieity disorder. I also know that this couple says that they are former pot heads. I am really sick of all the games such as calling me on Thursday night and talk for 3 hours then avoid me all weekend to hang out. My husband really wants to keep this friendship going with them and just excepts them for who they are. I am tired of playing phone theripist for all of this womans issues. the couple are really fun to hang out with when we can get them out of the house. What would you do? Keep it going or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): I am the orginal poster of this question. We have hung out several times and it was cool. they just never want to make plans in advance ...they just like to do things as per how they "feel" for that day. I think that it is silly we can never make plans in advance for the weekend.
always an excuse. Very wishy washy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): Drug induced schitsophrenia? You must be kidding! I'm sorry but pot has no long term effects what so ever. The fact that they used to smoke should have no negative effects on them what so ever. To be honest if she has social anxiety disorder it surprises me that they ever quit. Often smoking a bowl before going out in social situations can help curb anxiety quite a bit and I would almost suggest that hanging out with her after she smokes might be the way to go.
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reader, faenon  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Ahh former pot heads and his wife has social anxieity disorder so she has agoraphobia or drug induced schitsophrenia? Honestly you met well your husband met these people over the net and aside from chats online and phone calls you are'nt doing anything as a group ie picnics bbqs boating fishing etc id cut it off its a waste of time.
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