Should I stay with him? Throughout our 3 year relationship I have been depressed and I feel like I am losing my mind!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been through alot in our relationship, he's a widower and has a little daughter. I don't know if I should stay with him. He always takes his mother in law and sister in law side (they don't like me...trust me I know they ...
A. 22 July 2009: I agree with the previous comment. thats just abusive and as much as it may hurt you to take a step away from the realtionship..tough. Try telling him what is going on in you mind or what you feel is happening and if you dont see changes..move on...... (read in full...)
When we met up she was all over me, but now she isnt replying to my texts! What should I do now?
Q. I have known I have been gay for about a year or so, and I have had gay flings wtc but ive never been in a sexual relationship with a girl. I started talking to a girl (friend of a friend) about two months ago, and we were talking and texting loads. ...
A. 22 July 2009: you did your part. let it go. if she wants to see you eventually she'll call or text.... (read in full...)
Could my personality be a barrier in the relationship?
Q. I'm 25 years old and still trying to grow-up as far as financial and emotional independence goes. Recently, I met a man who is 19 years older than me, never been married, but had several serious relationships in the past. He showed special ...
A. 15 July 2009:
I am somewhat of same situation. My friend is 17 years older than me. I sometimes wonder why he wants to be with someone 17 years younger...I wouldnt worry about your situation. It sounds like he thinks alot about you and you should take it as a... (read in full...)
Haven't had a blow job in 6 years from wife!
Q. I am a 39 year old male and have been married for 14 years. My question is How does my anger towards my wife really affect our relationship? The anger stems from the lack of oral sex i recieve. Before i was married life was good, after that day it ...
A. 13 July 2009: Try telling her she needs to get over it. if she cant believe you..I mean..or ask her why she thinks that you slept with this other woman. just get it out in tey open. As far as they oral sex goes..maybe she doesnt like oral.... (read in full...)
How do I approach her about her unwanted sexual advances?
Q. I've got a problem and I don't really know how to handle it. Last week, a female co-worker came on to me. We've been good friends since I started working there three years ago and I had no idea that she was attracted to me. She came round to my ...
A. 13 July 2009: just say no nicely. if you didnt want her hand down your pajama's..maybe just kindly should of given signs that you are not interested in her. a firm kind "push away" usually works..... (read in full...)
I don't want a physical relationship, I want something meaningful.
Q. I meet this guy well over 1yr ago, we exchanges numbers 3 to 4 months ago. We went on two dates within the last two weeks and basically went all the way last night our third meeting. I’m 26 and at this point in I’m tired of dating for sport. I’m ...
A. 13 July 2009: it sounds like you are both adults. If he was persistant and you where not ready than its too late now. I am not trying to be rude but you sound like a really old fashioned kind of gal. which is ok but .. it depends on teh situation and the girl and ... (read in full...)
Broken trust... please help!
Q. My boy friend and i have been dating for almost 2 years and are almost alwasy together. To avoid doing anything stupid we always only drink when were together. Last night my boy friend and i were hanging out with some people from his new job. I had ...
A. 13 July 2009: when you loose your trust its tought to forgive. now he basically gave you a reason not to trust him..and you had to baby him through his own crap..I say walk away for a bit.... (read in full...)
Help! My husband doesn't know what he wants.
Q. My husband of 3 years recently told me that he does not know what he wants. He wants his old single life back but yet he wants his family life, me, his daughter and 2 step children. I don't know why he is acting like this? What do I do. He onl...
A. 13 July 2009: that is tough when you have children. I would tell him he needs to make a choice. Not hurt your feelings with him wanting to not own up to his repsonsibilities to his family. I say stand strong( cry when he is not looking)..and nicely but firmly ... (read in full...)
I want to help my girlfriend be comfortable expressing her emotions. Any ideas how?
Q. I'm trying to get back with my ex-gf and she recently told me she considers herself an "emotional cripple" and that some of the more serious conversations we've had in the past made her very uncomfortable. I thought we were just sharing on a ...
A. 10 July 2009: I think people talk when they are ready. Sometimes if you push someone too much its not good. give it time and understanding..usually when woman feel safe and comfortable, not too mention trust you then we open up a bit more..that just takes ... (read in full...)
This random communication is hard to understand. I need your advice..
Q. I met a man a few years ago. We had instant, magnetic chemistry and it seemed very special. Since then, I have heard from him several times to check on the status of my independent research and find out how I am doing. Our communication has ...
A. 10 July 2009:
you should get out more and meet other people..i know its tough but you should..... (read in full...)
Do Jewish men have some sort of weird sexual rituals?
Q. ok I feel completely rediculous asking this question..I am dating a jewish man and is there some kind of funky sex thing before anyhting or I mean I dont think he is orthadox..well he is not so do they have some weird sex ritual or somthing...
A. 28 June 2009:
He never brings protection. I am just starting to taket he pill because he is the only one I am sleeping with or not for that matter. he wants to do everythign but ..I dont really understand and asked once and just felt so strange about it..... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship..could my dreams mean anything?
Q. ok, so my ex boyfriend and i have been trying to work things out for about a year now. And recently, he decided that he wants to be completely done; finished. I've become exhausted by our problems that I've come to careless about it. But i keep ...
A. 26 June 2009:
If you have been with him for a while..its tough..I know its kind of like you get immune to teh situation..we all handle break ups so differntly..if you dont want to loose him then talk to him but sometimes unfortunately shit happens and we have... (read in full...)
Broke up to much ago and still can't get over her. I loved her.
Q. I dated this girl for about 10 months until our breakup two months ago. 10 months may not seem like a long time to fall in love, but this girl really got to me. She broke up because she felt "confused" because she ran into her bastard exbf right ...
A. 17 June 2009:
I know. it just stinks..I usually "replace" or go out on the rebound dating and just make sure the rebounders are out to have a good time..dwelling is no good..but we all do it..I'm doing it now and am slowly trying to remove the memory of "him... (read in full...)
Is he married? Or am I just one of a few?
Q. Ok is he married....or am I just one of a few? My friend and I have been dating for about 2 years or so..and I had questions of him being married and he clearly said no..I took him at his word and enjoyed teh dinner and time we spent togeather ...
A. 14 June 2009:
I give up on it..I am letting things go the way they are and keeping my options open..putting the strict friendship line there because well I know I will get hurt because we dont want the same things it seems..I guesse no words need to be said... (read in full...)
I came home and my husband was gone!! I'm shocked and feeling lost!
Q. My Husband and I have been married almost two years now. Two days ago I came home from work and he was gone. He only took some clothes and our dog from the backyard. He didn't leave a note and he hasn't called me to even say why he left or if he's ...
A. 14 June 2009: Well I would start by calling his friends and family( you are his wife)...I mean you already called his work and the whole thing sounds really kind of weird..dont take my advice but I would give it some time as long as you know he is ok and not ... (read in full...)
Am I stressing over nothing? He's not texting me back
Q. hey all i met a guy a week ago he is 10 years younger then me but we hit it off from the start, since we met we have seen each other 3 times. he still lives with his x in a shared house until the end of august. he has been texing me pretty ...
A. 11 May 2009:
I wouldnt stress it. Try not too...I mean maybe he is just testing the waters..guys do that..ya know dont be so quick too "jump" evrytime he texts ya know..relax and keep on doing your own thing..... (read in full...)
Is it love or is he after me just to get a mortgage?
Q. i want to know if my current boyfriend really loves me, or is just using me to get a mortgage ...
A. 9 May 2009: god thats an awful thought. make sure you cover yourself if that is how you feel. you know..dont put his name on it..or dont do it at all if you are not sure and are second guessing that.... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to set boundaries and categories for male friends?.
Q. My confidence has been in the toilet for like longer than I can remember and have ran from almost every relationship I have come across because I want to be settled in my own life and fairly happy before I enter into anything with anyone.....
A. 20 April 2009:
Thanks for the advice ladies. I have a dinner date with a friend tonight and think that I will have "the talk" about maybe labels that I hate having talks about but find that I cant be with anyone else because I am with him but not but..ya know... (read in full...)
Lost, hurt and anxious to move on, but how?
Q. I feel so lost. My boyfriend and I have almost been together for four years now and I have been in and out of depression for the last year. Last year, around this time I confronted him about why he was having reservations about marriage. When he f...
A. 11 April 2009: My god..at least he is being caring of your feelings that you were upset so he is going out of his way to make you feel comfortable and to trust him. I would be upset about the phone thing and the girl myself..but if you guys where apart at the ... (read in full...)
Her black leggings are way H-O-T, should I tell my wife
Q. I have always had a thing for girls in leggings, especially black leggings. Not talking about the shiny stuff talking about what you'd wear to the gym. I just think they're totally hot and love dry humping my wife when she's wearing them. Bett...
A. 11 April 2009: Well get a feel for how she is feeling emotionally, physically..she may be very preoccupied with the health of the baby. So I say one night when she is settled a bit well your a guy make her feel better ..always good when feelings sexually are ... (read in full...)
Her black leggings are way H-O-T, should I tell my wife
Q. I have always had a thing for girls in leggings, especially black leggings. Not talking about the shiny stuff talking about what you'd wear to the gym. I just think they're totally hot and love dry humping my wife when she's wearing them. Bett...
A. 11 April 2009: A year without sex? No wonder you are like looking at black legging like a "not fixed" dog..
My god just take your wife out and ask her to wear black tights "nicely" and this way you wont have to just write about it...lol. ... (read in full...)
His hand curled into a fist..is this a sign that he may be abusive?
Q. My boyfriend has been pretty good overall I guess. He asked me to be his gf on the second date, but I waited until 2 mos later to say yes.Before I said yes he would alway ask if I was talking to other dudes and he checked my phone once. But now h...
A. 7 April 2009: sounds a bit abusive and contolling. walk away..tell him his actions arent admirable at all and he obviously doesnt trust you..walk away..... (read in full...)
What are good exercises to get my flat belly back?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and I've always been pretty thin, and able to eat what I like, without watching my diet. But recently since leaving school, I feel like I've put on a little weight and am developing a belly.. I'm trying to diet by giving up the things ...
A. 7 April 2009: just watch the carbs your taking in. cut down the fat and try to get a walk in a couple times a week or join a sport you might like..tennis, swimming, gretat place to make friends who "battle the bulge" also..lol..... (read in full...)
I want to lose 40 pounds safely!
Q. I want to lose 40 pounds safely. I don't want to get sick, but I have really hard time so far. I tried exercising but didn't lose any weight at all. I also eat less, but it looks like I need some more ideas, because it seems really hard. I'm 5,8, ...
A. 6 April 2009: Dont think about it. Seriously..if you totally revolve your life around it..your libel to gain the weight back..your best bet is to gradually change your eating habits..gradually get out for that walk 15 minutes(get heart rate up) 3 times a week. ... (read in full...)
Did I do something to make him a softy?
Q. I am 28 years old. I lost my virginity almost 2 years ago with a friend I've known for a number of years, and we've met up for occasional sex ever since. I became a member of this site to get some advice. Here's my situation: When we recently ...
A. 6 April 2009: Maybe he had a bad day..I wouldnt be overly concerned...... (read in full...)
I really need affection!
Q. well i really need affection. i am quite desperate for it and i cant get it from my boyfriend. weve talked about and hes not a cuddly type of guy but i really need affection. for example, if some one just hugs me i want to cry because i feel so much ...
A. 6 April 2009: Talk to him if it bothers you that much. It sounds like he is making you feel "needy" and that is just not cool..Put em on his toes ... (read in full...)
He watches alot of porn!
Q. My Boyfriend watches porn (ALOT), this makes me jelouse in some way , and im worried this is going to effect our relationship also our sex. can porn actually effect our relationship or sex ?help?x...
A. 5 April 2009: To hell with it..its a guy thing..I tried watching it with my ex boyfriend but got really embarrassed...so..and I worked as a bartender in the nightclub for years..I just could not watch it wit him..it was weird..silly..but couldnt do it..... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend cause my periods problems and abnormal smears?
Q. hi this may seem like a strange question but.. i was with my b/f for 10 yrs and it was a really bad relationship i had very irregular periods i could go 3 months without one and had regular abnormal smears, we broke up for about two years and hey ...
A. 5 April 2009: I would go to the gynocologist for a for sure answere to that.... (read in full...)
He isnt acting like just a teacher
Q. Hello there. Thank you so much for deciding to help me! Sometimes I actually think I like this guy, do you think he likes me??? First of all, I am in eighth grade. The teacher, we will refer to him as {}, is 46 years old, married, and has tw...
A. 5 April 2009: I don't know if you are mistaking good kid or student for something that maybe not so. Or if it is then you should get out of his class dont encourage the man. Most teachers are very well aware of the dangers of "misinterpretations" of a student. I ... (read in full...)
I'm a married woman with a huge crush on my married boss
Q. Im a married woman who has a huge crush on my boss who is also married I know its wrong but I can't stop I think about him all day now im even picturing him while im "with" my husband I feel like if I tell him I will get it off my chest and get over...
A. 5 April 2009: Its tough when its your boss. If the feeling is not mutual it could be embarrassing to say the least. If it is mutual I would not want to work with him or for him anymore..sticky situation..and if you are both married we all know its "wrong". so ... (read in full...)
19 yo F and feel inexperienced. Do men like hair or no hair down there?
Q. I'm 19 and in a new-ish relationship. We're getting more serious and i really like him a lot, so want to go further sexually with him. I'd like some advice on what to do with my pubic hair. What do you guys prefer? I am afraid to ask him, b...
A. 5 April 2009: Omg..you are so young.I would worry about the taking precautions (birth control)and using protection as far as well "the talk" kind of..of maybe if he has been with anyone in the past..like lightly question..or well you know if he likes you he will ... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess of secrets, I need your opinions.
Q. Hi, I could really use your help, I don't know how to feel at the moment. In December I started a sort of friends with benifits situation with my best friend A, and it was all secret because he had a girlfriend at the time (wrong I know and I feel v...
A. 5 April 2009: A kinda sounds like he is receiving all teh benefits at your emothional cost. I say its not fair to you..depending on how much "benfits" are concerned..I mean things happen but I am sure people notice things even without you telling them..just like ... (read in full...)
Is he like this for a reason?
Q. Hi,ok im a kind of girl who generally is quite quiet(yea i have my moments of not being lol) I'm not exactlly shy as in painfully shy but yea i suppose i'm shyer than others. The thing is right i've known this lad for nearly two years we used to ...
A. 1 April 2009: Sounds like he was trying to be your friend even when you where getting bullied which is admorable. Maybe he sinced you where getting bullied and just didnt know what to say.
If its any consolation I cant tell you how he feels but I can say that... (read in full...)
My feelings for my boyfriend aren't as strong any more
Q. My boyfriend who is 25, and me, 21, have been dating for 3 and a half months. After a while, we started arguing about small things, but it would escalate to him losing his temper and threatening to break up with me. I would always be the one ...
A. 1 April 2009: I would be a bit freaked out to be honest with you. He sounds like the type that has to make you look or feel bad in order for him to feel good. I could be wrong but thats what it sounds like. I would not let him play on your sympathies. Maybe sit ... (read in full...)
I'm so used to fighting my paranoia that I can't make head or tail of the situation
Q. I've been dating this girl for about 8 months now. Originally I rebounded from a previous relationship to her, but it couldn't have been a better person to find. We were friends before hand, but here's where things get tricky. She's, more or less, a ...
A. 31 March 2009: Sorry to say but if ya dont have the right "plumbing" it may be a no go..no sorry thats not funny but..I mean if she likes girls..ya may be just a good friend to her. That stinks because I have liked men that later I found out where gay. I bartende... (read in full...)
Why would I want someone who treats me like garbage?
Q. OK where to start six years ago I met again whit my high school friend, she was going threw a divorce I always liked her since high school but back then her boyfriend was my best friend and we ended up not talking anymore because of her, well the ...
A. 31 March 2009: My god man thats tough. Well if you guys have children together..I think thats what I read ...than maybe if you could sit down like two grown adults and you could explain to her just like you did in your post how you feel and that you love her well ... (read in full...)
I feel that my sister has taken part of my identity away
Q. I'm really insecure and envious, help! Ok, in 2007 I started college. I was the star of my program, because I love what I do and it comes to me easily. My (older) sister had dropped out of Law School, and she took that year off. She wanted to st...
A. 31 March 2009: you know I am the youngest too. I feel the same way as far as my elder sister goes. Ya know what I learned something I went back to school in 2007 for legal studies and for the life of me dont know why..I hated it when I got "out of the clas... (read in full...)
Why the change? He seemed disinterested or distracted now
Q. There is this guy i like who i met on saturday night at a party. One thing led to another and since then i spoke to him on msn on sunday. He asked for my number and texted me and the conversation was very flirty - asking to see me sometime soon ...
A. 31 March 2009: Well sometimes People are more easy going at a party..its a party..so maybe you just caught him at a bad time..maybe he was working or preoccupied..I wouldn't take it to heart.. let it go and see what happens..just be yourself and dotn put so much... (read in full...)
I was told that I have camel toe!
Q. One day I was at shool I notice people looking between my legs and I ask my friend what was going on with people looking between my legs and she said I have a camel toe I bein tring to hide it but I dont know how to please help....
A. 29 March 2009: OH me god..that sounds kinda embarrassing..aww. Well I would just not wear those pants any more. Where pants that are a little looser fitting. Serious..I find that if you buy jeans or pants a size bigger than needed..the wear and tear seems to be... (read in full...)
Should I continue to "take" from him?
Q. Oh this is so strange, the guy that I have been dating, now every couple of weeks for 2 years is in the hospital with a clogged stent in his plumbing?.. I mean those were the words he used and honestly I am not in love with him and well I don't know ...
A. 29 March 2009: He lied. I found out he lied. I dont feel bad..I asked him about his heart and he specifically said it was not his heart. So he lied. I used to justify taking from him because I would say this man is sitting here and lieing to me and I would pass it ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to "take" from him?
Q. Oh this is so strange, the guy that I have been dating, now every couple of weeks for 2 years is in the hospital with a clogged stent in his plumbing?.. I mean those were the words he used and honestly I am not in love with him and well I don't know ...
A. 26 March 2009: You know I asked him if it was his heart when he had said he had a "clogged artery" or "plumbing problems"..I said well when a man refers to "plumbing" I assume they mean "down there" but when he said artery and stent..I thought heart..I mean men ... (read in full...)
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