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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi,ok im a kind of girl who generally is quite quiet(yea i have my moments of not being lol) I'm not exactlly shy as in painfully shy but yea i suppose i'm shyer than others.The thing is right i've known this lad for nearly two years we used to be good friends when we first started the course, then he started acting like he liked me and stuff and things seemed suspicious.. however after that i got bullied a lot in our class im not sure why but it made me go insanly quiet and i just used to stay out of everything. In this time me and this lad never really spoke, sometimes it was like he made the effort othrs he wouldn't all he could do was stare at me. Things have chnaged since then..(all tht bullying has stopped, ok there one girl that aint to keen on me and still talks about me to the others but she aint worth anything!!Thing is i don;t understand he will mess around with everyone else like laughing and making jokes with them about random stuff yet with me he won't. When we talk its normally about general/normal things and the conversation never goes very far.Sometimes its just like he don;t want to talk to me, others its like hes trying to make the effort by just saying things at random to me, occasionally its like he is with everyone else, and yet others its just like he wll talk to me if theres something to talk about that we are both into. Ive also noticd a lot of the stuff i say he laughs at recently(not horribly or anything but not a massive laugh if you get me) and others its like he ignores me.It varies from different days but its weir how he just wont talk to me or mess around with me like others i dont know why is it something i do or does he just not find me a fun person or something?Thing is people say it coud be he still likes me but he liked another girl and totally went for it with her, ok she put it out there she wanted him(she turned him down in the end, he was guttered) and shes not shy at all she'll mess around with anyone.Sometimes im actually scared to mess around with him because i know he might not like it but i dont know. I dont know whats going off its like sometimes hes normal, other times he seems nervous or like he can't talk to me and stuff and others its like he just fdoesn;t know what to say(although he manages it with everyone else even people he dont really like and has no interests with)he's not exactly shy either! i mean we sit toegther everyday we just dont..talk! I don't understand is it just me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): I think its normal when we have a crush on someone to want to believe their behaviours have to do with us but thats just mainly wishful thinking. He isn't showing any signs of reciprocating how you feel so I don't think he's doing anything because of you. He just sounds like a typical social guy that's nice to you but doesn't really feel like he has much in common with you so the converstations are kept more or less at a superficial level. you could try flirting with him or something or ask him more personal questions and see where it goes. If he doesn't really respond to it then you know you are just wasting your time liking him.
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reader, ErinPatterson  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 Sounds like he was trying to be your friend even when you where getting bullied which is admorable. Maybe he sinced you where getting bullied and just didnt know what to say.
If its any consolation I cant tell you how he feels but I can say that the more I like someone the less I know what to say to them and I am a 33 year old woman. I can talk to a guy I dont have interest in..strange...maybe we all have our shyness in diff ways..
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