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writes:My boy friend and i have been dating for almost 2 years and are almost alwasy together. To avoid doing anything stupid we always only drink when were together. Last night my boy friend and i were hanging out with some people from his new job. I had to go home early and told him he could drink without me but i did NOT want him smoking pot. He promised he wouldn't do anything to upset me. I believed him because i love him and trust him. After i was home and asleep He called me at 4 am not only hammered but stoned out of his mind and freaking out. I talked him through it,all the while fighting back anger and tears to reasure him he was going to be ok until he finally passed out (at this persons house whom we barly know). I didnt get any sleep fixed on my mixed emotions of pain, anger, fear and just about everything else. He called this morning begging for forgivness and I told him we needed to talk about it in person. I love him so much, but how will this relationship work if i cant trust him now? I'm not giving up on our relationship. But does anyone have any advised on how i should handle this. He wants only to fix things and i can tell in his voice he feels terrible. He broke my heart. he lied and lost my trust. WHAT DO I DO??? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Why are you stopping him from doing things he wants to do?
He has a life of his own as do you.
I can see that you don’t want him getting totally trashed & staying at a near strangers house but you have to let him live his life.
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reader, Aylarsh +, writes (13 July 2009):
 you need to talk it out to him and then maybe have some space.
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reader, ThatPizzaGuy +, writes (13 July 2009):
if he cannot do things without you or you without him then you should not be together.. I mean get real, he smoked some pot without you? geez tell him he owes you a back rub or something... How old are you anyways? it sounds like a fight a couple of 15 year olds would be having...
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reader, ErinPatterson +, writes (13 July 2009):
 when you loose your trust its tought to forgive. now he basically gave you a reason not to trust him..and you had to baby him through his own crap..I say walk away for a bit.
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