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Cherie,
writes:My Boyfriend watches porn (ALOT),this makes me jelouse in some way , and im worried this is going to effect our relationship also our sex.can porn actually effect our relationship or sex ?help?x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Speaking as a guy who does wathc porn, a bit..
Have to say its about relief and I would always and |I mean always prefer sex with my gf.
If this guy is 13 or so then he gets turned on by everything, seriously dont worry about it, If he stops loving you and stops being affectionate then it is time to do what the aunties above has suggested, let him know that he can be replaced and it will be just him and his hand.
Hope this helps
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reader, Kim in College  +, writes (9 April 2009):
I have the same problem, and it actually has affected me in how you are afraid- mostly with me though. It would probably be best to tell him how you feel/explain he may not understand at first (like my boyfriend). It will probably affect you more than him.
The deal with me is I want a committed relationship and to feel I am thee object of his desire not "a" or to make me feel as if i am he doesn't understand this at all and frankly thinks it is a double standard and his argument is "all girls like Brad Pitt I explain to him i think he's a sleeze bag and I don't find that attractive.
Also if i'm away from him for a day he thinks Im cheating on him. he already is incredibly insecure and I'm fine with his insecurities because I am just as insecure... -my dilemma
not all guy watch porn true fact.
You're still young you have along road ahead of you I know at high school age experimental dating I was not at all committed more like a fling to figure out what i liked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): All boys look at porn its natural an makes them feel good.But somestimes it can mean he is ready for sex or wants more sex now talk to him or give him a surprise like walk in he house with your bra off or something boys like tha!!!
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reader, ErinPatterson +, writes (5 April 2009):
 To hell with it..its a guy thing..I tried watching it with my ex boyfriend but got really embarrassed...so..and I worked as a bartender in the nightclub for years..I just could not watch it wit him..it was weird..silly..but couldnt do it..
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reader, ashleyriley +, writes (3 April 2009):
 my husband also watches the stuff too. He only likes the girl on girl stuff. It makes me feel bad because I don't look like the girls in the movie. I've gained weight since we had our daughter, so it makes me feel bad. Plus we only have sex about once a month. We used to have sex a few times a week...before I gained weight. I know how you feel. I have heard men watch it because thay can jerk off and not have to worry about getting you of. Who knows though. I have even tried to watch it with him....but he won't let me. It kinda feels like they are cheating on you. I think every woman has been through this at some point....and this will always continue because the porn industry is a billion dollar industry.
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reader, Trish123 +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Do you know what.. this is something I've been reading a lot into recently. Not only does my boyfriend watch a lot of porn, but it's also fucking revolting stuff. I didn't know exactly how to react. Started thinking "is there something wrong with me?" "Does'nt he find me attractive enough"I'm still not 100% comfortable about it, but it's suprising how funny it is when the ball is on the other foot, he starts to feel equally as uncomfortable. I spoke to him about it. It still hasn't changed anything, so I decided to see what I could do to make me feel better about it. I mentioned getting a sex toy. He instantly "went funny" on me and started asking questions like "it's won't replace me though will it?" started buying really sexy underwear and wearing it to work but not for our "night time activities". It was leaving him trying to work out why he wasn't getting this special treatment. It drove him mad. It was when he talked to me about it that I brought up the porn situation. He actually listened to me. I was really honest about how it made me feel. It was actually quite nice for him to listen and talk about why he does it. Between us, we've worked things out. He hasn't stopped completely, but has cut down and is far more senstive to my feelings and would never do it while I was around. Have you tried watching it together to get more of any understanding what it is that he likes? I can't say that this will help for everyone but seems to have worked for me.... the underwear thing is great. Giving them a sneak preview of something they'll not get..... turns the table and gives us the power back.
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