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22 June 2010: Why is it when we're in a happy relationship we still question, is there any one better out there for us? We get the feeling that we're settling. Which is all well and good but what if we throw away what we had and end up with nothing. Is this the ...
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I feel as though I'm not good enough for him, should I try changing?
Q. I've not felt like this for a while but I'm starting to think I'm not good enough. My boyfriend reassures me that I am however there's something in the back of my mind that's screaming 'you're not his type'. Do people really have a type? and if so ...
A. 14 June 2011: Thank you all for your advice. I can see what you mean about my own insecurities and I think these stem from my last breakup. I was in a relationship where the boy treat me as if i was the only person in the world and was always complementing me. ... (read in full...)
I'm the complete opposite of my new boyfriends ex and I feel like I'm always being compared to her...
Q. Ive become very paranoid. Basically I'm the complete opposite of my new boyfriends ex. I'm only his second serious relationship so I feel like I'm always being compared to her. She's blonde and wears a lot of makeup whereas I have reddish brown ha...
A. 13 June 2011: Thank you all for this advice. knowing im not the only one has been a great comfort. He broke up with her about 9 months ago if that helps at all. Another thing that bothers me is we sometimes go to the same cafe she goes to, i pointed out that it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always wants to have sex!
Q. hi, my bf always wants to have sex,what should i do? i get annoyed sometimes, but he always wanna have it? what to do?...
A. 26 January 2011: Explain to him that your sex drive is lower and although you love having sex with him you think there should be more to your realtionship than that. He shouldn't pressure you into it and he should understand your feelings... say for example if you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend claims he love me. So why does he sleep around?
Q. If my boyfriend says he loves me, then why does he engage in casual sex with others? ...
A. 26 January 2011: I'd agree with this lot, because you haven't set up boundaries perhaps? or maybe because its all too easy for him... If someone cut you a piece of cake, told you it had no calories and gave you it for free chances are you'd eat it... because there's ... (read in full...)
How do you talk to guys?
Q. How do girls talk to boys? out of all my friends I can't talk to boys. I try so hard but i can't i end up talking to them how i would talk to my girlfriends. So a lot of boys think i am weird. Can you please tell me how to talk to boys? ...
A. 25 January 2011: Ignore the fact they're guys. After all they are just people! like me, you, your friends. I'd say its more about topic choice, dont try to impress by pretending to know about guy stuff though.. if you hate football tell them, they'll probably try to ... (read in full...)
How do you move on from past relationships?
Q. This might be a stupid question, but: how do you stop feeling bothered about stuff from the past? When I think of my relationship with my ex-boyfriend [who broke up with me months ago], I still feel bothered by things.. I won't bore everyone with ...
A. 25 January 2011: I'd say time is what it take.. just ride it out..
Or maybe, if you're still talking to the guy mention it.. say you're aware of the situation change but you feel you need to tell him these things to get them off your chest/let him know for futu... (read in full...)
Why wasn't I enough for him?
Q. I am alone and he is with the girl he cheated on me with. Why did he do this? What did I do wrong? I made dinner for him every night or went and got it? Would try and do nice things for him once a day, dressed up in sultry lingerie every night? Went ...
A. 6 December 2010: You seem really upset still which is granted, perhaps you just didnt work well as a couple, or he was looking for something different. perhaps he didn't like that you did everything for him.
needless to say he should not have cheated on you and he s... (read in full...)
Is he my rebound?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 19 months (about a month ago) and since then I've met another boy who is really nice and we're now in a relationship together. I still speak to my ex on friendly terms and am arranging to go see him. I was ...
A. 12 November 2010: thanks for your opinions and sadly he broke up with me, i worded that badly. I apologise. I guess I'll have to see how it works out, i suppose the way I see it, this way I'm not sad about my ex so thats good right?... (read in full...)
We've tried everything and I still cant orgasm!
Q. I can't orgasm. Plain and simple. We've tried everything. Oral, intercourse, fingering, vibrators, lube, anal. He even bought the mother of all vibrators. The stupid thing wouldn't go in. I was wet ready to go. So we poured a ton of lube on it. S...
A. 4 July 2010: When the tingly feeling comes try getting him to tap your clit lightly rather than rubbing it, sometimes that coaxes the orgasm out and makes it last a little longer x... (read in full...)
Age and Height Difference - Weird?
Q. Mod Note..Titled by Poster Okay, hey there! So, I've got a quick question. I JUST got in to a relationship (like a day ago) and it's my first one ever. I'm 16 years old. The thing is: he's 19. I mean, I don't really see anything wrong with that. I've...
A. 4 July 2010: When I was 14 i went out with a 17 year old. Looking back I think URGH why was he with me I was a child! ha. But at the time it felt fine and natural, and as you get old the gap narrows, think like this when you're 20 he'll be 23 and that doesnt ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and can't get a boyfriend! WHY???
Q. My question is basically why can't i get a boyfriend!!! I am completely normal looking, 5'8, i row and do track, have good grades, and am an outgoing talkative person with have lots of friends. I try to go after a guy and then i decide i don't like ...
A. 4 July 2010: I'm sure it's not you. You sound like a lovely person and there is no reason why you don't have a boyfriend.
Perhaps you don't feel ready in yourself yet to pursue anyone? There is no rush to be in a relationship, you are only 16 there is plen... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong in being a virgin at 24?
Q. Is there anything wrong in being a virgin at 24? In high school, I made out with a girl a bunch of times, but nothing happened. In college, I wanted to be with a girl. We made out quite a few times, but nothing happened. I chased after girls ...
A. 4 July 2010: There are some horrible double standards in society, if a girl was a virgin at that age they'd be patting her back and congratualting her, however boys face a lot more pressure, there is nothing wrong with it, you just need to be with an ... (read in full...)
Could these be symptoms of pregnancy?
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend are 21. We had sex last tuesday 2nd time in our 3 years relation. We love each other to bits. It was a protective sex and the condom was on. Since then she is feeling tired, has pain in legs and back and has fever. Yesterday ...
A. 22 June 2010: They don't sound like early symptoms of pregnancy (though i have never been pregnant myself!) though i know from past experience that the slightest things can seem like you're pregnant when you could be. I'm sure it was all fine and she won't be, ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, he's 36. Is that wrong?
Q. I know this is going to sound like another 13-in-a-dozen age gap question. But I need some advice. Sorry if this is long and boring, but I need someone to read through it. I'm a normal girl and I used to date guys my age. I had a couple of boyfri...
A. 22 June 2010: I think it would be fine as long as neither of you have any other ties, however perhaps it is just the fact he is more "experience" at life that you like? and by the time your 38 all the people your age will be just like him. Perhaps sticking it out ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give tips on how to give a love-bite?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now, but its a long distance relationship and we see eachother every 3-4 months. Weve been talking about next time we meet, and he mentioned love bites. I was ok with the fact he wants to give me ...
A. 22 June 2010: Just suck gently on his skin in a tender place. Neck is often a favourite, some people are harder to give them to though so don't be disheartened if you fail. Also you should probably be aware of how vulgar they look, but each to their own. Have fun ... (read in full...)
The long and the short of it...
Q. so i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17, he is 6'5 and i'm 5'1... i love him so much but when we hug i have to put my hands around his waist... i love being with him but it is so hard... i want to put my arms around his neck when we hug and kiss but it is ...
A. 22 June 2010: find a step or wear some heels. Or you could try kissing when you're laying down! I think there is a similar difference between me and my boyfriend, maybe tiptoes would work too, I like kissing on my tiptoes, its cutee :)... (read in full...)
Is this really cheating, I feel cheated in my marriage.
Q. Two friends, a man and a woman, both married in their late 40s, the marriages are sexless and in trouble. We became sexually attracted from the lack of any intimacy at home. We talk often and sex is a hot topic between us. She asked me to have sex ...
A. 22 June 2010: Perhaps it would be more beneficial to work on your marriage rather than moving on and perhaps making excuses. Although you may feel emotionally detached now maybe you will feel guilty in the aftermath? Only you know what you want and how you will ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid getting hit on when I have a boyfriend?
Q. So, it doesn't happen often, but sometimes guys come up to me when I'm in a public place like a coffee shop or park by myself. Usually I'm reading a book or something but that doesn't really stop them from trying to talk to me. No one has ever ...
A. 10 June 2010: perhaps engage in their conversation a little until you can work out what their intentions are and should the conversation start to turn flirtatious then you can apologise and say you have a boyfriend but say you enjoyed the chat. Its then up to ... (read in full...)
Will the package be discreet?
Q. Has anyone ever ordered from love honey? If so, i know the packaging is plain however are the items loose and can you tell what is in the package just from feeling it? Also if you order a magazine from there will it just come with your order, l...
A. 2 February 2010: You were all great, perhaps you could help me with this related question?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-still-put-this-vibrator-in-the.html... (read in full...)
On a sale of 1-10 she rates me 3, I rate her 9. How can I get my rating up?
Q. Well me my girlfriend we been dating for about a month and couple weeks now. Our relationship is great it's going by good I love her a lot, but when I ask her how much she loves me she said she only loves me a little. From a scale from 1 to 10 one ...
A. 1 February 2010: Theres nothing you can do really, love grows over time and I think I'd be more worried if she was head over heels with you after such a small amount of time.
Just hang in there and take things slow. Show her what a lovely person you are and hope... (read in full...)
Will the package be discreet?
Q. Has anyone ever ordered from love honey? If so, i know the packaging is plain however are the items loose and can you tell what is in the package just from feeling it? Also if you order a magazine from there will it just come with your order, l...
A. 29 January 2010: That's very observant of you Mal. Yep that is in fact exactly what was in the package. For mine and my partners anniversary I've made him a sex box up with a variety of fun things that we've not tried before and those were just some of those. ... (read in full...)
Will the package be discreet?
Q. Has anyone ever ordered from love honey? If so, i know the packaging is plain however are the items loose and can you tell what is in the package just from feeling it? Also if you order a magazine from there will it just come with your order, l...
A. 28 January 2010: Got my package today, it was very discreet, the envelope was plain and the stuff was even wrapped up in tissue paper. I squeezed the package and its contents couldn't be identified! Full Marks! x... (read in full...)
I want to try cunnilingus but my wife isn't interested. Any ideas on how I can bring her around?
Q. Hi, I want to try cunnilingus but my wife thinks its 'dirty'. The problem is it really turns me on. What do I do?...
A. 25 January 2010: Perhaps you could explain your feelings about it to her and see what she thinks, find out why she thinks its so wrong and find a way to work around it, maybe have showers before and after if shes worried about her personal hygine for the first few ... (read in full...)
Will the package be discreet?
Q. Has anyone ever ordered from love honey? If so, i know the packaging is plain however are the items loose and can you tell what is in the package just from feeling it? Also if you order a magazine from there will it just come with your order, l...
A. 25 January 2010: I will let you know my opinion on the packaging when it arrives. My order was dispatched today, yey :D ... (read in full...)
Will the package be discreet?
Q. Has anyone ever ordered from love honey? If so, i know the packaging is plain however are the items loose and can you tell what is in the package just from feeling it? Also if you order a magazine from there will it just come with your order, l...
A. 25 January 2010: Do all the vibrators, cock rings etc. come in boxes? so if the parcel was squeezed they couldnt be felt?... (read in full...)
Tantric sex...
Q. Tantric sex I'm interested in experimenting with it, what does it entail, can anyone give me any advice or point me to any websites that will help me? thanks...
A. 22 January 2010: Thanks for that website, it looks really useful x... (read in full...)
Why is it that a girls virginity seems to be more important than a guy's?
Q. Something I've been wanting to know for ever is, why is it that a girls virginity seems to be more important than a guy's?...
A. 17 January 2010: Beacuse in modern day society the more girls a guy can sleep with the "better" man he is (apparently) whereas the more guys a girl sleeps with the bigger whore she is, again apparently.
It probably leads back to olden times and purity where men ... (read in full...)
Nothing is going right for me, no education, job or girl
Q. hello everyone to be honest i don't know where to begin because i have so many problems i dont know where to start i have no education because i left school at 16 i have no job and everyone i apply to they reject me. i still don't know wh...
A. 17 January 2010: enrole in a course at a local college? Thats always a possibility no? Get more education, even go to uni, kill some time, maybe meet a girl there! At least you'll know she'll have some level of sense!
And money wise, i believe you live in the UK a... (read in full...)
What is sex like? How do you know when you are ready?
Q. Im just curious.. What is sex like? Is your first time special or akward? How do you know when your ready?x...
A. 17 January 2010: Sex can be lovely, providing your with someone lovely. Personally I believe the media hypes up sex far too much, putting pressure on people to have it and for it to be good.
I cant really remember how i knew i was "ready" but i can remember that... (read in full...)
He put his penis in unprotected, now I'm late, but it wasn't full on sex
Q. Okay, so I don't know much about sex but lately I've gotten incredibly paranoid. A little while ago things with my boyfriend heated up and he stuck his penis in without a condom, but things did not get intense because we both didn't really move and ...
A. 17 January 2010: firstly, if you dont know much about sex then you probably shouldn't be getting too intimate with someone, if for no other reason than if your both inexperienced it probably wont be very good however you have dabbled and now need some help.
T... (read in full...)
How do you truly know when you're over someone?
Q. Recently i think i got over my ex because i've stopped crying over him and the wishful thinkin about us bein together but i dont know if i really am or is it a sub-consious front. I got over him but picturing him with my best friend, because i heard ...
A. 17 January 2010: one day it will just click, I promise. Wont be long now, hang in there x... (read in full...)
I want to give my new boyfriend head...
Q. so i want to give my new boyfriend head. we`ve been together 3 months and we have started to get sexual. ive done it before to my ex and the ex before that and they always said it was really good. but the problem is... they were both ...
A. 17 January 2010: Apparently if you wrap your hands around the base and kind of give a hand job at the same time then it feels like your taking all of them in your mouth. Lots of boys also like it if you use both hands and twist them in opposite directions whilst you ... (read in full...)
My first blowjob???
Q. I'm sixteen and a guy I know at school has offered to give me my first blowjob. What are the potential consequences of having a blowjob both emotional and physical? Is it really that big a deal?...
A. 7 January 2010: so your male, making me assume your either homosexual or bisexual? am i right? Perhaps for your first one you should wait until your in a relationship with someone? It would make it more comfortable for you i would imagine. Obvisously i cannot gi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his ex are too close for my liking, is he messing around with her when he goes to visit his son?
Q. i am in a relationship with a man who's baby momma will only let him see his kids if he goes to her house.. he has sworn to me he isn't messing with her while he is there but im not sure. she texts him all hours sending him pics of him holding his ...
A. 5 January 2010: I can understand why you are concerned and im unsure of what to suggest that would be most benificial. Perhaps you could ask if you could visit the child with him? See how advesrse to it he is?
also why must he go there to visit the child? is this... (read in full...)
Do I shave... or not?
Q. hey, im 14 years old, and i dont know if i should shave me pubic hair or not, i have heard it looks a lot better, but i'm not sure, please help? ...
A. 3 January 2010: If i were you i'd just do your bikini line! Once you shave there is no going back! It prickles and itches the first few times and the hair begins to regrow after a few days. Can you really be bothered?
however if your okay with that then go for i... (read in full...)
Any inventive sex suggestions?
Q. Having fun and looking for new ideas. It is my turn to come up with something new. Last time we tried ice in the anus (recommended). We also use toys. Any inventive suggestions?...
A. 7 December 2009: It sounds like your quite an adventourous pair... and not know what else you've done makes this a little difficult for us as aunts as we may just repeat suggestions that you've already done but oh well here goes..
What about food? introducing melt... (read in full...)
Just found out my boyfriend called my ugly and a dog to his friends after sleeping with me...
Q. I recently started dating my best friend. We have been together a couple months, I know it was wrong of me but i went on his facebook and I found a conversation between him and someone. My best friend and I slept together a couple times a few years ...
A. 7 December 2009: Before you jump to conclusions, how sure are you that it was about you?
if you are sure then doesn't the fact that he's with you suggest that he cant possibly think that anymore,
but on the other hand are you sure you want to be with someone ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to spice up a stale sex life?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a bit of a stale sex life at present, we're going to try experimenting this weekend but could do with some ideas as what to do? Anything interesting you've tried? anything fun? We're pretty open, but have limited access to ...
A. 5 December 2009: Thanks guys, i thought i'd elaborate a bit, Like i said were pretty open, We've tried quite a lot of positions but we seem to be stuck in a rut, and often some of the more outrageous ones hurt me as he is quite large downstairs. We play with oral... (read in full...)
At first I said no, then I said yes, he disappeared and now he is back!
Q. I was 13 when I dated my then boyfriend who was 16 at the time. He was a pretty boy and came from a wealthy family,so did I,meaning he was the player type. We dated for abt a week before he asked me to come over to his place. I made it clear before ...
A. 3 December 2009: Honey, i dont think he's the sort of boy you want to be with. You may be 'in love' with him but really? He was going to use you for sex when you were only 13! and good for you you said no and stood your ground, and he walked off, why? because he ... (read in full...)
My virgin boyfriend is holding back on sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now, and of course we have been fooling round for a while but its always foreplay. You see, we're both virgins and I'm willing to go a little further with the intimacy but he holds back. The ...
A. 3 December 2009: Maybe he's not ready yet but is too ashamed to say so?
3 months isnt really a long time, you need to be careful not to pressure him into something he doesnt want to do, try talking to him about it in a balanced and understanding manner? x... (read in full...)
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