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Emjo
writes:Why is it when we're in a happy relationship we still question, is there any one better out there for us? We get the feeling that we're settling. Which is all well and good but what if we throw away what we had and end up with nothing. Is this the greediness of human nature coming out? We never seem to be happy with what we have. But then again, why should we be? Once the shine of a new relationship wears off, should we persist in trying to make it work or would we be better to just give up and move on? Is it the feeling we crave rather than a person? Is happiness something that comes with age or have we just seen one two many rom coms?This is pretty much how I'm feeling now. Any advice?NB. this is the blog I posted a few days ago, It pretty much sums up what's going on in my head.
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reader, Ritasanyal  +, writes (11 July 2010):
You will always question yourself even if he is the prince of England - you are only human being.
As young you may be you are quite balanced to think through this
My suggestion would be do not commit yourself
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reader, cincinnatichocolate  +, writes (4 July 2010):
You are so young. If you are questioning it then its probably not the right one. When its right you wont and can not question it plus at your age you need to experience or else how will you know
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reader, arlamai +, writes (28 June 2010):
I think you have just met one of the big hurdles in any relationship. The way to move past it is a simple case of applying examples.
The feeling that one is settling can be argued in two ways, it can be argued as evidence that the relationship doesn't work or it can be perceived as a sign that the relationship needs both parties to put more passion in.
In my last relationship I begun to feel that I had settled. I misread this for being proof that the relationship needed more sparkle when really I should have been looking at the bigger picture. If I had applied examples to the two arguments I would have clearly seen that this man treated me badly and that there was little evidence to suggest that any more effort on my part would fix it.
I suggest you try and inject some more romance, start doing things that you did when you first met, remember why you fell in love with him. If this doesn't work then if you decide to leave, it will be with a strong heart.
I hope you come to a decision soon, relationship turmoil is never fun. I don't mean to patronising, this is what people used to tell me, at our age we are too young to settle for anything less. We have years left in us to find the one and if you have already found him it is a simple case of trying a fresh approach
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): oh so youg to have such big problems . well dear fist i think you should bake youself a cake and make a cup of tea . sit still for while on you veranda and feel the breeze on your face .drink you tes and enjoy you cake .throw some crumbs to the birds . see how they take what they wan,t and fly away to who knows were. are the birds worried about tomorrow ,its a grab it while you can kind of life .gratfull for day .happyness comes from whith in .to love someone is a comitment not so much what we feel . if you really don,t wan,t to commit to someone any more then stop giving them crumbs and building up there hopes . some people never settle they fly away with the wind. the answer my new freind to your question is blowing in the wind .
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reader, Zorba +, writes (25 June 2010):
I see you are very young.If you don't feel good-comfortable,then you should : look at what choice you have:when the time arises that its time to get serious about your live,( just use good sense),same religion,same type of food,eliminate, discuss many things that may interfere with your relationship,work-family-children-friends-believe in your self-you boy friend-you will know when its there--do what you think is good for- you,tomorrow--1 year -5 years,ect.do not believe in divorce,work it out-if you want it-go for it( I did and never went to bed up-set-make--tomorrow is a new day.Good luck,just believe.Zorba
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Happiness is a fleeting sensation. We all feel like there a better mate and/or situation just around the corner. But, after 66 years of life I can say,"it's true wha tey say; you never know how good you have it until you lose it. IF IIT made you happy once IT probably will again so don't lose that IT whatever it was .
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