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writes:im feeling like a teen again - me and my friend have talked about having a relationship, we like each other in that way , we are in our 30s both shy but because of our shyness none of us have made a move on the other. we flirt, spend time with each other, and hug. we've talked about a sex life and what we would expect and weve agreed with everything. i know if i had a drink it would calm me and give me the confidence to make the first move ... break the ice so to speak but i dont want to do that. i should be able to make a move without having a drink. he also said a drink would make him get in that mood too but hes not big on drinking. its been a while since i had someone so nice in my life and i dont want to blow it. does anyone have any ideas on how to make the move and make it big and clear basically shouting out im now making a move go for it ? [Moderator note: Edited to add punctuation]
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (15 January 2015):
 Hey that's really cool. Well me and my current girlfriend are both in our 30s.
Liked each other from the get go. She asked me out to a party she was hosting and well.... Let's say I picked up on her cues and took lead in nurturing the relationship.
Just relax, follow your instincts and all will be well I promise.
(ps- don't use alcohol to feign confidence, just feel the raw pure natural excitement as you embark on getting to know each other better on a more intimate level)
Good luck!!
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (15 January 2015):
 When you say you want to make a move on him, what do you mean? Do you mean start a relationship with him, kiss him or have sex with him?
I suggest you start with the first one and take things from there.
Maybe you could suggest going out for a meal and ask him at the end of the evening if he'd like to be in a relationship with you?
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