Should I pull the plug on this marriage?
Q. should we end this marriage?I've been with my husband for six years,it's like my life is over there's nothing to look forward to,sex is alway's the same no forplay no waiting for a woman to get horney,it's stick it in get off and dont worrie if ...
A. 23 September 2011: I understand that your relationship is now at a point where it seems the romance has fled it. While this alone isn't a legal reason to end a marriage in the USA, and while it doesn't sound like you have irreconcilable differences to date, I concl... (read in full...)
2 weeks after argument b/f still hasn't contacted me!
Q. I and my boyfriend started the relationship bout 6months ago. Its been the best feeling ever. I love him so much aand he says he loves me too. He says my attitude stinkks whereas, he's is worse. Everytime he does something wrong and I react, he'll ...
A. 23 September 2011: He's left you, and it's time to move on.
Unfortunately, its really hard to rebuild respect, trust, and honest communication when you clearly are still very emotional about this issue and unable to see it with rational eyes. He doesn't want a p... (read in full...)
Why do I always drive people away?
Q. I don't understand why, but I always drive people away. Especially with romantic relationships that are going well, I will always sabotage the relationship, but I do it with other people too. My friends and family... I don't make the time for the...
A. 23 September 2011: Visit your doctor/counselor. This is something you need to discuss with a professional. ... (read in full...)
is it right for coaches to deny his players the freedom to love?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend who is in my country's national under-21 football team. She's 19, the captain of the team, and is the only out lesbian in her team. According to her, several of her team mates are closeted lesbians but they are afraid ...
A. 23 September 2011: Contact your local human rights organization, gay-straight alliance, newspaper, and lawyer.
Love is free. This coach has gone too far.... (read in full...)
Afraid of my boyfriend finding out about my awful past tomorrow night.
Q. I need someone to reply, it's urgent. REALLY urgent. Ok, so I have been with my bf for about a year. We broke up last April but we still had contact. I was really depressed and did some very nasty stuff which I now regret badly because I was tr...
A. 23 September 2011: Honesty is the best policy. If he truly loves you as much as you love him, it won't matter if you tell him. Best he hear it from you than from the other guy.
And, remember, its from when you weren't together... So he can get upset or jealous,... (read in full...)
18 year old with crush on 14 year old?
Q. hi guys i am 18 and i have a developing crush on a 14 year old girl and i just wanted to get peoples views on this is it weird to you or doesn't it matter to you? ...
A. 23 September 2011: I don't think the crush in itself is wrong or unwarranted. I think that if you were to act upon it, you'd be opening a whole new can of worms. Whatever the reason for your crush, can you wait four years? - If no, move on. Find a crush on someone ... (read in full...)
Separated 3 years, do I need to grieve?
Q. i have been seperated for three years and deep in side i have always believed that my wife and i would reconcile to the point we went to church and counseling. it now appears grimmer than it ever has ,, someone said to me or i read some where ...
A. 23 September 2011: It's hard to let something go, especially when you have long-term past. It took me almost two years to realize that I had to let go and get on with my life, after being in a very similar situation. While the process does take time, and perhaps more ... (read in full...)
I'm always just used, girls like playing with my emotions and I'm sick of it all..
Q. Hello, I am am an 18 year old male and I just can't take it anymore. I myself try to be a nice guy, but guess what? Every girl I date acts like a jerk, and never talks to me again. I'm always just used, girls like playing with my emotions and, i'm ...
A. 23 September 2011: It's time to change what you are looking for. Clearly, you are desiring of something more mature now, and you may not find that in the age range you date. I also would caution against meeting people online. Try at univerity or college. Developing ... (read in full...)
While applying for a job, did I do a wrong thing by sending out scanned copies of my passport to strangers in another country?
Q. Hi all, I have been applying for TEFL jobs abroad in China and have been sending out my C.V. along with a scan of my passport as some of them were asking for it. I am now very worried that this was a silly naive thing to do and am unsure of the sa...
A. 23 September 2011: A passport contains a lot of deeply personal and restricted information. So does a CV. In many ways, you have given someone you don't know complete access to your identity. I would be very concerned, especially in terms of identity theft. ... (read in full...)
Feeling so guilty. I was drunk and did stuff with a friend
Q. Okay so, two nights ago, I got drunk. But not over my head drunk, I still had a bit of consciousness intact. I was at a party and one of my guy friends, who I'm fairly close with, offered to take me home. I let him since it wasn't the first time. Bu...
A. 23 December 2010: Seriously, you need to focus on school at your age. Quit the sauce, get back on track! - that being said...
He's a hormonal teenager with a hard-on. Pretty much, any port-in-a-storm will help. He used you, girl.
How to shake it off... cold s... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me? Or is this normal behaviour?
Q. We'll I'm 16 years old, female and it my first year in college. So,I have Saturday classes and my classes were on Military Training Service. As far as I know, military training is quite hard but I still chose it because I've always wanted to try i...
A. 23 December 2010: If you both are military, you had best check your fraternization policies. It could be a major offence to date, hold hands, etc...
Fact is, as long as you both are "enlisted", its a no-no. That might explain why he is hiding it so.
However... (read in full...)
Do I risk telling my client that he has extremely bad breath?
Q. it feels so mean to having to ask this, but how can I handle it? I have a great client, he provides me with a continuous stream of research work. He's well mannered, always a gentleman. When I've finished the research i get it all ready, and I drop ...
A. 23 December 2010: Asides a common idea to breathe through your own mouth, to thus avoid smelling it...
...perhaps have a lunch meeting or something where you can choose neutral foods to eat. This might prevent a food-based smell.
Otherwise, if that doesn't wor... (read in full...)
In need of flirting techniques.....
Q. hey, so heres my "dilemma" if you will i used to play straight, but now i'm "out" now, but ive only upfront and told my friends, not everyone in my college knows if im gay, but they dont know if im straight i need to know how to flirt with other...
A. 23 December 2010: Maybe this sounds cliche, but just be yourself.
Smile if you like a guy. Don't be afraid to put a hand on a shoulder while chatting. Hell, buy a guy a drink! It doesn't have to be complicated.
Whatever you do with your friends, do with... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for feeling this way or am I really unattractive?
Q. OK i am acualy 175-180lbs and i have a body that makes me look like im at least 130lbs and i look good (so people keep telling me) in a bikini but i dont feel like it. im curvy with a pudge on my stomach and my butt sticks way out from my back ! and ...
A. 23 December 2010: If you are uncomfortable with your own image, it does you no good to keep belittling yourself for minor "imperfections".
Everyone's butt sticks out a little, and everyone carries a little weight around the midsection on the front-side. Men and ... (read in full...)
How do I earn his trust back after I kissed his best friend after we had broken up?
Q. ok. me and my boyfriend broke up like 3 weeks ago. but i started liking one of his bestfriends. we kissed in the hallway at school and my ex was mad at me. see the thing is we dated for over a year and we love each other. how do i tell him im sorry ...
A. 23 December 2010: You can't expect any respect or trust back when you get with a guy's best friend. I know you mean to move on and try to still be his friend, but if you truly loved him, you'd still be with him and this situation wouldn't have occurred. To then have ... (read in full...)
After being hurt I have given up on love, but I want to start all over again. Where do I begin?
Q. Due to recent events in my love life I've been hurt an have given up on women. I need some advice on how to start back. Where can I begin?...
A. 23 December 2010: While its hard to comment on the situation, as it lacks basic detail,... I'd recommend that you start slowly. Find love for yourself again, and then work yourself back into the dating realm. Most importantly though is to get past what has happened ... (read in full...)
What are the best and worst condoms?
Q. what is the best protection condom for not getting my girlfriend pregnant,and what is the worst protection condom?...
A. 14 December 2009: They all work about the same. Personally, I prefer lifestyles or trojan. ... (read in full...)
How do I know that he loves gay sex?
Q. hiya,, I've got a problem mates.Any help plz. I love such a handsome guy older than me 4 years. I love love love him so much. I'm in doubt that he loves me. He is chatting only with me in class.having coffee time 2gather.He sometimes put his ha...
A. 26 March 2009: Tell him you like him. And see what happens. ... (read in full...)
Will he come back for me?
Q. Backgrounder: My ex boyfriend and I had been together since my birthday three years ago. We met at my b-day party, and hit it off really quickly. Before that point, we did not know each other. My ex moved in about a week later after that p...
A. 26 March 2009: Ok. Here's another attempt to help readers make sense of my relationship...
A) My ex and I shared a love with each other, that was long lasting and reciprocal. It still is there. However, he recently left his job (that he was working througho... (read in full...)
Will he come back for me?
Q. Backgrounder: My ex boyfriend and I had been together since my birthday three years ago. We met at my b-day party, and hit it off really quickly. Before that point, we did not know each other. My ex moved in about a week later after that p...
A. 26 March 2009: I think you misread what I posted.... (read in full...)
We get along perfectly but I don't know if he's the one
Q. I don't know if my bf and I are working anymore. Our long-distance relationship has drug on for a year and a half now and we've broken up more times than I can count. He loves me so much and he treats me so well. He always says he doesn't think he ...
A. 26 March 2009: Hey superconfused88,
Let me first say, that Jealousy is the highest form of flattery. He is jealous because he loves you; and he is possessive, because he doesn't want to lose you.
However, I wouldn't marry him quite yet - and it sounds like y... (read in full...)
I want to have plastic surgery on my breasts
Q. I know this is a very random question.... Lately i have been thinking how uncomfortable with my boobs..i want to go and have plastic surgery (stupid idea..i know) on the nipple area..so tonight i took some pictures of them to see if they are ...
A. 26 March 2009: At your age, it would be worth waiting to let your breasts fully grow in before pursuing cosmetic surgery. Perhaps there are still some changes that need to take place.
Talk to your GP doctor and let them assess your issues properly.
If anyt... (read in full...)
Fingering & virginity!
Q. After my boyfriend finger me, i had been pleasuring me with my fingers and i had introduced them to my vagina, i had never had sex before so i am wondering if i am still a virgen or if when i decide to have sex my bf would be able to notice it?...
A. 26 March 2009: Some would say that, if your hymen is broken, you are no longer a virgin. ... (read in full...)
In love with older woman but we kinda screwed things up
Q. I've been seeing this woman who about 11 years older than me for about 15 months now. She been divorced for a year now. When started are relationship everything was great. On weekends when she didn't have her kids she would stay about the whole ...
A. 26 March 2009: So what answer are you looking for?
I think that perhaps you should move on. While she is just rebounding, you are getting used. ... (read in full...)
Should I pack up his stuff and forget him?
Q. Hey all, My boyfriend and I had a great three year relationship going. I was his first true love, and things were heading toward commitment. Nothing seemed amiss. However, out of the blue, he just stopped wanting to be with me. He moved out of t...
A. 8 March 2009: I think I agree with you, its time to move on.
I just kinda wish that it never got to this point. I've invested so much of my life in this relationship, that the possibility of another relationship with anyone may be years away.
Do you have a... (read in full...)
I've been eyeing this girl and can't stop thinking about her
Q. i need help aunts there's this girl i've been eying and i cant stopp thinking about her, what can i do to get her to notice me...i dont know why but all of a sudden i get a wave full of feelings towards her and i 've never felt this way before.....
A. 8 March 2009: Just be honest.
It is scary sometimes to do this, but your honesty will go much farther to strengthen your relationship as friends or as more.
Find the time to speak to her in private, make sure its in person, and just tell her that, for th... (read in full...)
Is gold root safe or dangerous for a 26 year old man to use
Q. I'm a 26 year old man who was wondering how you can get hold of gold root and also wondering is it safe to take. I've heard it's meant to be a safe alternative to viagra....
A. 24 February 2009: they tend to make them wider in all directions, not just in length. I know that I have to wear a larger condom to accomodate...... (read in full...)
Is gold root safe or dangerous for a 26 year old man to use
Q. I'm a 26 year old man who was wondering how you can get hold of gold root and also wondering is it safe to take. I've heard it's meant to be a safe alternative to viagra....
A. 22 February 2009: If you do not wish to speak to a doctor, consider purchasing a larger condom size as well. You could be constricting your penis too much, and thus reducing blood flow, and thus reducing your erection. ... (read in full...)
Is gold root safe or dangerous for a 26 year old man to use
Q. I'm a 26 year old man who was wondering how you can get hold of gold root and also wondering is it safe to take. I've heard it's meant to be a safe alternative to viagra....
A. 22 February 2009: At 26, you shouldnt require any product like Viagra.
Speak to your health care professional. ... (read in full...)
When on a break, is sex outside of a relationship ok?
Q. Dear Uncles and Aunts, etc. My relationship is starting to gear back to normal; however, I have to be patient until my lover returns to me in August. Knowing that we are getting back together has been a great relief. However, I am struggling to ho...
A. 22 February 2009: We spoke again this evening, and I spoke about my feelings, with the support of this community behind me, and how it would be best for me to say no to his request.
Instead, I now might head out there for a month, and work on maintaining what we ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and when should I take a test?
Q. I have been taking the combined pill, but there have been days where I have taken it late or missed on. I had unprotected sex with my partner and now we are worried that there could be a possibility of me being pregnant. Unfortunately it was not ...
A. 22 February 2009: Wait for a period. If you miss your cycle... Right away. ... (read in full...)
When on a break, is sex outside of a relationship ok?
Q. Dear Uncles and Aunts, etc. My relationship is starting to gear back to normal; however, I have to be patient until my lover returns to me in August. Knowing that we are getting back together has been a great relief. However, I am struggling to ho...
A. 22 February 2009: Thanks all. ... (read in full...)
Am I totally wrong for not being forgiven?
Q. If you expect your friend to be a perfectionist and a true friend, would you not have to be the same? My friend was going through some issues in her life. from this point on, she would cancel plans on me, or if I wanted to invite her to spend ti...
A. 22 February 2009: Your friend is likely overwhelmed by her personal issues, and this could be depressing or embarrassing for her. What she doesn't need is more things to overwhelm her. I applaud you giving her some time, but insist that you don't push the issue ... (read in full...)
She's muslim and she's lesbian AND she's unhappy because of the flack she gets off her family!
Q. I have a girlfriend. She is so special to me, she is my everything. We have been through so much together. I love her and she loves me. There is only one problem. She is a muslim, so it is frowned upon on her religeon to be a lesbian. Most ...
A. 22 February 2009: Hi Tuyen,
Thank you for your question.
Its challenging to deal with others ethics and morals when they are different from your own. Given that this is the case, its unlikely you will be able to sway her mom's opinion based upon her religio... (read in full...)
My manager doesn't want a girlfriend but flirts with me and texts, what shall I do?
Q. we both have been flirting with each other and we started doing stuff but stopped as he dont want a girlfriend yet but then we started having fun again and we are supposed to be friends and then we stopped it again and he stopped texting me and then...
A. 22 February 2009: I was always taught to "never stick my pen in the company ink."
I think this advice applies, despite the fact its cliche.... (read in full...)
Will this always hurt her?
Q. hiya :) well am 14 and i dont really no how to say this so here goes....... my gf of 2 and a half months is 15 and im 14, we have played around and stuff but ive never actually fingered her. i was wondering if i fingered her properly would i...
A. 22 February 2009: If it hurt her the first time, that is normal.
It could also hurt her subsequent times.
Assuming she was a virgin this time, you would have ruptured her hymen. It could also have bled. But yes, that would hurt her. So would the stretching s... (read in full...)
Irritated by my sister in law's behaviour!
Q. hi, i am a male of 26 yrs not married n my sister in law is 24 yrs. my sister in law is acting strange towards me. she is married to my elder brother. the problem is that she teases me very often which is embarrassing. the other day when i was goi...
A. 22 February 2009: I don't question if she loves your brother, however her advances are incorrect toward you. Whether or not you have done anything she perceives as flirting, it is important to confront the behaviour, despite how embarrassing it could be for you... (read in full...)
Is it worth my time waiting for my ex to return?
Q. Dear readership, I am/was in a 3 year long relationship that has had its ups and downs over the years. My partner and I have always recovered from the little fights we have that bring our relationship down; however, this last one might be the one...
A. 22 February 2009: UPDATE: So we have spoken and it sounds like we are going to get back together in August. So the question now is how do I find the patience to hold out for my lover to return, and not have my feelings fade? / not feel so lonely? And I gue... (read in full...)
Is it worth my time waiting for my ex to return?
Q. Dear readership, I am/was in a 3 year long relationship that has had its ups and downs over the years. My partner and I have always recovered from the little fights we have that bring our relationship down; however, this last one might be the one...
A. 20 February 2009: Thank you for your advice aphex.
I will wait out the storm.
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Today we had a phone call together, that tied up some loose ends... they are finally listening to my needs. I'll post where it leads.
Peace!... (read in full...)
Is it worth my time waiting for my ex to return?
Q. Dear readership, I am/was in a 3 year long relationship that has had its ups and downs over the years. My partner and I have always recovered from the little fights we have that bring our relationship down; however, this last one might be the one...
A. 20 February 2009: I guess I will have to wait it out until they are willing to talk then.
Thank you for your reply.
(I know close to 500 words is like a novel on here...)... (read in full...)
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