I don't feel as bad as I should after this huge loss, has anyone been through anything like this before? Any advice for me?
Q. Today my girlfriend and our 3 month old baby girl died in a car accident. Everyone is feeling so sorry for me. I'm sad but I don't want people feeling bad for me. My mom is saying that i'm in Denial. I don't really think I am. Anyway, so i'm ...
A. 10 January 2011: I'm so sorry to hear about your huge loss, what a terrible thing to happen.
I think perhaps the situation hasn't quite sunk in yet as it has only happened today. Our bodies have a number of hidden defence mechanisms to protect us from psycholo... (read in full...)
Urinary tract infections
Q. okay so I gotta question about Urinary Track Infections... well I'm going on like my 3rd one!!! does anybody know how to not get them?? I was told to drink ALOT of water and not alot of dark soda, well that hasn't worked. Could I get some help?...
A. 12 August 2010: I am a sufferer or the dreaded UTI. Its not fun at all especcially if they're re-occurring!
I do recommend you take a visit to your GP who will ask you to give them a sample of your pee (you obviously do this in private) and they can check fo... (read in full...)
Should I do what's best for me, or what's right?
Q. To get right down to it, I am in love with a guy and I am 100 percent sure I would like to spend the rest of my life with him. We dated, broke up, dated again, and broke up because he could never make up his mind whether or not he wanted to be with ...
A. 12 August 2010: I think you should definitely end the relationship with your current boyfriend because you are stringing him along, he clearly has strong feelings towards you from what you've written, its just not fair on him.
As for your ex, I'm not sure whe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's overprotective family!
Q. So, I have have a boyfriend, and we're both in love. The only thing that is making out relationship hard his his over protective mom and grandparents. A few days ago I was hanging out with him and his friend in my boyfriends sun room, and we wer...
A. 12 August 2010: I suggest that you repect his families wishes while you are in their house as you are only 13-15 and they have full control over what your boyfriend is and isn't allowed to do in their home.
I know it may be frustrating but save the kissing,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me, do I tell him I know?
Q. On saturday i was hanging out with my boyfriend and he asked me what i was doing that night, i assumed that i would be with him that night because he had gone out with his friends the night before. But he said that he was going out for dinner with ...
A. 30 April 2010: Wow, I cannot believe how similar your relationship is with what I had with my ex! It actually sounded like you were describing our relationship! Spooky!
Coming from someone that's been in the exact same situation, I'm going to tell you that he ... (read in full...)
Move on or try to win him back?
Q. im really suffering because it may sound stupid but im madly in love with my ex who i havnt even spoke to or seen for 2 years but its getting me so down we were so close and went through a rough break up wich shocked every one please give me advice ...
A. 23 April 2010: Its been 2 years now, he obviously doesn't want you back otherwise he would have tried to contact you by now. The best thing for you to do is move on, try to meet new people, go out with your friends, start a new hobby! You're too young to be wast... (read in full...)
I'm cheating with my girlfriends best friend.
Q. I've been cheating on girlfriend and feel so bad. Its about a million times worse because I'm doing it with her best friend. The fact that she cheated on me a few months ago isn't making me feel better. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for ...
A. 19 April 2010: Well to be honest I do admire you for telling her the truth. It is a lot harder to actually do than say. A lot of people would opt for the cowards way out and do a runner or not tell her at all and let it carry on! So well done for doing the right ... (read in full...)
I'm about to get caught out for lying to my girlfriend.
Q. I'm going to make this short, Recently I told my girlfriend I've been going to Painting class when I have really been drinking with my friends and just doing guy stuff, Anyhow She wants too see some of my work, Well I cant paint at all, I See this ...
A. 9 April 2010: That's a pretty inventive lie! However, I hope this shows you that lying will always come back and bite you in the behind. I think you should come clean with her and tell her. Say that you needed some time to yourself and to be with your friend... (read in full...)
Five days late -- could I be pregnant?
Q. On 4th march I had my period. But this month it had been 9th of april but still I didn't get period. Am I pregnant ? How can I be sure ? There are some test strips available in market. Are they good to be believed ? Well they give right result ? I ...
A. 9 April 2010: Home pregnancy tests are very accurate if you follow the instructions correctly. They are as accurate as the tests used by health professionals. However, if you don't follow the instructions properly, or take the test too early, the result may not ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating with my girlfriends best friend.
Q. I've been cheating on girlfriend and feel so bad. Its about a million times worse because I'm doing it with her best friend. The fact that she cheated on me a few months ago isn't making me feel better. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for ...
A. 9 April 2010: You've only been together for 9 months and you're already cheating on eachother, there's no point in even trying to carry on with this relationship.
Stop seeing her and you'll have to stop sleeping with her best friend too. You can't carry on... (read in full...)
Should I keep my relationship with my boyfriend who cheated?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend and I don't know what to do because he asked me to forgive him and he said that he won't do this anymore.Should I trust him? Are men worth of trust?...
A. 9 April 2010: Of course some men are trust worthy as are some women. However, this guy is not! Cheating on you period should be your cue to leave but cheating on you with your bestfriend is beyond forgiveness in my opinion. You're too young to be putting up wi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is talking to his ex behind my back!
Q. Okay this girl messaged me on myspace saying she was a friend of my bf's ex. She was telling me how he was calling her and messaging her on myspace saying how he missed her but he wants to keep it from me till he is ready to tell me. I didn't want ...
A. 14 December 2009: I believe that your gut instinct is usually correct, so follow it.
I do think that this seems fishy and if you've seen the messages yourself then you have the proof that he's not being true to you. Who cares if you haven't seen anything for 2 mo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is talking to his ex behind my back!
Q. Okay this girl messaged me on myspace saying she was a friend of my bf's ex. She was telling me how he was calling her and messaging her on myspace saying how he missed her but he wants to keep it from me till he is ready to tell me. I didn't want ...
A. 14 December 2009: I believe that your gut instinct is usually correct, so follow it.
I do think that this does seem fishy and if you've seen the messages yourself then you have the proof that he's not being true to you. Who cares if you haven't seen anything... (read in full...)
Help...I'm pregnant...again
Q. Ok.... Well me and my Boyfriend have been dating alil longer then 4months... yesterday i found out i was pregnant... Scared shitless and verry unexpected... but we were taking the risk im not on birth control and he hated condoms... so we used the ...
A. 14 December 2009: Well if neither of you were ready for a baby then why the hell would you have unprotected sex?! That's just beyond me.
In the back of both of your minds you must have known this could happen so you have no excuse.
I do however, admire ... (read in full...)
I want to experiment more buy my g/f says its too weird
Q. Ok, i have been wanting to ask fro some advice. My girlfriend of about 10 months barely gave me my and her first hand job about a week ago, and it was also the first time i rubbed/fingered a girl and it was her first time too. She ended up liking ...
A. 14 December 2009: As the aunt said below, she has told you she's not ready for that yet so do not push her into it. There's nothing worse than for a young teen being pushed into something sexual they have said they are not ready for.
Respect her wishes and be conte... (read in full...)
Help, I think I have a tampon lost inside me!
Q. Ok so like 3 days ago i was on the last day of my period and had in a light tampon, I got extremely drunk later on that night and had sex with my guy friend.. I don't remember if I took my tampon out or not, and my guy friend was just as drunk as me ...
A. 14 December 2009: If the doctor said there was nothing there then I wouldn't worry about it too much, they do tend to know what they're talking about. It would be very hard to push a saturated tampon (assuming it was because you'd put it in earlier that night) past ... (read in full...)
He is not in the mood for sex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half but the past few months we have been long distance because I have been away at school. I came home about a week and a half ago after not seeing him for weeks and we had sex the first three ...
A. 14 December 2009: I think looking at escort websites definitely crosses the line and you acted very rationally for breaking up with him.
Usually I say to trust your gut feeling because its normally correct no matter how much you don't want to believe it. His excu... (read in full...)
I like this girl and am not sure if I should let her know I want to be more than friends
Q. I have this friend, I liked her a lot for some time and I eventually told her, but she had already gotten a boyfriend and sort of friendzoned me. I stopped all kinds of contact with her for around five months. Two months ago we saw each other at a ...
A. 14 December 2009: What do you want to tell her? That you don't want to be best friends with her or that you want to be more than friends?
If you want to tell her that you like her still then you will have to be ready for her to feel awkward around you or even pus... (read in full...)
I want to trust him, but I also don't want to look like a fool
Q. My boyfriend told me he had a past of cheating not long after we got together. We've been together for over two years now. Throughout his twenties, he always had at least three girls at a time. There have been deaths, etc in his family that have had ...
A. 10 December 2009: I think these thoughts will always be in the back of your mind but you have to make the decision as to whether you want to listen to them or not.
My boyfriend does have a past of cheating on his girlfriends and I knew that before I got into a r... (read in full...)
Is it odd that he is going to his ex-wife's house for Christmas when they supposedly hate each other?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I've posted on her before and got some really helpful advice so I'm back for more! I split up with my partner about 6 months ago (after 7 years together). He walked out after us having many problems and I was upset...
A. 10 December 2009: In my opinion, I think this seems fairly normal. Its christmas day and he gets the chance to spend it with his son rather than be on his own. Who wouldn't take the opportunity while the offer's there?
My boyfriend's dad has been given an invite t... (read in full...)
Is not being able to get over a crush normal? How do I get over him?
Q. i reallllllly like a guy that is a known flirt. i dont want to be in a relationship with him cuz he is a known cheater. but at nights i still dream about him and i still check his acebook statuses and stuff. is this healthy will this help me get ...
A. 30 November 2009: Its very normal to have a crush on someone and in my experience, it seems to intensify when you know you can't have them. However, the things that you are doing are not helping you get over him at all. You need to try and forget about him, not be ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you're REALLY in love?
Q. How do you know if your in love? I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months, we always say how much we love each other... but how do I know if I'm in love? It sounds like a silly uestion because I do believe I'm in love with him as I always want him ...
A. 18 November 2009: I think AskEve's answer is very nicely put.
I'd also like to add that when you truely are in love, you will never have to ask yourself this question.... (read in full...)
How do I keep my boyfriend happy?
Q. hey i have been with my boyfriend seven months now, but i have known him for years... we both love each other and are very close, i can be myself around him. but sometimes i feel that i could be boring him, do you have any tips on how to keep hold ...
A. 18 November 2009: I believe the key to any long term relationship is communication. Talk to him, see if there's anything he would like to do with you. Make sure you redularly do things together, go to the movies, bowling, take walks, go to lunch. Don't just sit at ... (read in full...)
He's introduced me to his family. Does that mean he's serious about me?
Q. Why would a guy introduce you too his family and bring you around them? I personally wouldn't bring any guys around my family unless I was planning to keep him around. The reason I asked is because I met all my ex boyfriend's family and was always ...
A. 18 November 2009: Personally, I bring any guy I'm seeing once it goes past the first few months or so to meet my mum. I tend to do it out of respect for my mum then anything else.
He may not have thought of you as serious but perhaps his family were pushing ... (read in full...)
What to do when the ex who messed you about wants you back? I never got over him!
Q. what do you do when you were with you're ex boyfriend for nearly 2 years, so in love.. but it all fell apart, because of his mistakes, he changed, started to treat me horribly, messed me about and so on.. nearly a year down the line after breaking ...
A. 18 November 2009: Ex partners are exes for a reason. And clearly these were good reasons.
Don't take him back, he had his chance with you and he blew it. You are too young to be going back to a boy who treated you badly. You need to move forward and meet new peop... (read in full...)
Is he interested or just blowing me off?
Q. I met M two weeks ago through a common friend of ours. He liked me and I liked him but nothing happened. A few days later we were talking on facebook and he suggested we go have drinks. We finally went out on a date and in the end he ended up coming ...
A. 18 November 2009: He might genuinely be a very busy person. I used to have a boyfriend who had a lot of commitments outside of work and our relationship and I didn't get to see him that often.
That being said, I wouldn't get your hopes up too much just incase h... (read in full...)
How should I explain how much this bothers me?
Q. Okay my husband of 2 weeks is in nursing school. He started last May. Now before this I never looked at his phone he never took care in keeping it on him. He never really got texts unless I sent them. Things were smooth sailing. So about 3 weeks ago ...
A. 18 November 2009: These texts do seem innocent as you have admitted yourself.
However, as you are uncomfortable with them you should talk to him about it, after all you are married. Maybe ask him to keep the texts strictly about his classes and for no uneccess... (read in full...)
I want to stop cheating but my boyfriend doesn't satisfy me sexually!
Q. hi evry one i have a serious problem,my boyfriend have got sex problem first i thought may it was me then i cheated with another guy but dat guy was fine.i love him and i want to stop cheating but my problem is he don't satsfy me,i have tried ...
A. 18 November 2009: If he has never been able to keep hard whilst having sex then he could have a problem. I would suggest you speak to him and ask him to get himself checked out.
However, you clearly know cheating is not the answer here. So I would suggest for you ... (read in full...)
I realised I couldnt trust my boyfriend but only after we had unprotected sex! How do I move on from this?
Q. I feel completely betrayed. I was dating a guy for six months and thought i could trust him. He started doing things that made me believe otherwise. So I broke it off, then I realized we had sex a couple of times throughout our relationship ...
A. 18 November 2009: Firstly, don't panick yourself about the results until you get them. I'm sure you'll be fine but you can't change what's been done now so don't start to worry until you know for sure.
Secondly, there are many men who you will be able to trust, n... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be unhappy with my girlfriend performing Burlesque shows?
Q. hi recenty my girlfriend started doing burlesque shows. i think it's just a way for her to get on stage and strip to her under wear and talk dirty with a room full of strangers. is it wrong that i don't like it, i haven't told her out right ca...
A. 18 November 2009: No I don't think you are wrong for not being happy with this. Its a very natural reaction.
However, you need to tell her how you feel about it. You need to explain why you don't like it so she can understand.
If she then continues to dan... (read in full...)
Overly jealous fiance???
Q. Why does my fiance keep wanting to know about my past. He wants to know was he the first to finger me, had I ever had sex before and such. I don't understand how my past has any effect on me and him. He refuses to accept that he is my first and he ...
A. 18 November 2009: I don't think couples should ever divulge so deeply into eachother's past. As long as you know they don't have any diseases that will effect you then why would you want to know details of who, where, why and how they had sex with others? Its a ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend not care any more?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we've gone through some tough and good times. Like at first he was the one that was all over me, telling me how much he liked me and so on. And I was always the 'mean' one if you will. But then he kinda ...
A. 18 November 2009: When you both got back together, he should have expected that you would be insecure and try everything he could to show you that you can trust him again. If he did the dirty but still wanted to be with you then he shoudn't have expected any less.
... (read in full...)
Make up sex! Is this normal?
Q. Why is it that every single time that me and my fiance have a falling out we always end up having make-up sex? I've told him before that I think he chooses to bring up an argument a lot of times is just so we can have sex. And sometimes this makes ...
A. 18 November 2009: I don't agree that make-up sex is a "manipulative" act. In my opinion its is the best thing about fighting! :)
Aslong as the argument is resolved before you have sex then I don't see any harm in it.
However, if you are ONLY having sex after... (read in full...)
He wants me to change everything about myself!!!
Q. I'm 19 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have a baby together but I'm not sure if he still loves me or not?? He tells me that i need to change and dont know what i need to change?? When i ask him he tells me "everyth...
A. 18 November 2009: You need to sit down and have a proper adult conversation with him and ask specifically what he wants you to change because "everything" is completely vague and a very childish thing to say.
If he really does want you to change everything about yo... (read in full...)
Why would she still want to be friends after we broke up?
Q. Hey, i just got out of a relationship about 3 1/2 months ago and just talked to my ex today. it was casual and she told me about her new boyfriend. It didnt really bother me as much as i thought until she said that she was completely over me. i was ...
A. 18 November 2009: You seem to be dealing well with the break up without speaking to her. You are clearly not completely over her yet so I would suggest you do not contact her until you feel as though you are.
I don't think it is possible to be friends with an ex un... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over my ex?
Q. my girlfriend ended our long term relationship 2 months ago and i'm still struggling to get over it. We live in a village/small town and so I do occasionally bump into her. Because of this we have kept in contact - maybe once a week/fortnight w...
A. 17 November 2009: Personally, I don't think you can be friends with an ex until you have completely got over them. So cut contact with her, give yourself time to heal.
It will be hard bumping into her every now and then, however when you do be civil, say hello bu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him, but I'm not, what do I do?
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 8 months. We've been through our ups and downs like most couples but essentially we're very strong. But now I have a big problem. One of his so called friends told him that I was messing him about...
A. 17 November 2009: What made his friend tell him these lies? Does his friend have suspicions or has this come out of no-where?
If there is absolutely no proof of you cheating and your boyfriend has never suspected this in the past then hopefully he will come to ... (read in full...)
I'm not happy in my relationship. How can I talk to him about my feelings?
Q. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME! I'm feeling really down at the minute and i think it may be because of my relationship. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and im only 19 so i know anything can happen and there are plenty of more fish in the...
A. 17 November 2009: You need to talk to him again. You can't carry on in a relationship you are just not happy in. Choose your words carefully to try and limit his crying. However, he probably will still get upset because its never easy to hear your partner is not h... (read in full...)
How can I make our relationship work and get him to trust me?
Q. I don't know what to do, i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i realised how big a mistake i'd made and left him straight away. i talked to my boyfriend and he ...
A. 17 November 2009: This is a hard situation. As you really have dug your own grave. Cheating so early on in a relationship tends to kill any trust before it really starts.
Some relationships can get over infidelity but it depends on the people involved. If he still... (read in full...)
Do I believe that he has learnt his lesson? Or should I walk away?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a year but a few days ago two girls came to me and told me they had been sleeping with him. i truely love him and i dont doubt how he feels for me but i just cant believe he has done this to me. we had been arguing ...
A. 17 November 2009: He has admitted to cheating, these aren't just rumours. He has done this many more times than just a one off. So no I don't believe he'll change and you shouldn't either.
The way he has behaved is appalling. Instead of trying to patch things u... (read in full...)
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