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writes: I've been cheating on girlfriend and feel so bad. Its about a million times worse because I'm doing it with her best friend. The fact that she cheated on me a few months ago isn't making me feel better. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 9 months now. I was never really attracted to her friend, we would chat regularly on facebook and msn and had a bit of harmless flirting, no more than that. Then one day a few weeks ago the three of us were due to go out shopping together. My girlfriend was also due to have a doctor's appointment that day and to save time I would wait at her house, in which her friend also lives, so we were alone together. One thing led to another and suddenly we were all over each other. We went upstairs tore off our clothes and had rough, passionate sex. I dont know what it was but it felt so right. Afterwards it felt so awkward being in the same room as her but soon I couldn't get her out of my head! We've been seeing each other in secret for the last two weeks, meeting up whilst my girlfriend is at work. At first it was great but now I feel terrible, should I tell my girlfriend whats been going on? Because at the moment I feel so guilty I can't even look at her.
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reader, BlueBag  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Well to be honest I do admire you for telling her the truth. It is a lot harder to actually do than say. A lot of people would opt for the cowards way out and do a runner or not tell her at all and let it carry on! So well done for doing the right thing in the end.
I hope you really do learn from all of this and make wiser decisions in the future.
Good luck.
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reader, LoveGirl  +, writes (12 April 2010):
Said as a matter of fact: any regrets: any idea whether you will cheat again : what does the ex bes friend say: how does she face her friend : in the end you got what you deserved, you did not love her, you were havoing sex with her and her best friend, you lied and perhaps destroyed her relationship with her best friend: as a said matter of fact, but when you lie and hurt people and just shrug your shoulders and move on, speaks volumes of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys,
well I did what most of you have been saying and told my girlfriend what was going on. unsurprisingly she was fuming and she dumped me on the spot. i'm not looking for sympathy or anything, its what i deserve although she did say later on it was brave of me to tell her the truth. as for the best friend its too early to tell whats gonna happen to their relationship, theyre still living in that house together although im not sure how thats still happening after whats gone on, but we're obviously gonna stop seeing each other. as for me theres nothing to do but move on and learn from this, thanks for all your help guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): Hey ive done the same but my boyfriend best mate is my ex.to be honest i would not tell them that you have been seein her best mate, cause she will turn against you and her best friend and that can turn out quite bad.what im doing now is im gonna end it with my boyfriend and hopefully he never finds out with me and his mate also if you and her bestfriend are still together i would keep it a secret untill shes got over you.hope this helps :) good luck. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): Talk about dysfunctional! Just come clean and break up. At least she had the descency to tell you that she cheated. As for the "best" friend: I have a slew of things to say to her but I'm sure they would get edited. My best friend would cut off her pinky finger before she would sleep with my boyfriend, and vice versa! Obviously this whole triangle of deciet is not working, so let her dump you and the "pal". Maybe then you and the friend could have your own dysfunctional relationship. Then when the friend cheats on you I hope you learn your lesson about cheaters!
Good point, Celiaaletta.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 April 2010):
If you've only been going out for 9 months and you're both cheating on each other, then end it and move on now. This is a dead relationship.
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reader, BlueBag +, writes (9 April 2010):
You've only been together for 9 months and you're already cheating on eachother, there's no point in even trying to carry on with this relationship.
Stop seeing her and you'll have to stop sleeping with her best friend too. You can't carry on doing this because its very likely you will all end up getting very hurt.
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reader, Isa123  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 My ex left me for my best friend. The pain is awful. Two blows from a boyfriend AND best friend.What you're doing in infact, an awful thing. But when my ex ended with me, I was grateful in the end that he did it now rather than later. I was grateful that he came out and told me what happened and left me. I was with him for four years.She cheated on you. You cheated on her. Talk to her. It seems like the more you do it, the more deep it will become. She will eventually find out. I bet you now she is starting to suspect.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (9 April 2010):
 If you feel so bad, why do you keep doing it? You're doing it to get revenge on your girlfriend for cheating, and her friend is sleeping with you because she's a skank. This situation is so messed up; just break up with your girlfriend and move on. It's only been 9 months, so it's not like you've invested a lifetime in this relationship.
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