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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I feel completely betrayed. I was dating a guy for six months and thought i could trust him. He started doing things that made me believe otherwise. So I broke it off, then I realized we had sex a couple of times throughout our relationship without a condom. Now I'm driving myself crazy thinking that I was not only not able to trust him but what he informed me about his sexual history could have also been untrue!(i've gotten tested but havent gotten the results back). Now I'm worried he could have given me something and since we are not speaking anymore I can't even talk to him! I just don't think I can trust anyone and I feel like I'm being punished for letting my guard down and sleeping with him without a condom. I feel like screaming, but how can I get over this feeling of being abandoned i've never realized how hard and hurtful it can be to deal with an untrustworthy boyfriend but I pray I am fine and god willing I am and once I find out I'm fine, how do I move on from this?
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reader, eddy_nicolas  +, writes (18 November 2009):
well,
do not panic yourself till u will get the results.u could receive good news or bad news.you can consider this as life experience.everybody can do mistakes.the most important thing is to learn from them a lesson.i know that you have learnt your lesson,but that doesnt meant to stay locked.be positive!you will find a nice guy.its obvious that he didnt deserve you.you are a nice person and he took advantage of this situation.Just believe in yourself.everything is gonna be alright!
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reader, BlueBag +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Firstly, don't panick yourself about the results until you get them. I'm sure you'll be fine but you can't change what's been done now so don't start to worry until you know for sure.
Secondly, there are many men who you will be able to trust, not all guys are cheaters. When you next get into a relationship, make sure you keep using a condom. Once you've been together for a while and trust him completely, why don't you both take a trip together and get tested before you start sleeping with him without a condom?
I'm not going to sit here and patronize you about the use of condoms and risk of STD's and pregnancy because you are old enough to know all of that.
I'm sure you will learn from your mistake and make the right choices next time.
Keep your chin up and find a trustworthy guy, he's out there :)
Keep us updated. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): "I realized we had sex a couple of times throughout our relationship without a condom."
What do you mean you realised?
Where you not there?
It is not just your boyfriends job it's both of yours to use a condom
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