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female
age
30-35,
*azpberry
writes:Hey cupid, I've been having a problem reaching orgasm during sex for quite a while now. I've only ever reached orgasm twice during sex and with my current boyfriend I'm finding it pretty stressful because I want to make sure he knows that I'm enjoying it (and also, I'd quite like to reach the big O with him)! I think the major causes of the problem are issues with self esteem and confidence that i've had for a good few years, so I'm finding it hard to loosen up and relax. Any tips? Thanks, Razzzzzzzpberry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): I have had the same problem. Sometimes i can only reach o if i am stimulated other ways. (clitoris stimulation works better for me than intercorse). So don't be afraid to ask to try new things and find something that works for u
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 FWIW I do not orgasm during intercourse and I still enjoy it very very much....
stop trying so hard....
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reader, belize +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Relax and let go!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Not everyone will agree with this, but it might help, have you tried having a drink before? Just one glass of wine, or a cocktail or something, can help you relax a bit and let go of the inhibitions and body hangups you might otherwise have... I dont orgasm when Im drunk very well, but one drink can help a lot! If not then for me either oral from him with a fingers penetration or him penetrating me, with my finger on my clit, but under his hand, so hes controlling the speed and pressure but it gets more clit stimulation... and as for penetrative sex orgasms, it might sound weird but if you are both shaved or very neatly trimmed and then some lube on your clit area and missionary position works a treat for me! I know this is graphic but it wont let me send it as a PM sorry! :)
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