My looks scare peple, how do I get people to accept me for who I am?
Q. Dear Friends. I'm keeping this short, so just multiply everything I say by 35 years and you'll understand how I feel about this problem. I have Cerebral Palsy. How this comes out in me is in my face, I look like a reject from one of Freddy...
A. 25 April 2006: That is terrible! people can be so cruel sometimes. I know it seems difficult at the moment but when you start liking yourself for who you really are then you wont let what others say bother you. Its not whats on the outside, its whats on the inside ... (read in full...)
How can I forget about my wife's past?
Q. My wife has had vaginal intercourse (about 48 times with three guys, 6+12+30), anal intercourse (one time each with two guys), and/or oral sex (about twenty five times from four guys) with six men other than me. She has given manual and/or oral sex ...
A. 20 December 2005: Everyone has a past, either let go if it, or let go of her, if you dont let go of HER past then your relationship wont work anyway. I think its time you decide. I know its not nice, knowing about what she got up to but thats why the past should stay ... (read in full...)
So many little suspicions... I think my girlfriend is cheating on me!
Q. Hi, I was wondering if someone could give me some advice as i think my girlfriend is cheating on me. First of all she won't let me see what she is talking about in msn to one of her friends - girly talk! If I try, then she flips out. Also...
A. 19 December 2005: it sounds like she is cheating on you, tell her that things have changed between you two and that you deserve better than to be treated like this. If she loved you she would understand. If things dont change, i would leave the relationship, i know ... (read in full...)
My bf lies, he cheats and he's selfish-how do I get him to change for the good?
Q. Hi I am a 24 year old mother of one.I am in a relationship that is going through many problems.My boyfriend is more about himself then anybody else.He has lied to me so many times in the past one particular time involving another female.I am a very ...
A. 29 November 2005: you cant change a person im afraid, be honest with the way you are feeling, tell him how he makes you feel. He will no doubt, give you an answer and depending on what it is, then you can make your decision but my thoughts are, if you dont love him ... (read in full...)
We're still engaged but his family doesn't like me-part II
Q. Continued from NOV. 28..."we're engaged but his family doesn't like me"....Yes, he has problems with his sister and dad. The thing is that his sister knew my brother, my brother drank and everything, so she thinks that I am like my brother. I ...
A. 29 November 2005: Tell them to grow up! you are not your brother you are you! tell them that wether they like it or not, you love him and you are going to be together for a long time so wether they like it or not they are going to have to deal with it. ... (read in full...)
He's never said he loves me-is there a way to find out?
Q. Does he love me or not? I'm 25, bf 24. We're in grad school together, dating for 10 mos (incl 3 long-distance, while he was in Eur. over the summer and I in NY), friends 4 mos before dating. I've had 2 very serious relationships, both of which la...
A. 29 November 2005: It doesnt mean that he doesnt, it might be that he is waiting for you to say it. Why dont you just bite the bullett and say "i love you" first. If you are comfortable around eachother then you can be honest. Otherwise, why not just ask him if he is ... (read in full...)
My bf's mate is so hot and I'm tempted to cheat.
Q. Ok. my boyfriend doesn't pressure me to have sex, we're rather content in our relationship, I'm VERY infatuated with him, but his friend and I are more in sync, I really have the hots for this friend, he understands me, he's hot and he's really ...
A. 29 November 2005: I am in the same position, i fancy the pants off of my boyfriends friend, he is gorgeous! we see him alot because he has lots of mates who are also my friends whom i get on very well with but i really like him, alot, i know exactly how your feeling ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you have fallen out of love?
Q. how do you know if u hv feelings for someone? and how do you know when you've fallen out of love?...
A. 28 November 2005: you just know. Someimtes you can love someone but not be in love with them if you know what i mean. If you are in love you just know it, theres a feeling inside you that is undeniable. If you have feelings for someone you also know. If you dont know ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for your boyfriend to go to a nightclub?
Q. When a boyfriend takes a "guys night out" and the guys go to a stripclub, do they think any less of their girlfriend when they come back? Do they compare the girls they see to their girlfriend? Is there any good way to suggest to my boyfriend that ...
A. 28 November 2005: Hello, i am sure he doesnt compare you to these girls but i wouldnt like it if my boyfriend went to one. I have been with my man for two years and if he said that he was going or had been to a strip club i wouldnt be happy at all but then my ... (read in full...)
I miss my childhood friend...but do I contact him?
Q. I have a life partner, but recently I fell in love with my childhood friend, whom I haven't heard from for over a decade. I was once in love with this friend, but we lost touch for many years. At the time, he had caused me much hurt, so when he came ...
A. 25 November 2005: If you have feelings for him then you wont be able to be JUST friends. It doesnt work like that. If you love your partner then you would not invite someone who you have seen for a decade in to your life, knowing damn well that you are attracted to ... (read in full...)
My wife had a past lover she kept a secret for eleven years
Q. about 3 weeks ago my wife told me she had slept with someone she had kept secret for eleven years.i knew how many people she had slept with , but why she never told me is a mystery , i think she done it while with me thats why the name was never ...
A. 25 November 2005: Communicate with her. Ask her if she was seeing him while being with you, its the only way you will get it out of your system, she is your wife, surely you can communicate with her? if she says that she was seeing him while with you then its your ... (read in full...)
She intentionally hurts me...what do I do?
Q. i had a good relationship from the onset. but i couldn't understand her anylonger, after which she asked me that she's not confortable with the relationship any longer.but the way i reacted by sheding tears in front of her, cos i was heartbroken by ...
A. 25 November 2005: She isnt worth your time! get rid of her or put your foot down, you need to be strong, i know its hard because you love her but you will push her away even more if you run after her, let her do the running. Go out with your friends now and again and ... (read in full...)
A guy I like is friends with my ex but will he ever be with me?
Q. A guy who I had been dating for nearly two years broke up with me, broke my heart. He instantly hooked up with his ex and moved in with her. After a few months and a rebound relationship which was fun but wasn't ever really going to work, I find ...
A. 25 November 2005: I agree with the first reply. The only reason your boyfriend should be upset or angry is if he still likes you but in saying that, men are different from women, men are very pally and being with one of your friends ex girlfriends is a crime to them! ... (read in full...)
He flirts and then is cold...does he want me or not?
Q. hey, i have an issue thats driving me mad! i started a new job a couple of months ago and met the most sweetest and gorgeous man who i now also work with, there was chemistry between us straight away! after a couple of weeks we all went out for a ...
A. 25 November 2005: He is looking for a bit of fun. Sure if you are both of age and you want the same thing then go for it and by the same thing i mean, seeing him when he wants a shag and generally just sleeping together then fine but if you dont then dont. Tell him ... (read in full...)
In the last year, my guy has changed. Suddenly, he doesn't have time for me...
Q. Help needed very sad I have been dating this guy for 3 years and everything was great. We loved each other and showed it and always made time for each other. Then this past year everything just changed suddenly. He's busy all the time and hardly ...
A. 25 November 2005: Tell him how you feel, all sounds a bit fishy to me. Be honest with him and tell him you are not waiting around any longer for him because you fell in love with the person he was not the person he is becoming. bE STRONG, IF ITS MEANT TO BE ITS MEANT ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he likes me?
Q. About a year ago I got out of a ten year relatioship with a girl. She broke my heart and now im interested in guys, a lot! I've met this guy whom i realy like, not for looks but for personality and same interests etc. He's also gay and I have a hint ...
A. 25 November 2005: Ask him out on a date. Bite the bullet and be honest with him. A few signs of attraction are if he looks at you and holds eye contact for a couple of seconds, or touches you when there realy isnt any need to. Just tell him and get it out in the ... (read in full...)
Met a great guy but my ex wants me back!
Q. Hello Cupid, Ok. My boyfriend split with me a couple of months ago. I found out he snogged another girl whilst on a stag do and he said he had been unsure of his feelings for me for about a year. He then went on to meet up with the girl he snog...
A. 25 November 2005: If you dont want him back, tell him! he was the one who cheated on you so you have no reason to feel bad. He made his bed and unfortunately he has to lay in it. Its tough luck on his part really isnt it. To be honest its quite funny, men think they ... (read in full...)
I still daydream about a guy I had a crush on in high school...
Q. I used to know a guy from school, and used to have a huge crush on him - of course he never knew that. But when I reached high school, I wasn't able to see him for years - yet I always used to think about him. Now I'm in my 20's and there's a chance ...
A. 25 November 2005: Ask him out, you are both adults now and chances are, he might like you too. If he says no then you have got your answer. If he says yes go for it. If he says no, he obviously isnt the one for you, im sure there are loads of guys out there that ... (read in full...)
He wants to touch me all the time and I need my space...what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend is a touchy-feely person, I am not. It's been relatively ok, because we haven't been in a relationship too long, but now that we've passed the 10 month mark, it's starting to get somewhat problematic. Touch is a big thing for him. He ...
A. 25 November 2005: He isnt going to change and neither are you, if you can expect eachother the way you BOTH are then the relationship wont work. Its in your genes to not be touchy feely and its in his genes to be touchy feely. There isnt alot you can do to change ... (read in full...)
She kissed someone else...what do I do?
Q. I have been going out wit my girlfriend for the past year and 2 months. I love her very very much and i did want to spend the rest of my life with her. I currently travelling round the world and she's back at home studdying at university. Im am ...
A. 25 November 2005: Tell her how you feel and tell her that it might take you some time to come to terms with the fact that she kissed someone else. She obviously loves you because she told you straight away but you are not in the wrong here, she is. Be honest with her ... (read in full...)
He said he wanted space but will he come back to me?
Q. Dear cupid, I'm frustrated and annoyed and I need someones advice as to what i should do with my situation! I've been in a committed long distance gay relationship, and it has been hard for us both, however we have remained faithful to each other ...
A. 25 November 2005: Tell him to make his decision and that you are worth more than to be kept waiting. Tell him that you love him more than anything but you are not going to be treated like a mug. Tell him to make a deicsion and that if his decision is still the same ... (read in full...)
My man never lets me forget I was with someone who was married. But that was 20 years ago!
Q. My new boyfriend loves me very much and he says I'm the perfect woman for him, apart from one thing: my past. He just can't let it lie and brings it up in a jokey way that hurts, or by going quiet. Then I have to get it out of him. I've been see...
A. 25 November 2005: tell him that its going to ruin your relationship if he keeps living in the past and that you can take it anymore. Everyone has a past. He needs to be reminded that whats in the past is excatly that.....in the past! your with him now so what does it ... (read in full...)
He drinks and does drugs and doesn't come home...what do I do?
Q. My bf goes out 1 to 2 times a week, he either doesn't come home after work or he says he will be back in an hour and doesn't show up until the next morning. If I call him he won't answer his phone and yells at me if he does. He drinks and does some ...
A. 25 November 2005: leave him, he really isnt worth it. If he loved you he wouldnt be acting like this. His behaviour is out of order. If he wants to carry on the way he is going then let him but you must walk away. He will realise what he has lost...believe me... (read in full...)
Can we be more than friends or has she gone off me?
Q. This girl who I am good friends with made it obvious that she liked me and told me not to hold back. So I asked her out but then she went all funny about it and said she liked me a lot but she doesn't want a boyfriend at the moment and that we are ...
A. 25 November 2005: Give her time, if she likes you she will realise and dont be needy either, girls dont like that, give her space and she will be all over you like a dog on heat... (read in full...)
He never gives me compliments and our sex life just depresses me...
Q. Hi I hope you can help. I've been with this guy for years now - almost 9, to be exact. We went through hell to get to where we are now; that's why I feel so hurt and rejected now. I do really love him ,not just love, but really 'in love' with him...
A. 25 November 2005: Dont blame yourself!! give yourself some credit for christ sake! its neither of your faults that sex is happening for you. Sit down with him, tell him how your feeling about it, tell him what you would like him to do to you during sex and what turns ... (read in full...)
There are five years between us. Is this OK?
Q. Is anything wrong with an 18 year old dating a 23 year old woman?...
A. 25 November 2005: There is nothing wrong with this atall. I am a 20 year old women and mym partner is a 25 year old man. There is nothing wrong with this atall. You are of age and you obviously like eachother. What has age got to do with anything? if you click ... (read in full...)
Does this guy want to meet up or not? He doesn't reply to my texts!
Q. I had been seeing a guy for about 6 weeks then all off a sudden he stopped texting me. Then I stopped texting him because he never replied. I found out he was in a car crash. He's fine. Then on 5th November he texted me, asking to meet up. Then he ...
A. 25 November 2005: He isnt worth your time, forget about him and if he does text you again, which im almost certain he will, tell him your busy or that you have got other plans, men like a chase, they dont like girls who are there at their every whim. Dont text him ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with condoms?
Q. I have recently found out that guys dont like to wear condoms by experience. Why is this?...
A. 25 November 2005: The sensation isnt as good as when they dont where one but that is no reason to not where one. Tell them if they want to be intimate with you that they have to where a condom, if they still say no then they really arent worth being in your knickers ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I'm horny!
Q. I need help! Please help me. I feel like I am going to die if I dont have sex. I can't though. I need to know another way to deal with it. Oh yeah, the reason I cant have sex is because I am 13. But no one understands how I feel....
A. 25 November 2005: Buy a vibrator. Or get someone else who you trust to buy one for you. Take your time, please yourself, touch yourself gently. When you put it inside you go slow but deep and with your other hand carress you breasts and your clitoris, be patient with ... (read in full...)
As soon as I was going to tell her I was interested in her, her boyfriend takes her on holidays!
Q. I have been friends with this girl at work for 4 years. She seems to like me. She flirts all the time with me and seems to like me. She asks me to go up to her house for coffee now and then, but the only thing is that she has a boyfriend. They only ...
A. 25 November 2005: The only way you and her are going to be together is if she decides. Her boyfriend could be the most horrible bloke in the world but until she falls out of love with him or realises what he is like she will never leave him. The best thing you can do ... (read in full...)
Help! How Can I Achieve an Orgasm without a Vibrator
Q. Although having regular sex and enjoying it very much, I seem to have a problem of actually achieving an orgasm, I get to the point of almost having one but dont quite get to the over the edge feeling. What is wrong with me and how do I sort my ...
A. 25 November 2005: Hello, using a vibrator to pleasure yourself is much the same as sex. You need to be turned on before you can have an orgasm. The best way to achieve this is to dim the lights and touch yourself to start with, push it in and out slowly but deeply ... (read in full...)
I'm with one person, but I think I might be falling for someone new!
Q. I'm in a bit of trouble you see. I'm with one but secretly falling for another. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I have been very very sad and do not know what to do. Should I stay or should I go ?...
A. 24 November 2005: Do not follow your heart, follow your head. The heart is a sensitive thing, you can sometimes feel like you really really like someone and then the feeling gets to much and you react to quickly. Think about what is right and what is wrong before you ... (read in full...)
We only have sex when he wants it, never when I do!
Q. Dear Cupid, please help, I have been in a relationship for 2 years. He says that I am paranoid all the time, but our relationship has changed on his part, he doesn't want to have sex with me, only when he wants it. He's not interested in me anymo...
A. 31 October 2005: Tell him how you feel, if things dont change then tell him you have had enough and walk away, chances are he will come back running. It will be hard but the only way to deal with this situation is to do something about it now, dont let it go on any ... (read in full...)
My ex has moved on, but I can't seem to...
Q. Hello, basically I'm a 22 year old man. I was seeing this girl for about 3 1/2 months ago. It was only a short relationship. It lasted around 2 months. It ended because I went on holiday. We never actualy slept together. The problem is I can't ...
A. 27 October 2005: To be honest, even though she has a boyfriend and it seems unfair to get in between them. If she is going to finish with him to be with you then it will happen wether you tell her your feelings or not because whats meant to be will be and sometimes ... (read in full...)
My ex has moved on, but I can't seem to...
Q. Hello, basically I'm a 22 year old man. I was seeing this girl for about 3 1/2 months ago. It was only a short relationship. It lasted around 2 months. It ended because I went on holiday. We never actualy slept together. The problem is I can't ...
A. 27 October 2005: I would be completely honest with her, tell her that you still really really like her and that she knows where you are. Tell her the truth thats all you can do. Believe me if you dont tell her you will regret it in the future, even if nothing comes ... (read in full...)
I want to settle down... or leave and have some passion in my life!
Q. Me and my partner (7 years) moved 3 months ago to a new area where we don't know anyone but are enjoying a better quality of life. He is supporting me whilst I go back to do my dream course at college. He's kept the same job but is working from ...
A. 27 October 2005: You have just answered your own question. You only get one life! make the most of it, be spontaneous!! if you truly believe that you are not going to get what you have always wanted from him then its time to get out of the relationship as hard as it ... (read in full...)
Was my friend hinting around that he's interested in me?
Q. I went out to lunch with a guy that I'm just friends with(but have suspected that he has deeper feelings for me). He started to ask me all sorts of questions, mainly about where I was going to find the guy of my dreams, and that prince charming ...
A. 27 October 2005: I am in the same position! i also have a friend that i think is interested in me but i am also interested in him so i know the feeling. I think you know the answer to this one just as i do but you need to work out wether he is just a friend who ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is extra-large and we're wondering... what's the average penis size?
Q. What is the average penis size? My boyfriend has a very large package and we were wondering what was average? This is so awkward but also when he goes all the way in I have a sharp pain but it also feels good. Why is this and is there any harm in ...
A. 25 October 2005: There is no harm in it just make sure you are well lubricated before you start having sex, it will get better. The average penis size can be anything between six to eight inches but sizes vary... (read in full...)
I can't believe I'd have to wait 2 more years to legally date the guy I'm interested in!
Q. I am 16 and have liked older guys since I was 13. I figured that it was just a phase and that eventually I would get over it, but I haven't even been interested in a guy my age in so long that I'm beginning to think that it's not just a phase. I...
A. 25 October 2005: Your too young for a guy of 29, if you wait two years the age gap wont seem to big, and if he likes you enough he will wait... (read in full...)
Should I quit my online flirting, even though neither of us takes it seriously?
Q. I want to know what others ppl's opinions are on flirting. I am a bit of a flirt and enjoy it, I have always been this way and always thought it was harmless unless you acted upon it. I play an online game with a male friend that my partner do...
A. 25 October 2005: If you care about your partner and he has told you that it upsets him then stop doing it. You just said yourself that its only a bit of fun so why ruin your relationship over it and risk upsetting your partner.
If you care about your partner ... (read in full...)
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