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writes: Dear cupid, I'm frustrated and annoyed and I need someones advice as to what i should do with my situation! I've been in a committed long distance gay relationship, and it has been hard for us both, however we have remained faithful to each other and want to be together, he has been under stress at work lately and with his situation and he has asked for some time and space to think, and think where he is going in life, and what he wants from life, his job, and personal relatioships.He has asked for some time to think, and now i dunno what to think? I haven't spoken with him for little over a week, and he emailed me saying that this is hard for us both, but we need this time, and to be patient. The first few days I was in pain, a week later, im angry. We have a mutual friend and when i ask this friend how he is, he says that he is ok and still receives emails from him, so he is emailing all of his friends except for me, I am left out, he is going out with friends, and i sit here wondering what happened, i want to send him a message so badly, but why does it hurt, and why doesn't he send me anything. He used to call me the love of his life and his angel, he hasn't even sms'd, called, nothing, I want to speak to him more than anything in this world, but I want to give him his space. he said that when he is ready he'll let he know? when is that? I 'm planning to go work in the same country as him for a few months, but I dunno what to do about our situation?After your partner asks for some space to think, when they eventually come round, do they still love you, do they still want you, or by having that space and time away from you do they realise that they where way too much into you? Am i stressing too much, or are there signs that I Am clearly not seeing? Do I wait? I want to wait? but the problem is, will he come back to me? the person that he once said that he wanted to marry?Is he wanting space to think about his life, to leave me.
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reader, Angel-lee +, writes (25 November 2005):
Tell him to make his decision and that you are worth more than to be kept waiting. Tell him that you love him more than anything but you are not going to be treated like a mug. Tell him to make a deicsion and that if his decision is still the same that you are walking away. You ARE worth more than this. I am sure you are a lovely bloke and than there is someone else out there for you who does appreciate you and wouldnt keep you waiting. I know that this is difficult but it will be worth it. Give him some space to think about what he wants, tell him that he has got 2 weeks to decide what he wants, dont argue about it, be stern with him. Dont phone him for two weeks after that, if he phones you dont answer or say that you cant talk for long because you have got plans. Kepp him on his toes and he will be all over you like a dog on heat! its time to turn the tables
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