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writes: Dear Cupid, please help, I have been in a relationship for 2 years. He says that I am paranoid all the time, but our relationship has changed on his part, he doesn't want to have sex with me, only when he wants it. He's not interested in me anymore. He says he loves me and that it's his problems but it's been going on for months now. I feel like hes not being honest with me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): Hun, you have yourself a very selfish guy there who is not respecting you. A relationship needs to be equally balnaced and loving on both sides. And he is not complying simply because he feels he does not need to. Don't allow this-start opening up and telling him-you won't tolerate being treated like a doormat. You have the right to expect this from him. It's tough being in a one sided relationship with a taker. It downgrades and demeans you as a person...makes you feel unappreciated. Speak up and start letting him know what you want and who knows..he may just respect you and give you that. Never afraid to be strong and be honest. If he doesn't comply, then the writing is on the wall-he doesn't care enough to respect you and love you properly. Move on from this guy and find someone more worthy of you. Good luck.
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reader, love hurts but its great! +, writes (31 October 2005):
if i was you i would get him to sit down and talk to you and explain what the problem is. if he wont listen you need to ask yourself if he is worth it if he wont respect your wishes anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): dear liz, i feel as if the man that you're with is losing interest not because of you but because he's a man. I'm not saying that all men are like this. It's just what I'm getting from you is that he is having his way with you, he's over powering you, taking control. This ofcourse is a big problem so don't let him do it. Explain your problem to him, talk to him and if he doesn't understand give him some of his own treatment. This may sound vindictive but do to him what he does to you and soon he should realise what he's doing is wrong. If he doesn't then maybe you should rethink your relationship. Honesty is very important in relationships don't let him take that away.
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reader, Topps +, writes (31 October 2005):
I think you have answered you own question, he is not interested anymore, he probably loves you, 2 years is a long time, but not 'in love' with you. Let him go and stop hurting yourself
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reader, Angel-lee +, writes (31 October 2005):
Tell him how you feel, if things dont change then tell him you have had enough and walk away, chances are he will come back running. It will be hard but the only way to deal with this situation is to do something about it now, dont let it go on any longer, this is your life and your wasting it by being with someone who isnt showing you that they love you. Talk it through with him and tell him that if things dont change then you will leave, if things dont change, follow what you have said through and dont phone him for a couple of weeks, this will give you both some time and space to think about what you both really want. If he comes back lay down the rules. Dont waste anymore of your life worrying about something that could be sorted out so quickly, take my advise and put him in his place.
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