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writes: Hello Cupid,Ok. My boyfriend split with me a couple of months ago. I found out he snogged another girl whilst on a stag do and he said he had been unsure of his feelings for me for about a year. He then went on to meet up with the girl he snogged on the stag do which made me feel awful!!I am 25 he is 26 we had been together nearly 3 years. So it was a shock, but I sensed things had not been right as he always acted so down, never wanted to take me out and spoke to me like dirt on many occasions.There is a very nice side to him though which is very thoughtful but he just seems to get stressed very easily. My family didn't like him and most of my friends didn't either as he never used to bother coming out with my friends even though I did go out with his.I met someone else who I really like and things have become serious very quickly as I have never felt as strongly about anyone at the beginning of a relationship before and we just click. He makes me so happy. We are going skiing for new year together thats how well we get on!The ex has said he wants me back and I have been meeting him and meaning to tell him no its over for now. I have told him this but he still wants to meet and he gets so upset it makes me feel so bad. I guess I must remember he cheated and he split with me and I was so hurt its his own fault. He says things will change and he will treat me like a princess and he wants to marry me. He has said similar things before like things will change and they haven't ended up doing so! I think he is trying to make me feel sorry for him so I will take him back but it is confusing me. I think he may be also doing this as he doesn't want anyone else to have me as he knows I met someone else. What should I do?x
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reader, Angel-lee +, writes (25 November 2005):
If you dont want him back, tell him! he was the one who cheated on you so you have no reason to feel bad. He made his bed and unfortunately he has to lay in it. Its tough luck on his part really isnt it. To be honest its quite funny, men think they can walk in and out of our lives as they please and get away with murder but you have proved him wrong, tell him you are not interested and dont want to here from him anymore, the only way to stop this now is to hit the nail on the head and cut all ties. Also, you must tell you new partner what is going on because if things get nasty he knows that you tried your best to get him out of your life. Be honest with both of them, honesty is the best policy. good luck :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2005): No one knows for sure, any more than you do, so stop being confused as to whether you and this ex bf can ever build a strong relationship together. He has a very shaky, unreliable past history with you...it's a good indicator of what your future will be like, dear. But the fact that you're asking indicates that you have grave doubts. Aren't your feelings there to protect you? How can they do that if you don't listen to them? Go with your gut instincts and listen to that inner voice. It's there for a reason. Dump the ex bf and start afresh with the new guy. You will never have regrets! Good Luck and be strong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2005): If I was you, id advise end it with your ex- he had his chance with you and im sure you deserve better. Just be careful if things are getting serious quickly as well with your new bloke, remember you deserve the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2005): OMG...with slight differences..this question sounds just like what I'm going thorough. I would really like to hear an answer to this question myself
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