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writes:I went out to lunch with a guy that I'm just friends with(but have suspected that he has deeper feelings for me). He started to ask me all sorts of questions, mainly about where I was going to find the guy of my dreams, and that prince charming wasnt going to knock on my door. Then he said that if I still wasnt in a relationship by 5 years time that I was going to be unhappy. I am in my mid 20's and he is 44.The whole time the conversation took place he was looking at me romantically and staring deeply into my eyes. He has always been a little shy and would never say it up front (that he wanted to be more than friends). Do you think that this was his way of telling me that he was into me?
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reader, Groove +, writes (27 October 2005):
I think you know the answer to this question but just need someone else to confirm it for you. There might be other possibilities of course, but if he isn't interested, this could be construed as very strange behaviour. Consider the possibilities - is he just a very close friend who cares a lot about you? Well would you tell a close friend that they must find Mr. Right or they will be very unhappy in five years? I think not. It is hardly a very reassuring or tactful thing to say unless you thought you could personally solve that problem for them! Maybe he is hinting that he is your answer.. I think the question is, are you interested in him that way? If not, you need to very carefully steer conversation away from your love life and make sure you don't mislead him in any way. I would be a little concerned about a 44 year old beating around the bush like that!
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reader, Angel-lee +, writes (27 October 2005):
I am in the same position! i also have a friend that i think is interested in me but i am also interested in him so i know the feeling. I think you know the answer to this one just as i do but you need to work out wether he is just a friend who likes to flirt or wether he does seriously like you more than that. I am trying to decide the same thing at the moment. Only you know wether he is truly interested in you but i would say he is from what you have said. If you need more answers why not ask him how he feels, he is your friend afterall. Atleast then you know the answer and you can decide what you want to do about it
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reader, emmylou +, writes (27 October 2005):
Yes, I do think that he was hinting that he likes you, especially if he was giving you that sort of eye contact and asking those of 'leading' questions! But, the question is, are you into him? Could you imagine him being more than a friend? Would you want a fling with him or does he have the potential to be something more committed? Think about what you want - not just what he wants. If you do think you're interested, why don't you suggest other activities that you could do together which may lead more to 'romance'? Dinner perhaps, instead of lunch? A trip to the cinema? You don't say how long or how well you know this man. With such an age gap and only having worked together - it really seems that you need to find out more about him more before you make any moves that might spoil your friendship. He's in his 40's - what's his past relationship history? has he got kids? Be aware of everything before - if - you decide to get involved. Good luck! hope this has been helpful. x
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reader, kelsta +, writes (27 October 2005):
Yes it seems that you are right, at 44 years old, a friend would normally encourage you to have fun and live your life before settling down, instead he is hinting that he is available and you should take the chance! If you are attracted to him in the same way then great... but if you are not then maybe you should hint that you are not interested in being anything else but friends. kelsta
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reader, Seratuki  +, writes (27 October 2005):
 That may well be....
Sounds to me like he was trying to find the right approuch so that he doesn't get rejected..
The question is...tho...how do you feel about HIM? the feelings must be 50/50 in order to work...so if you're into him, it's safe to say you could probably mention that you know he likes you...in a nice way..of course.
But if you desire nothing more than freindship...you would be best to let him know so that he doesn't approuch you..get hurt...and your freindship becomes awkward..
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