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writes: Ok. my boyfriend doesn't pressure me to have sex, we're rather content in our relationship, I'm VERY infatuated with him, but his friend and I are more in sync, I really have the hots for this friend, he understands me, he's hot and he's really sweet. I'm tempted to cheat with him, but I don't want to lose my guy, but at the same time, I don't want to let this guy go, HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, May +, writes (29 November 2005):
Don't go there!!! You will regret it I know been there done that. And I have had it done to me. Follow thissimple rule and you can't go wrong. Your friends bf is off bounds and so are your bfs friends.Trust me love at the expense of someone elses feelings won't last.
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reader, shania  +, writes (29 November 2005):
 How much does your boyfriend really mean to you? You sound yery young to me and at that sge there is so many distractions.Ok,you are happy with your present boyfriend,so why ruin everything for another person you are lusting for? It would be nice if jealousy didnt exist and you could have as many boyfriends as you like but how would you feel if your boyfriend was lusting after some other girl? Would you like that? Maybe you feel that you dont want to be tied down and thats understandable,but it would be such a shame to throw it all away on this other guy,how do you know its just sex he wants you for? Then when he is finished with you,the chances are,you will be left with nothing.Its up to you but think very carefully,the consequences might not seem that appealing after all.
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reader, Angel-lee +, writes (29 November 2005):
I am in the same position, i fancy the pants off of my boyfriends friend, he is gorgeous! we see him alot because he has lots of mates who are also my friends whom i get on very well with but i really like him, alot, i know exactly how your feeling but what you have to ask yourself is, is cheating with this guy really worth losing your man over? because thats what will happen, believe me people always find out. I am in the same position and i often find myself flirting with him in front of my boyfriend, my boyf doesnt notice because he knows that were all mates. Just think this through carefully before you take any major steps, if you love your boyfriend then tempation wont make you stray. I know that lust sometimes gets the better of us but you have to think about who is more important, your boyfriend or what YOU want. Dont feel guilty because its normal to have these types of thoughts, if you didnt then you certainly wouldnt be normal.Think it through before you go any further, is it really worth it? i know its eating away at you coz i am in the same position but you need to say to yourself, stop! i know you cant switch feelings off but you can take control!
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