I want to divorce my husband because he changes his mind all the time about plans he makes
Q. My husband has a son and wanted to join the military. So we made all these plans to move and pack everything. Before getting swore in he backed out of joining. I was upset because I told my job I was leaving and my family. For months my husban...
A. 28 September 2021: "I can’t take it anymore I want to divorce him because of it." ok looks like you've made up your mind. Youre young you can remarry and be happier, go for it, but like someone else said be a little more discerning next time. ... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex keeps showing up at our house
Q. I've been dating my fiancee for 7 years now and things have been good. We got engaged November 2019, but delayed the wedding to mid-2022 due to covid. No exes to worry about, no drama, until now. Her ex-husband from 14 years ago when she lived...
A. 28 September 2021: File a restraining order ASAP! ... (read in full...)
Is he freaking out about becoming a dad?
Q. Hi there. I am 26 and my partner is 25. We have been together for the last five years. We got engaged two years ago, our wedding was postponed due to covid from April this year to April next. We always talked about trying for children once we got ...
A. 28 September 2021: I think you should be worried about yourself, your life will change WAY more than his. Good luck I wish you a safe delivery.
"he feels he may lose his friends once he becomes a dad." I think that's just about it and it's normal. Ask him how he f... (read in full...)
My husband was very secretive about applying for a new job and now wants to uproot the whole family
Q. I'm writing in because I don't know how to cope with this situation, despite my job. I'm a social worker in my 40s, with a 13-year-old daughter, and I've been with my husband since he was 22, but married since we were 26. We live in Texas, bu...
A. 28 September 2021: I had a friend who worked in DIsney for a couple of years, while he was a college student, the pay was VERY LOW ( 9 to 11 dollars per hour depending on the role), his coworkers were mainly in their 20s and from other countries and working there to ... (read in full...)
How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to?
Q. How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to? How can there be any proper communication? I'm married for 4 years and at first he didn't mind questions. I'm talking basic questions not silly or uncalled for questions. Exa...
A. 28 September 2021: We need more back story, is he grumpy, does he have a job where he needs to be foccused all the time? IDK like a taxi driver or something. DO you call and ask him where he is to keep tabs on him? I would be annoyed if my partner called me to ask me ... (read in full...)
What could make a man just walk out on his wife like that and move in with a young couple?
Q. I'm from South Dakota, but have lived in the Bronx for 13 years now, enjoy it here. It's not me who's got the problem in this question, but Mom. Mom told me the other day that Dad's just gone and left her, and left a handwritten note which sa...
A. 28 September 2021: Well like you said it doesn't seem like an affair he's just going to be their lodgger, have you contacted the police about his disapperance? I don't live in the US, but I know it's possible to track his location through credid card use and cellphone ... (read in full...)
My husband's family would not come to our wedding because I would not get vaccinated
Q. So, I married my partner of two years last weekend. His parents feel very strong about covid and the Vaccine. Before the vaccine was developed, I was allowed to be around his family. I chose to not get the vaccine and since then it has been so much ...
A. 13 September 2021: This goes to show that the experiments that demonstrated that "especially compliant (i.e., vaccinated) individuals showed less generosity toward nonvaccinated individuals" is true.
The conslusion was: "It is concluded that vaccination is a soci... (read in full...)
I don't find my husband attractive when he shaves his beard!
Q. When my husband shaves his beard I do not find him attractive at all. I have mentioned this to him and when he tries to kiss me and become affectionate I pull back because I do not like how he looks. He looks like another person when he has his ...
A. 10 September 2021: Same OP, I prefer my partner with a beard too, luckily I haven't seen him without it. He also prefers me with long hair but he would never talk me out of cutting it short because we respect each other's choices and preferences. UNfortunatelly you ... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of my husband's actions and feel stuck and desperate
Q. Dear cupid I am married to my current husband for past 3 years and we have known each other for about 6 years He often hangs out with his friends and crash in their place for about a day or two, this happened thrice in past 2 months. His car ...
A. 7 September 2021: "Sometimes it feels like he loves his friends more than me. He also did say friends are for life , but spouses may not be. __ Honestly IDK why some people put up with this clear disregard. Once you're married, your family comes first, SOME friends ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish that she organised this party knowing our wedding will only be a few days later?
Q. My partner and I are getting married in a few weeks time. His sister has organised a birthday party for her kids a few days before our wedding and invited 30 kids and lots of the guests who will be attending our wedding. We are worried that if one ...
A. 7 September 2021: Should his parents ( considering that they're old and even vaccinated older people are still dying ) go to either party? I don't think so. My neighboor was 64 fully vaccinated and in good health, died last week because he was moving and decided to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's new confidence is making me a little nervous
Q. This is probably going to sound really pathetic, but I’m really anxious that now my autistic boyfriend seems to have found his feet in the world and is more confident in himself he’s going to cheat or leave me for someone else. He’s just completely ...
A. 3 September 2021: Girl, I think you should work on your low self esteem, why do you think that he would leave you just because now he's apparently desirable to other people and not so shy, why wouldn't someone who's apparently desirable not want you back? You must ... (read in full...)
Is this being a tease?
Q. so I'm 14 i don't whant to have sex yet but I want to kiss and cuddle and some other things but I don't want to have sex is that being a tease ...
A. 3 September 2021: It's not being a tease, it's just the normal part of growing up and exploring, but I think you're right about not wanting to have sex at 14, for one boys your age are just disappointing,lets put it this way, and women coming from penetrative sex is ... (read in full...)
3 some gone bad
Q. my partner and i decided to have a threesome and i left it up to him to find someone. i find out the day before it is someone he was with previously. i thought i would be ok but when we got to the room we thought a few shots would help calm everyone ...
A. 3 September 2021: "my partner and i decided to have a threesome" Really? sounds like you were convinced to be their voyer in this case. I've nothng against threesomes BUT never ever in a relationship, in my experience, when men sugest it, it's generally with someone ... (read in full...)
I like this girl but I'm not ready for a serious commitment of any sort.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been seeing this girl for a 2ish years. When we first met we were both pretty adamant that marriage was off the table. I told her I didn't see myself marrying and we continued to see each other. She's slowly made passes about mov...
A. 3 September 2021: you two clearly have very different goals in life, be a decent person and break up with her because she wants to really share her life with someone and you're wasting her time. Casually dating is great but that's not what she wants, she probably ... (read in full...)
He claims he loves me but I really don't know if his love for me is based on what I provide for him
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. He claims he loves me but I really don't know if his love for me is based on what I provide for him. He bought some land and now needs financial assistance with it. O...
A. 31 August 2021: He's using you for money, yes! Dump him if you're not happy with that. He's not going to change, people like that, entitled brats who think the world owes them something are no worth wasting your time with.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I worked for same company. He got fired and is now pressuring me to quit
Q. Hello, I have been with my partner for almost two years, were engaged. I work for a pretty good company I actually got him hired were I worked. I have been with the company for 3 years. The company I work put me in a manager training class w...
A. 31 August 2021: He's clearly envious of your position, he thinks he's better and smarter than you but he's clearly not, or at least doesn't have the soft skills that you have. The company dumped him because they saw he's no good, when will you? This guy does NOT ... (read in full...)
Why would my partner want to leave his seven year old son suddenly?
Q. Why would my partner want to leave his seven year old son suddenly? I am lost because its been the plan to move to his city until his son was 18. He also, comments that he never wanted his son. He wanted his ex to get an abortion. My partne...
A. 31 August 2021: If his own child is so disposable to him, imagine a wife... He sounds very uncaring tbh. ". I was going to move to his city that I hate. Just so we could be closer to his son." I would rethink this life plan if were you. "My partner, stat that he ... (read in full...)
I know his kids will come first and I wouldn’t want it any other way but where do I fit in?
Q. Can you aunts and uncles give me some advice on dating a man with kids? I’ve been dating a man for about two month, we both have a lot of work commitments due to the job we do so this gives little time to meet up. He also has two children to diff...
A. 31 August 2021: If he's busy with work and kids he'll mainly dedicate his "spare" time to you, which is somewhat small, but if there's a will there's a way, right? If he really likes you he'll make time for you. 2 months is still early days, if he's being carefull ... (read in full...)
I fear my long time boyfriend has a hidden iPhone that he uses to communicate with another woman but he keeps denying it. What do I do?
Q. Hi. I am hoping everyone here could provide me with some advice. I am very upset with my long time boyfriend and I am deciding on whether I need to continue this relationship. He and I have been living together for 3 months and together for 8 y...
A. 31 August 2021: If he's the cause of your anxiety and you don't trust him, why continue in this relationship? Do you know when google will answer you personally? Never, that's why he said that. He's ignoring you because that's what manipulative people do, he will ... (read in full...)
I want kids and he doesn't. Why is he so selfish?
Q. Good day everyone. I've met someone and loved him with my body and soul. His 47 and im 41. He has 3 kids and was never married. I have no kids.the guy has just told me that he doesn't need any kids. My problem is I'm so much inlobe with him ...
A. 31 August 2021: He is not selfish, he simply doesnt want to have more children, since he's already been there and done that. Maybe he knows he's not a good father or simply thinks it's not the best course of action in this time of his life. I'll be honest if I were ... (read in full...)
Interested in pursuing a relationship with woman who has an eight month old
Q. I want to pursue a relationship with a woman I met online who has an eight month old baby. We met last year and we were both looking for friends during the pandemic. We have a lot in common in terms of hobbies, political views, religion, etc. We ...
A. 9 August 2021: I think you should only be considering this after meeting her in person, you don't even know if you'd have good chemistry, if she's interested in you. The whole issue of a long distance relationship and the fact that she has a daughter is an after ... (read in full...)
I wanted to cuddle after sex but he just rolled over and went to sleep
Q. Hi, has anyone had this happen to them. I’ve being dating a man for about 6 weeks. I’ve only ever slept with him once and that night, after we slept together he just turned over and went to sleep. I’ve never experienced this before, I like a cuddle...
A. 9 August 2021: Tell him, he's not a mind reader, besides he barelly knows you, cuddling is more about affection, and in 6 weeks he's (maybe) attracted to you but doesnt have strong feelings for you yet... I've never cuddled with f-ck buddies and hook ups, I tried ... (read in full...)
Do men find women like me who don't gym or have toned bodies undesirable or not sexy enough?
Q. I am a 32 year old female. Of late I have been having issues accepting my body. I am 5'5" and weigh 63 kilos/ ~ 138 lbs. I watch what I eat and maintain my weight through walking regularly. I dont have washboard abs or a muscular body toned by gym. ...
A. 9 August 2021: "But I dont know which issue to address first- my perspective about my weight and relationships or my actual weight gain." I think you should work first on the reason why you're gaining weight, are you stressed and using food to cope? Maybe adress ... (read in full...)
I don't like that my 16 year old daughter is dating and having sex
Q. I’m struggling to deal with the fact that my daughter is having a sexual relationship, does anyone have any advice? She turned 16 in May and is legally allowed to but it doesn’t make me feel any better about it. I just feel like she’s rushing into ...
A. 23 July 2021: Goodness sex at that age is just not good... specially with a boy of similar age,but if you tell them that & they won't believe you.
"Is it the norm these days for people to just jump into bed" Yes, but let's be practical, you probably won't st... (read in full...)
I don't like that my current boyfriend was into threesomes
Q. My boyfriend recently admitted he's had a threesome in the past and I can't seem to look past it. It's just made me look at him in a completely different light now. I know everyone has a past but I can't help but feel embarrassed FOR HIM over it. ...
A. 23 July 2021: I'll be honest, I'm all for not caring about what people did in past relationships, but I draw the line If I find out that a boyfriend has been physically abusive towards other women in the past or was a bad parent, like never saw his kid then I ... (read in full...)
Childhood friend has turned into a bully
Q. I’ve had a childhood friend ask me for so many favors like borrow money but then can’t pay it back or takes months. Then he will take me out to eat only to charge it for me later by saying he owes me less. He also told two people I was molested ...
A. 23 July 2021: I don't think he's really your friend AT ALL, maybe using you to get money, yes, but not your friend. Just cut contact, he's not a nice person by what you're telling us. ... (read in full...)
My husband's lack of affection towards our 12 year old son concerns me
Q. Hi guys, rights now I am just hurting for my eldest son. He just turned 12 and he has great resentment towards his father. My husband's father was never in his life until he was an adult. I believe it was when he turned 42 years old is when they ...
A. 23 July 2021: "I am a woman, I can't teach my son how to be a man" You can teach him how to be a decent human being though, teaching compassion, kindness, generosity, how to be affectionate, those are all universal things that every human being should be taugh. ... (read in full...)
We got together with another couple for lunch and all they do is talk. They don't let my husband or I speak. How do we handle this?
Q. Hi. My husband has an old friend back from his university days. Recently with the Covid restrictions lifting, we have gone to breakfast with him. The first time, he was on his own and the second he brought his wife. I have found to not have much...
A. 23 July 2021: " I don't really feel the need to get together with them again as I did not enjoy their company." Then don't, this isn't paying taxes, it's not mandatory. Make up some excuse next time and don't go. My patner has friends I have nothing in commmon, ... (read in full...)
How can I be a stepmom if I can't be a wife first?
Q. I'm being thorough so that I can really just get to the bottom of resolving my stress with good advice. I've been with my current partner for 2 years, married for almost 1 year. His baby mom has caused a lot of drama since day one, though I've onl...
A. 23 July 2021: "While doing this, he's always getting hateful messages from his babymom calling me and my daughter names etc trying to start drama, threatening to walk through our house or have welfare checks done" That is very concerning, coupled with the fast ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has medical issues but doesn't want to medicate. This is causing problems
Q. Hi, I have written here before and got some really good advice, thank you ! So, my gf and I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year. Sometimes it's great, sometimes I want to run! I love her, I think she is a good person, a c...
A. 13 July 2021: Medication is not a panacea, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I suffered with anxiety ( and an ED) and one doctor wanted me to try meditation, exercise, good diet, less caffeine, first an that was good and all BUT nothing like the pills ... (read in full...)
I haven't seen my b/f in 2 months and he keeps making excuses
Q. My boyfriend keeps making excuses not to see me I haven't seen him for two months now he lives local he keeps saying he's busy with work. He takes 5 days to answer a text as well I want a relationship and it doesn't feel like one anymore. I get ...
A. 13 July 2021: "He takes 5 days to answer a text" that's very telling. one of these days I heard on the news about a local supermarket where the manager wanted the employee to quit but he couldn't actually fire the guy, the manager then would create all sorts of ... (read in full...)
How do I stop associating everything with my ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, How do I stop associating everything with my ex? It's kind of freaky how much everything reminds me of him. I don't want to be one of those people who get triggered by things even 5 years after the breakup. I want to be free of him. ...
A. 13 July 2021: This sort of thing really takes time, do you work? when I busy at work I tend to not thing about anything else and so I would advice you to get busy doing other things,
different things from the stuff you did together, maybe join a gym, or volu... (read in full...)
Cheater FWb
Q. Thank you for reading this.. I would like your opinions because I need to make a decsicion ….We have been friends w benefits for the last 3 years. I trusted him a lot we would see each other every weekend. It was pretty stable. Until last month ...
A. 13 July 2021: I disagree that having a FWB is a waste of time for a woman, it's only a waste of time if the sex is bad.It's a misconception that everytime a woman wants to have sex in fact she wants affection or a relationship. I think in this sort of arrangement ... (read in full...)
I need to let go but I don't know how
Q. How do I get over this guy (essentially a super attractive "Nazi")? (This is kind of a way for me to vent to gain some clarity, so it will sound a bit like a monologue). I've known this guy only online, for just over 6 months. We separated due ...
A. 13 July 2021: Have you really known this guy as in met in person or just talked online? Just from what you're telling it seems like he's into the whole n... thing, which in itself is VERY concerning, as it is a crime in some countries; do you really want to be ... (read in full...)
Former co-worker wants a recommendation to work at my work place. I don't want to give it
Q. 2 years ago I worked with this woman who unfortunately was very lazy. She’d come in late and leave early. Constantly taking sick days when she was fine and was very argumentative. She has lots of verbal warnings too and had the company ...
A. 13 July 2021: I would tell your manager that she has applied and is asking for a recommendation but you can't give because of such and such, as to her message I wouldn't bother replying, if she's not really your friend just ignore it, or say that you're not in a ... (read in full...)
The man I'm going to marry still wears his deceased wife's rings around his neck. How do I approach this subject?
Q. Ok so this may be a difficult one… I’m getting married next summer (provided there isn’t another sodding pandemic). My husband-to-be is a really wonderful man and I’m so lucky to have him. However… He still wears his and his first wife’s w...
A. 10 July 2021: I'm so happy for you OP, you seem to have found a good one & you too seem like a lovely undertanding person, so I'm sure this talk will go down well, you've received such great advice already but I'll just add my 2 cents and say that I don't think ... (read in full...)
Why does he look at me when touching my breasts
Q. Quick question. My boyfriend loves to play with my breasts and I sometimes wondered why he keeps looking at me when he touched my breasts. And I feel embarrassed when he looks at me. Every time I tell him not to look at me, he just smiled and will ...
A. 10 July 2021: I think it's a case of him liking being the one bringing you pleasure and he likes to watch your face more than actually looking at your body parts. I hope you moan because you like it, if he's doing something that's not good, SAY IT, be vocal about ... (read in full...)
Unemployed boyfriend expects me to take care of him and pay his bills
Q. Thanks for listening! So, my fiancee and I have been together about 2 years. He is currently unemployed no fault of his own and looking for employment. However, he acts like I should be paying for everything. I don't mind helping out some...
A. 10 July 2021: Do you live together? If you live together the bills you're paying are for utilities and rent for both of you? if so I would kind of undertand you having to pay it all because you also live there( but at the same time I would evaluate whether he was ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was raised to believe men are superior. It causes problem in our relationship
Q. Hello A bit of history. My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. We have different cultures, different religions, and were interracial. At times it is challenging. I respect his culture but sometimes I do get a bit frustrated with ...
A. 6 July 2021: Girl, honestly I don't know how you can go on in a relationship where the other person doesn't think you are his equal. I think you really should think hard and long about what kind of future you're going to have in this relationship, if you dont ... (read in full...)
Engaged to someone new, but still thinking of my Ex!
Q. Dear Cupids, I have been engaged to my boyfriend of 1 year for a month now. He is great, kind, loving, romantic, hard working etc. etc. of course with a few shortcomings that we all have. Recently though, I have become obsessed with thoughts o...
A. 6 July 2021: I think we all wonder what might've been and tend to gloss over the bad things in past relationships but remember why you broke up with him. You probably just like the attention, I get it everybody likes to feel wanted and sometimes our current ... (read in full...)
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